Black Culture Discussion Thread

[WASHED KING]

You forgot black folks had a hand in folk, country, and blue grass???

You forgot that we’ve been doing tribal and line dances on the motherland?

You’re unaware that we did line and communal dances at our juke joints and saloons as well???

Po feller

First cowboys were black

But I get criticized up here for my love of cowboy boots

 

[tr1ll]

My point exactly.

 

[finessence]

First cowboys were black

But I get criticized up here for my love of cowboy boots

 

[finessence]

My point exactly.

Bruh, it’s “OK” to not know

 

[tr1ll]

You forgot black folks had a hand in folk, country, and bluegrass music?????

You forgot that we’ve been doing tribal and line dances welllllll before we ever left the motherland?

You’re unaware that we did line and communal dances at our juke joints and saloons as well???

Po feller

Damn, some of ya’ll don’t be knowing nothing. I actually kind of feel bad for you guys sometimes

So let me get this straight Filipino's got the tribal dances from black folks. What about Maroi? If we're going the line dances = tribal dances then no one "started" it because all the tribes had one even the white folk. Now we stretching and reaching. We don't need that anymore. Thats what I mean be getting romantic.

 

[finessence]

So let me get this straight Filipino's got the tribal dances from black folks. What about Maroi? If we're going the line dances = tribal dances then no one "started" it because all the tribes had one even the white folk. Now we stretching and reaching. We don't need that anymore. Thats what I mean be getting romantic.

… wellllll aware that many cultures across the globe do tribal dances…

But YOU just tried to give white folks credit for line dancing in America.

Which we’d feel RIGHT at home with, because we had a part in it.

Again, it’s OK to be false

I’m “reaching” but you reached and tried to give them credit for country and line dancing. C’mon dawg

 

[tr1ll]

… wellllll aware that many cultures across the globe do tribal dances…

But YOU just tried to give white folks credit for line dancing in America.

Which we’d feel RIGHT at home with, because we had a part in it.

Again, it’s OK to be false

I’m “reaching” but you reached and tried to give them credit for country and line dancing. C’mon dawg

Naw bro I think you missed the point I was making about line dancing, but now that we're here, I have to ask, when was the last time you was in a country bar?

 

[finessence]

Naw bro I think you missed the point I was making about line dancing, but now that we're here, I have to ask, when was the last time you was in a country bar?

When was the last time? NEVER. I’ve never been in one a “first” time. That ain’t my type of Atmosphere

Closest I got was at the Tortuga Festival when I worked on Fort Lauderdale Beach

 

[tr1ll]

When was the last time? NEVER. I’ve never been in one a “first” time. That ain’t my type of Atmosphere

Closest I got was at the Tortuga Festival when I worked on Fort Lauderdale Beach

As is the case for most of us but if you were to go into a country bar.....in a non-sundown tow....and started hittin the Boot Scootin Boogie(idk if thats a dance ) a majority of them white folks are going to be cheering you on. That was my point, not who started what. I want to make a Rashad McCants joke but thats too far, that'd be disrespectful.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

 

[WASHED KING]

I was having this conversation with my girl the other day.

Non black people who watch/have watched The Boondocks miss a lot of the satire there and messages behind the jokes.

 

[finessence]

White folks really only think in political terms

 

[DCAllAfrican]

..

 

[TSCQ]

White folks really only think in political terms

and baseball. “Gotta make sure I cover all my bases”

 

[tokes99]

I was having this conversation with my girl the other day.

Non black people who watch/have watched The Boondocks miss a lot of the satire there and messages behind the jokes.

the satire was the basis of the strip/show, is it/would it be kinda inappropriate/side eye worthy for a person outside of a culture to laugh at the superficial joke not understanding the context of cultural satire?

 

[finessence]

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[DCAllAfrican]

 

[finessence]

Exactly. Women are so clueless and gullible at times. I let one of my friend girls talk to my grandfather and she came away from it saying “ohhh, he’s such a nice guy”

…. Meanwhile my grandfather is a womanizer, his wife (my step grandmother) was basically the breadwinner. He had severallllll other women on the side. He didn’t raise my mom, basically never did anything for her. Dude doesn’t respect women at all. He never has. But again….. fall for anything.

I said, you women don’t even realize that being “nice in the beginning/upfront is only a trick to lure you in”

 

[krider31]

I've never dealt with white girls before... but question for those who have... how do they operate in a dating relationship?

are they on the "the man better be paying bills, not going 50/50 etc" or are they more easy going...

 

[tokes99]

interesting take, a singular (black) woman fetishized/put him on a pedestal & he was so self loathing (or self aware if looked at favorably) that dismissed her then generalized that black women need to stop such behavior , tho i guess if he viewed it as disingenuous/insincere it is valid for that interaction…

Exactly. Women are so clueless and gullible at times. I let one of my friend girls talk to my grandfather and she came away from it saying “ohhh, he’s such a nice guy”

…. Meanwhile my grandfather is a womanizer, his wife (my step grandmother) was basically the breadwinner. He had severallllll other women on the side. He didn’t raise my mom, basically never did anything for her. Dude doesn’t respect women at all. He never has. But again….. fall for anything.

I said, you women don’t even realize that being “nice in the beginning/upfront is only a trick to lure you in”

a woman thinking your grandpa was nice in a single conversation(?) makes her clueless/gullible??

naw, women are way more tapped in then they let on…it’s just that they are more willing to let stuff slide where they:

1) actually like the guy
2) see there is a benefit

i think it’s women generally true that women tend to be much more discerning when it comes to men than men when it comes to women, especially when it comes to that real visceral attraction vs. attraction by ‘qualifications,’ and most women have been directing & fielding traffic & unsolicited advances from men since they were young…

I've never dealt with white girls before... but question for those who have... how do they operate in a dating relationship?

are they on the "the man better be paying bills, not going 50/50 etc" or are they more easy going...

patrice o’neal had a hilarious bit on this basically saying the difference w/white women is just that the problems (insults to your concept of manhood, the nagging, passive aggressiveness) just come on the back end whereas as black women are just aggressive aggressive on the front end

honestly i believe irrespective of ethnicity, women are women…yea there are cultural, ethnic, & familial overlays (which is why black men & women are the least married and most concerned with notion the ‘50/50’ or the proverbial ’table’ because they are less likely to have working examples of it) that impact how certain behavior & idea(l)s manifest but ultimately it is up to individuals to decide who they get on with & how, especially these times where there are more theoretical options for not only mates but how we spend our time…then add on top of that men are generally more static & women tend to have seasons, folk really have to project how things could play out when they get together

 

[WASHED KING]

I've never dealt with white girls before... but question for those who have... how do they operate in a dating relationship?

are they on the "the man better be paying bills, not going 50/50 etc" or are they more easy going...

Me either (not for dating at least).

EYE am just curious for those who do pursue long term relationships with white women what happens when issues of race pop up? Do yall just ignore it?

 

[tr1ll]

Why do folks always go straight to relationships?

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Exactly. Women are so clueless and gullible at times. I let one of my friend girls talk to my grandfather and she came away from it saying “ohhh, he’s such a nice guy”

…. Meanwhile my grandfather is a womanizer, his wife (my step grandmother) was basically the breadwinner. He had severallllll other women on the side. He didn’t raise my mom, basically never did anything for her. Dude doesn’t respect women at all. He never has. But again….. fall for anything.

I said, you women don’t even realize that being “nice in the beginning/upfront is only a trick to lure you in”

Well I mean how was she supposed to gather all that about your grandfather from limited convo/interaction?

 

[finessence]

Well I mean how was she supposed to gather all that about your grandfather from limited convo/interaction?

No, that’s not my point. My point is how quick people accept things at FACE VALUE. Basically what the white man is saying. She’s 36. I’m 37. My grandfather is 77.

The basis of my story is that we all have a story, we all have a history. I don’t automatically look at someone and assume they’re nice, just off an initial reaction. Which is what a lot of people do.

Chances are, a 30, 40, 50, 60, 70+ person has an extensive history and life experience. Not even basing it off relationships.

I’m just saying, we all may have dirt, pasts, etc and just to assume a 77 year old man is “nice” because he told you what you wanted to hear is naive IMO

 

[finessence]

a woman thinking your grandpa was nice in a single conversation(?) makes her clueless/gullible??

naw, women are way more tapped in then they let on…it’s just that they are more willing to let stuff slide where they:

1) actually like the guy
2) see there is a benefit

“Liking” someone isn’t going to pay the bills or keep the water on. “Liking” someone, isn’t going to make them pay the mortgage or raise the kids.

…. Where’s the benefit?

How is there a benefit in liking someone again, if all the daily and tangible needs aren’t met? That’s where people fall short in life

I disagree with that discerning part. Men and women BOTH make equally good and bad decisions.

I know a woman who talks down on her baby’s father. He had a kid before they got together. I asked her “Did he take care or nurture the previous kid?”

… she was hush mouthed. Couldn’t say a word. I basically said if he wasn’t active with his first kid, what made you think he’d be active with yours? What made you think he’d treat yours any different?

We all know most people will tolerate more from someone they’re attracted to. But after a while, looks fade, business still has to be handled.

“Looks”, “love” or “liking” someone, again, as I stated above isn’t going to keep the water running, or food on the table. There has to be more to it