- Sep 20, 2006
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Mods please do not lock, ATTEMPTING to have a mature conversation about this.
Ok, met a chick on OKCupid actually..she is in there in the "Can I hit loser 6" thread.
We start talking, she is cool as hell, gets my sense of humor blah, blah.
Naturally, we discuss sex. She proceeds to tell me how she is very much into BDSM, and..that she prefers to be the sub, or slave. Kinda
right?
She expounds: states how much of a turn on it is for her to be called a +$#!% and names like that and to be slapped around and dinged up????
I dated a chick for over 2 years, I was in love - whatever. That was the best sex ever, nothing compares to "making love".
Ever since then, my world of sex has darkened. I've had a stint with this kind of stuff.
The last girl I was with asked me to call her a *!$% and frequently would tell me to slap her in the face. Made me feel pretty weird but like humans do, I adapted.
Also, being human, feelings grew. Derived not from me, but from her...how do you expect me to treat you like a piece of $!+% night after night, demean you and totally destroy you both physically and psychologically, and then forget all of that stuff and then love and respect you as well??
The mind of these kinds of chicks is just
.
I am setting myself up for another failure, but the kinky sex seems worth it at this point.
Anyone with insight/experience/stories...or just want to discuss the psychology of this?
The chick said that is the biggest factor for her, the psychological aspect of feeling like a slave.
Ok, met a chick on OKCupid actually..she is in there in the "Can I hit loser 6" thread.
We start talking, she is cool as hell, gets my sense of humor blah, blah.
Naturally, we discuss sex. She proceeds to tell me how she is very much into BDSM, and..that she prefers to be the sub, or slave. Kinda
She expounds: states how much of a turn on it is for her to be called a +$#!% and names like that and to be slapped around and dinged up????
I dated a chick for over 2 years, I was in love - whatever. That was the best sex ever, nothing compares to "making love".
Ever since then, my world of sex has darkened. I've had a stint with this kind of stuff.
The last girl I was with asked me to call her a *!$% and frequently would tell me to slap her in the face. Made me feel pretty weird but like humans do, I adapted.
Also, being human, feelings grew. Derived not from me, but from her...how do you expect me to treat you like a piece of $!+% night after night, demean you and totally destroy you both physically and psychologically, and then forget all of that stuff and then love and respect you as well??
The mind of these kinds of chicks is just
I am setting myself up for another failure, but the kinky sex seems worth it at this point.
Anyone with insight/experience/stories...or just want to discuss the psychology of this?
The chick said that is the biggest factor for her, the psychological aspect of feeling like a slave.
