iblink
Banned
- Apr 23, 2008
- 6,497
- 468
Tell me how, because this isn't working for me. Could be losing someone who's been a huge part of my life. She's getting old. Never been in this predicament before.
iblink
Banned
- Apr 23, 2008
- 6,497
- 468
Tell me how, because this isn't working for me. Could be losing someone who's been a huge part of my life. She's getting old. Never been in this predicament before.
- Mar 16, 2010
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In the same situation right now except she's really young
. I'd like some advice too
- Mar 16, 2010
- 188,975
- 261,281
In the same situation right now except she's really young
. I'd like some advice too
Gill Baka Esq. LLC.
formerly grimlock
- Sep 28, 2008
- 10,720
- 1,527
Death is a natural part of life/Life is a natural part of death.
Understand that while someone close to you is dying that you were able to spend a considerable amount of time with them...and when I say considerable I don't mean just length of time I mean quality time as well.
Everyone with loved ones will have to eventually go through this so your not alone. Whatever time you have left with that person, you should keep death as far away from your mind as possible, it will only serve to dilute your present time with them. Reminisce, joke around, talk about anything else besides death because if you put the focus on someones death before they die, are you really gonna think of the times they lived afterwards? seems kinda backwards.
While death will always linger in the back of our minds, the more we learn to forget about it the more we learn to live. Worry about death after it comes, focus on life in the moment.
Understand that while someone close to you is dying that you were able to spend a considerable amount of time with them...and when I say considerable I don't mean just length of time I mean quality time as well.
Everyone with loved ones will have to eventually go through this so your not alone. Whatever time you have left with that person, you should keep death as far away from your mind as possible, it will only serve to dilute your present time with them. Reminisce, joke around, talk about anything else besides death because if you put the focus on someones death before they die, are you really gonna think of the times they lived afterwards? seems kinda backwards.
While death will always linger in the back of our minds, the more we learn to forget about it the more we learn to live. Worry about death after it comes, focus on life in the moment.
Gill Baka Esq. LLC.
formerly grimlock
- Sep 28, 2008
- 10,720
- 1,527
Death is a natural part of life/Life is a natural part of death.
Understand that while someone close to you is dying that you were able to spend a considerable amount of time with them...and when I say considerable I don't mean just length of time I mean quality time as well.
Everyone with loved ones will have to eventually go through this so your not alone. Whatever time you have left with that person, you should keep death as far away from your mind as possible, it will only serve to dilute your present time with them. Reminisce, joke around, talk about anything else besides death because if you put the focus on someones death before they die, are you really gonna think of the times they lived afterwards? seems kinda backwards.
While death will always linger in the back of our minds, the more we learn to forget about it the more we learn to live. Worry about death after it comes, focus on life in the moment.
Understand that while someone close to you is dying that you were able to spend a considerable amount of time with them...and when I say considerable I don't mean just length of time I mean quality time as well.
Everyone with loved ones will have to eventually go through this so your not alone. Whatever time you have left with that person, you should keep death as far away from your mind as possible, it will only serve to dilute your present time with them. Reminisce, joke around, talk about anything else besides death because if you put the focus on someones death before they die, are you really gonna think of the times they lived afterwards? seems kinda backwards.
While death will always linger in the back of our minds, the more we learn to forget about it the more we learn to live. Worry about death after it comes, focus on life in the moment.
- Mar 1, 2008
- 1,423
- 10
Soak in all positive energy they're about to leave with you, and make some great memories with the time that they have left, and think of the great memories y'all had before. After they pass away its okay to cry, but just remember that if you aren't happy your loved one isn't happy in their after life.
- Mar 1, 2008
- 1,423
- 10
Soak in all positive energy they're about to leave with you, and make some great memories with the time that they have left, and think of the great memories y'all had before. After they pass away its okay to cry, but just remember that if you aren't happy your loved one isn't happy in their after life.
- Dec 9, 1999
- 2,148
- 24
People cope with death in several diff.ways....they submerge themselves into work, find hobbies, drink/do drugs (which I dont recommend AT ALL), etc...
Personally, it's something you have to face head-on...deal with it, instead of ignoring it & trying to push it to the back of your mind. That doesn't do anything but break you down mentally. There's absolutely nothing wrong with crying. Too many men try not to, puttin up a front, and still deal w/it years later. I'm personally not a fan of doing anything I previously mentioned because when all the calls stop, when the friends leave & there's no housework to be done, you'll have to deal with it...sooner or later.
Focus on the good times you've had w/that person. Tell them you love them & say whatever you've got to say before it's too late. You don't want to live w/any regrets, and apologize for any harm you may have caused them (if you did).
Unfortunately, this is all something we'll have to deal with, which is why it's important we tell people that we love them & cherish them while they're still on earth...that way we can at LEAST take comfort in knowing that they knew how we felt about them.
Personally, it's something you have to face head-on...deal with it, instead of ignoring it & trying to push it to the back of your mind. That doesn't do anything but break you down mentally. There's absolutely nothing wrong with crying. Too many men try not to, puttin up a front, and still deal w/it years later. I'm personally not a fan of doing anything I previously mentioned because when all the calls stop, when the friends leave & there's no housework to be done, you'll have to deal with it...sooner or later.
Focus on the good times you've had w/that person. Tell them you love them & say whatever you've got to say before it's too late. You don't want to live w/any regrets, and apologize for any harm you may have caused them (if you did).
Unfortunately, this is all something we'll have to deal with, which is why it's important we tell people that we love them & cherish them while they're still on earth...that way we can at LEAST take comfort in knowing that they knew how we felt about them.
- Dec 9, 1999
- 2,148
- 24
People cope with death in several diff.ways....they submerge themselves into work, find hobbies, drink/do drugs (which I dont recommend AT ALL), etc...
Personally, it's something you have to face head-on...deal with it, instead of ignoring it & trying to push it to the back of your mind. That doesn't do anything but break you down mentally. There's absolutely nothing wrong with crying. Too many men try not to, puttin up a front, and still deal w/it years later. I'm personally not a fan of doing anything I previously mentioned because when all the calls stop, when the friends leave & there's no housework to be done, you'll have to deal with it...sooner or later.
Focus on the good times you've had w/that person. Tell them you love them & say whatever you've got to say before it's too late. You don't want to live w/any regrets, and apologize for any harm you may have caused them (if you did).
Unfortunately, this is all something we'll have to deal with, which is why it's important we tell people that we love them & cherish them while they're still on earth...that way we can at LEAST take comfort in knowing that they knew how we felt about them.
Personally, it's something you have to face head-on...deal with it, instead of ignoring it & trying to push it to the back of your mind. That doesn't do anything but break you down mentally. There's absolutely nothing wrong with crying. Too many men try not to, puttin up a front, and still deal w/it years later. I'm personally not a fan of doing anything I previously mentioned because when all the calls stop, when the friends leave & there's no housework to be done, you'll have to deal with it...sooner or later.
Focus on the good times you've had w/that person. Tell them you love them & say whatever you've got to say before it's too late. You don't want to live w/any regrets, and apologize for any harm you may have caused them (if you did).
Unfortunately, this is all something we'll have to deal with, which is why it's important we tell people that we love them & cherish them while they're still on earth...that way we can at LEAST take comfort in knowing that they knew how we felt about them.
- Mar 1, 2008
- 1,423
- 10
DP
- Mar 1, 2008
- 1,423
- 10
DP
hoosierdaddy282
Banned
- May 2, 2011
- 1,248
- 11
Well, I once called Cameron Nelson.... yup... HIM...right there. You'd be surprised how REAL Nters can be in times of need. Thanks Cam. I mean that.
hoosierdaddy282
Banned
- May 2, 2011
- 1,248
- 11
Well, I once called Cameron Nelson.... yup... HIM...right there. You'd be surprised how REAL Nters can be in times of need. Thanks Cam. I mean that.
- Feb 11, 2008
- 118,151
- 229,543
Agree with what's been posted already. Just let your emotions out, dont try to hold them in and keep the positive thoughts of their memory close in thought
Never been through anything as tough than the death of my father, I literally forced myself to cry everyday to the point I couldnt anymore I was so exhausted
It also helped for me that I had to be there for my mom and sisters who were dealing with this too. I wanted to show that I could be strong and they could lean on me during this time. Seeing their pain hurt worse than my own honestly
It's just something you have to take day by day bro, there's no set gameplan on dealing with it really
Never been through anything as tough than the death of my father, I literally forced myself to cry everyday to the point I couldnt anymore I was so exhausted
It also helped for me that I had to be there for my mom and sisters who were dealing with this too. I wanted to show that I could be strong and they could lean on me during this time. Seeing their pain hurt worse than my own honestly
It's just something you have to take day by day bro, there's no set gameplan on dealing with it really
- Feb 11, 2008
- 118,151
- 229,543
Agree with what's been posted already. Just let your emotions out, dont try to hold them in and keep the positive thoughts of their memory close in thought
Never been through anything as tough than the death of my father, I literally forced myself to cry everyday to the point I couldnt anymore I was so exhausted
It also helped for me that I had to be there for my mom and sisters who were dealing with this too. I wanted to show that I could be strong and they could lean on me during this time. Seeing their pain hurt worse than my own honestly
It's just something you have to take day by day bro, there's no set gameplan on dealing with it really
Never been through anything as tough than the death of my father, I literally forced myself to cry everyday to the point I couldnt anymore I was so exhausted
It also helped for me that I had to be there for my mom and sisters who were dealing with this too. I wanted to show that I could be strong and they could lean on me during this time. Seeing their pain hurt worse than my own honestly
It's just something you have to take day by day bro, there's no set gameplan on dealing with it really
- Dec 9, 1999
- 2,148
- 24
You're more than welcome bro...anytime you need me, I'll be there. Seriously.
- Dec 9, 1999
- 2,148
- 24
You're more than welcome bro...anytime you need me, I'll be there. Seriously.
iblink
Banned
- Apr 23, 2008
- 6,497
- 468
Appreciate that NT. You all always come through for a dude like we were family.
iblink
Banned
- Apr 23, 2008
- 6,497
- 468
Appreciate that NT. You all always come through for a dude like we were family.
- Mar 16, 2010
- 188,975
- 261,281
- Mar 16, 2010
- 188,975
- 261,281
hoosierdaddy282
Banned
- May 2, 2011
- 1,248
- 11
I already know man.. I actually remember everything outside of that hospital window to this day. Which is crazy, cuz I don't remember much of @%*# these days (
You're alright man.. you're alright as #@%! bro.
hoosierdaddy282
Banned
- May 2, 2011
- 1,248
- 11
I already know man.. I actually remember everything outside of that hospital window to this day. Which is crazy, cuz I don't remember much of @%*# these days (
You're alright man.. you're alright as #@%! bro.
- May 4, 2005
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im 28 and been to around 10-15 funerals all close friends and family...
