College Advice

[speakup23]

I will probably get a lot of %$$# over this but I really need some advice.

But yea Ive been depressed ever since I was in the 7th grade and it has always had a huge affect on most aspects of my life. Especially school.

Now Im a sophomore in college. Pretty much 70% of last last year and 80% of this year its been really bad and my grades were affected by it. Especially since I transferred to a new school. Last semester I had a GPA of 1.9 and this semester isnt going any better either. So finally Ive decided to try to get some help to get over my depression and I talked/talking to a couselor at my school.

She gave me an option of allowing me to get a Late Withdrawal from my classes so that my transcript wouldnt be further affected. I would lose all the money ( My mother pays for school out of her own pocket), but my trasnscript wouldnt include my grades from this semester, which arent really good.

Now what Im asking you guys is if whether or not thats a good thing to do. And if you were someone like my mother who is paying out of pocket, would this seem like a load of BS or a valid reason? I dont want to seem as though I am using my depression (which she knows nothing about) as an excuse for my short coming in school. I know the importance of doing well, especially in this economy, and I want to do well. But its really difficult to do.

Once again should I go through with that? Or does this seem a like a load of BS to you guys?

Im sorry if Im not clear with my post. Ill clear anything up you guys dont understand. Thanks  

 

[jking0821]

Just ask your mom if its ok. Explain to her the situation. It's her money, she deserves an explanations if you decide to withdraw.

If it isn't a financial burden then id say do it.

If it is then don't. Just try extremely hard next semester to bring your gpa up.

It's really hard to do but its worth it to just sacrifice your personal life for school. When you graduate with a decent gpa and get a job you will not regret it. If you don't' get a job.....then you prob will regret it lol

 

[mht214]

Originally Posted by Jking0821

Just ask your mom if its ok. Explain to her the situation. It's her money, she deserves an explanations if you decide to withdraw.

  

This.
But, i think ultimately do it. I mean the whole purpose of going to school is to pass and do well. This is something your doing to achieve this.
Good Luck

 

[djprestige21]

College isn't the problem my man, you need to talk to a therapist and get your life back on track.

Find a good one, it will help.

 

[speakup23]

Originally Posted by DJprestige21

College isn't the problem my man, you need to talk to a therapist and get your life back on track.

Find a good one, it will help.

Yea I know. Ive let this go on for too long and Im finally out to try to get things together.

You cant build on a broken foundation right?

Thats another things I wanted to discuss with her, taking next semester off so that I can focus on getting my mind right.

My only issue is that I dont think she will understand and she will see this all as BS.

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

Yo OP do you go to QC?

But as far as advice wise, your lucky it's just your sophmore year...I say explain the situation to your mom in the best way you can and expect/handle the onslaught she'll send your way. You can't really argue with her in this situation just let her get at you and let it be...after that try and seek some sort of therapy or whatever you think is best to help you handle/cope.

You shouldn't be continuing college when your getting such low grades, get your mind right then come back to college. Maybe you don't like your major or the school or even the entire idea of going to college at all....I say figure that part out before you come back and see what alternative options you have.

GL.

 

[arsnalj23]

^^^ you don't think she might know you've been depressed all this time? I mean, she is your mother...

 

[speakup23]

Originally Posted by GrimlocK

Yo OP do you go to QC?

But as far as advice wise, your lucky it's just your sophmore year...I say explain the situation to your mom in the best way you can and expect/handle the onslaught she'll send your way. You can't really argue with her in this situation just let her get at you and let it be...after that try and seek some sort of therapy or whatever you think is best to help you handle/cope.

You shouldn't be continuing college when your getting such low grades, get your mind right then come back to college. Maybe you don't like your major or the school or even the entire idea of going to college at all....I say figure that part out before you come back and see what alternative options you have.

GL.

Yea thats me from the gym

Did you stop going?

And yea youre right. I really feel that I need time away. And dont get me wrong, I want to be in college, but at this point, whats the point if youre not gunna do well?

Originally Posted by ArsnalJ23

^^^ you don't think she might know you've been depressed all this time? I mean, she is your mother...

I honestly do not know. Like this past week Ive been completely out of it. Like I can easily say that this is the lowest point of my life and she thinks its just a slump. So idk if she knows.

 

[arsnalj23]

Like everyone else has said I'd definitely speak to her before you do anything, but regardless, your health comes first. She should understand, even if it's not right away.

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

Originally Posted by SpeakUp23

Originally Posted by GrimlocK

Yo OP do you go to QC?

But as far as advice wise, your lucky it's just your sophmore year...I say explain the situation to your mom in the best way you can and expect/handle the onslaught she'll send your way. You can't really argue with her in this situation just let her get at you and let it be...after that try and seek some sort of therapy or whatever you think is best to help you handle/cope.

You shouldn't be continuing college when your getting such low grades, get your mind right then come back to college. Maybe you don't like your major or the school or even the entire idea of going to college at all....I say figure that part out before you come back and see what alternative options you have.

GL.

Yea thats me from the gym

Did you stop going?

And yea youre right. I really feel that I need time away. And dont get me wrong, I want to be in college, but at this point, whats the point if youre not gunna do well? 

  

When midterms came around I could get to the gym, but i'm still going though.  Your right the point of college is to get good grades to show how much you have learned.  You should tell your mom you don't want to waste anymore of her money until you can get over what your going through and that it's the responsible thing to do at the moment as her son.  plus as grad school is concerned they look at the last 2 years a bit more so if you come back with the right intentions and just bust %!% with the grades it would look better than you sticking it out in college and still getting low grades.  Seriously take the time out and do a self-evaluation, get the help and figure out your options after that.

 

[speakup23]

Thanks for everyones help and input.

I think I'm definitely gunna go through with this. I feel it's something that I really have to do.

 

[beh235]

I'm not trying to be funny, but I think this problem is bigger than NT

 

[luxurious24]

Yo man i went through something quite similar in my sophomore year as well. I was real depressed at one point and wasnt into school at all because i couldnt focus. Ithought about just droppin out cause I just couldnt get it together. After a while i went to my school's psychologist, after speakin with her man i just was aware of all the things in my life that had me feeling like that and I just realized that dealing with things like that was normal, but the way I was going about dealing with it wasnt. I dropped only the classes that i knew i couldnt pass, everything else i jus took the D or C. But see I could afford that where I live they dont look at your gpa like that, they just care if you got a degree, but wit u its different so I'd say jus start a fresh, drop them and take the loss.

 

[raburns04]

Withdraw, especially if you plan to be back for the next semester. With those grades, you'll be on probation. If you can't things addressed in the next term, you may find yourself suspended.

If you do plan to take some time off to really get yourself in emotional shape for college, you can take the 1.9 and at leat have the credits.

 

[werunsf]

iiight bro dont keep putting urself down cuz that adds to the drama. Alto of people go thru this but unlike you, dont have the balls to mention or say anything about it. Props to ou for getting some help because that will help ou out in the long run. IMO its not bs because it will help your GPA in the long run but youll take this whole year as an L. uhmm not to jusdge you but your parents sound like my parents (ASIAN PARENTS FTL). real talk this is college and you are the only one standing between you and that dipoloma. Get help for yourself and get that stupid @+@ paper that says you made it in life. GOOD LUCK BRO

 

[speakup23]

Once again props to everyone who replied. You guys really made me feel better about this. All I gotta do is man up and tell my mother. Thats the only thing holding me back right now.

 

[trapmuzik617]

Yo man i'm in the same exact situation as you. First talk to your mom. If she's ok wit that then you should do the late withdrawal and continue gettin help for your depression. I wish i would have done the academic withdrawal earlier cuz it would help my situation. As long as your mom is fine with it, go ahead. But you HAVE to buckle down next semester.

 

[speakup23]

^ yea dude, once I get out of this mind state Im 100% positive I can do really well. Before I got like this, I did really well in school.

But what do you guys think? What if my mother is not ok with any of this? Hypothetically speaking. Should I just go through with it anyways, regardless of what she says?

 

[th3ownly]

okay your mom is paying for school i would just explain to her that you cant have this low of a gpa again on your transcript hopefully she will agree with you. You need to explain to her that next year you will receive excellent grades and work on bringing your gpa up so that the investment that she is making is not a bad one. Essentially that is what she is doing making an investment in you.

 

[raptors29]

Depression is tough. Talk to a real psychiatrist/psychologist and see what they can do. Most likely get put on anti-depressants.

 

[1000xcartel]

Hey man im kind of in the same situation as you... How do you feel when depressed, like what do you think about

 

[speakup23]

Originally Posted by 1000xCartel

Hey man im kind of in the same situation as you... How do you feel when depressed, like what do you think about

A whole lot of things man. Its like a different set of things every single day no lie.

But the main things are self confidence/ self esteem issues, feelings of self worthlessness, how I feel as though Im a failure. The list goes on. Things like that control my mind all day everyday. Especially when Im alone which is most of the time.

 

[speakup23]

Well she didnt agree with me, so I am so !!#+%+

 

[loveofthegame916]

i really think you need to go through with this homes...you in your right frame of mind is more important than anything else. without that its unlikely that you'll go anywhere as your finding out now the hard way. i hope you can get through this and if you need to talk to anyone you can PM me(no penny) cuz we NT famo. Peace

 

[stillatit]

Originally Posted by SpeakUp23

Originally Posted by 1000xCartel

Hey man im kind of in the same situation as you... How do you feel when depressed, like what do you think about

A whole lot of things man. Its like a different set of things every single day no lie.

But the main things are self confidence/ self esteem issues, feelings of self worthlessness, how I feel as though Im a failure. The list goes on. Things like that control my mind all day everyday. Especially when Im alone which is most of the time.

You're describing me to a tee right now. Except I did the dummy and stopped goin to class. 

. And I was already on probation since I had to withdraw from everything 1st semester after I got sick. As you can see my freshman year hasn't been too successful.