Black Culture Discussion Thread

[finessence]

Again, social media has made it OK to embarrass themselves. I’ve had a few “tender” _____ homeboys who have let women use and gank them. I let them learn the hard way. Then, they get mad and want to curse the woman out and call her all types of names. Like bro, you allowed her to use you

I’ve always been that person who minds my business. I don’t give advice. That’s just my modus operandi

 

[tokes99]

Discernment is REAL. If you’re at certain ages and still getting swindled by certain people, that’s on you

… if you don’t have people/relationships figured out by a certain age (not even just romantic relationships) business relationships, work relationships, etc.

STOP PUTTING YOUR BUSINESS ON FRONT STREET, is how I grew up. Posting all on social media, people are laughing at you, not being empathetic.

I once told a woman to keep people out of our business, they’re laughing at you, not with you.

having discernment & ‘needing’ or ‘wanting’ advice are not mutually exclusive…again i’m not really sure what you mean by referencing age, as if there is a cutoff age to learning and/or growing…this is somewhat of an aside but folk that think they can’t be fooled are often the easiest to get over on, all it takes is right set of circumstance

your ‘posting what you have going on’ social media angle is just a sidebar convo because that has nothing to do with the having genuine counsel from people or a person you respect, the decision part is somewhat separate from advice part

what gives these so called ‘gurus’ the run that they have is yes folk’s confirmation bias, their experiences or perspectives on what they see align. for example there is a guy who has been going ‘viral’ for not much more than being very tall & attractive to women, social media exposes the lie women tell when they say these things don’t factor/matter (same when men say they prefer ‘natural’ women, yet the women getting the attention are these manufactured ladies); like those who are & are not these things are not out in the world. what hurts those that try to combat the narratives these man are able to tell is that most are either unwilling or begrudging about the some of the unfortunate realities about all relationships, dismissive of the things that folk see with their own eyes

 

[finessence]

1) Bro, manufacturered women do not get “all the attention”

2) the average male or female is JADED because they put relationships or the opposite sex over THEMSELVES. They either never learned, or never cared about putting themselves first. I’ve seen it first hand.

3) if you’re in your late 20s, 30s, 40s, etc with SEVERAL failed relationships, you need to start looking within and looking at yourself.

4) let’s say most people start dating at 15/16, by the time you’re 25+, you should kind of have an understanding of what you want. (Which is why I mentioned #2)

Again, if you’re out here just being friendly to every male or female that makes a pass at you, not vetting, or not doing your homework on that person or asking questions, that’s on YOU

People just make EXCUSES when they get to an advanced age and realize that they were “easy” and gave any and everyone a chance. They end up lonely and miserable because of their own actions.

What type of “advice” can a 30, 40 or 50 something receive, at such advanced ages? At that point, they’re the problem and they need to do some deep soul searching and self evaluation. People love to point and blame, but in all actuality, they’re the problem