Did/would you celebrate Mothers Day for a gf?

[bedirtyrich]

Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?

 

[josednk1068]

Depends on how long you have been with said gf and the role you play in her and her/your childs life...

 

[mmg]

well i mean.


if shes acting mother to those kids, why not? if they've been together for awhile and shes in his kids lives and acts like a mother she should be acknowledged .


i say happy fathers day to my mother because she was both parents in my life, seeing how my father wasnt around and she more than made up for it

 

[BranchLifestyle]

LOL at crying over it though...

 

[sleaze jar omens]

is the mother active in the kids' lives?

 

[chickencurry4eva]

People who get upset over a lack of acknowledgement don't deserve to be acknowledged.

 

[josednk1068]

Originally Posted by ShadyKay NT

LOL at crying over it though...

I don't think that is funny, I think that may be a sign that she puts in a lot of work with the children and just wants to be recognized as a mother figure. But I guess there is some lulz to that...

  

 

[BranchLifestyle]

Originally Posted by Josednk1068

Originally Posted by ShadyKay NT

LOL at crying over it though...

I don't think that is funny, I think that may be a sign that she puts in a lot of work with the children and just wants to be recognized as a mother figure. But I guess there is some lulz to that...

  

Its hilarious. Makes it seem like she's doing all this good stuff for gifts and constant acknowledgement. What's genuine about expecting a gift/compliments on a specific day?
Oh, I guess the love this man shows her(possibly) and dinners he takes her out on isn't enough acknowledgement huh...

 

[upptempo8387]

Originally Posted by BeDirtyRich

Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?

That's all that really needs to be said..If she didn't live with him and just came by his crib once or twice a week, I could understand him not giving her at least a Mother's Day card.. But if she lives with him I would ASSUME they've been together for a decent amount of time..And most dudes don't like a chick around their kids a lot if they don't plan on being serious with her, so if he lets her live with him and she's always around his kids, he obviously feels that she could one day be their stepmother. A card is $5 tho..Dude didn't have to be a douche about it.


However, to play devil's advocate, maybe he didn't give her a gift because he didn't wanna put pressure on her to feel like she is officially the mother? Like, maybe she wants kids of her own in the future and might not end up married to this guy, so she wouldn't want him considering her their mom, and then she leaves and has kids of her own with her future bf/husband and now she won't have the joy of truly being a mother for the first time.

 

[mytmouse76]

MMG wrote:

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well i mean.


if shes acting mother to those kids, why not? if they've been together for awhile and shes in his kids lives and acts like a mother she should be acknowledged .


i say happy fathers day to my mother because she was both parents in my life, seeing how my father wasnt around and she more than made up for it

you just paged DC w/that

but if she is a constant in his kids lives and helps to take care of them it was very inconsiderate to not recognize that...

 

[josednk1068]

Originally Posted by ShadyKay NT

Originally Posted by Josednk1068

Originally Posted by ShadyKay NT

LOL at crying over it though...

I don't think that is funny, I think that may be a sign that she puts in a lot of work with the children and just wants to be recognized as a mother figure. But I guess there is some lulz to that...

  

Its hilarious. Makes it seem like she's doing all this good stuff for gifts and constant acknowledgement. What's genuine about expecting a gift/compliments on a specific day?
Oh, I guess the love this man shows her(possibly) and dinners he takes her out on isn't enough acknowledgement huh...

Mothers day is only one day of the year in the US right?

  

 

[runningfishy]

Originally Posted by BeDirtyRich

Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?

why she want baggages? if she does, she should carry some at the grocery.

 

[mytmouse76]

UPPTEMPO8387 wrote:

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BeDirtyRich wrote:

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Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?




That's all that really needs to be said..If she didn't live with him and just came by his crib once or twice a week, I could understand him not giving her at least a Mother's Day card.. But if she lives with him I would ASSUME they've been together for a decent amount of time..And most dudes don't like a chick around their kids a lot if they don't plan on being serious with her, so if he lets her live with him and she's always around his kids, he obviously feels that she could one day be their stepmother. A card is $5 tho..Dude didn't have to be a douche about it.


However, to play devil's advocate, maybe he didn't give her a gift because he didn't wanna put pressure on her to feel like she is officially the mother? Like, maybe she wants kids of her own in the future and might not end up married to this guy, so she wouldn't want him considering her their mom, and then she leaves and has kids of her own with her future bf/husband and now she won't have the joy of truly being a mother for the first time.

do men really think this deep?

   Its hilarious. Makes it seem like she's doing all this good stuff
for gifts and constant acknowledgement.
What's genuine about expecting a gift/compliments on a specific day?


Oh, I guess the love this man shows her(possibly) and dinners he takes her out on isn't enough
acknowledgement huh...



its one day and a simple thank you and card...i doubt she was asking for the world...

i see this turning into a valentines day/women don't appreciate !+@% thread...

 

[Animal Thug]

chickencurry4eva wrote:

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People who get upset over a lack of acknowledgement don't deserve to be acknowledged.


Seriously

 tell her to grow up or sign up for a social network for endless acknowledment.
  

 

[BranchLifestyle]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

UPPTEMPO8387 wrote:

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BeDirtyRich wrote:

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Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?

That's all that really needs to be said..If she didn't live with him and just came by his crib once or twice a week, I could understand him not giving her at least a Mother's Day card.. But if she lives with him I would ASSUME they've been together for a decent amount of time..And most dudes don't like a chick around their kids a lot if they don't plan on being serious with her, so if he lets her live with him and she's always around his kids, he obviously feels that she could one day be their stepmother. A card is $5 tho..Dude didn't have to be a douche about it.


However, to play devil's advocate, maybe he didn't give her a gift because he didn't wanna put pressure on her to feel like she is officially the mother? Like, maybe she wants kids of her own in the future and might not end up married to this guy, so she wouldn't want him considering her their mom, and then she leaves and has kids of her own with her future bf/husband and now she won't have the joy of truly being a mother for the first time.

do men really think this deep?

   Its hilarious. Makes it seem like she's doing all this good stuff
for gifts and constant acknowledgement.
What's genuine about expecting a gift/compliments on a specific day?


Oh, I guess the love this man shows her(possibly) and dinners he takes her out on isn't enough
acknowledgement huh...



its one day and a simple thank you and card...i doubt she was asking for the world...

i see this turning into a valentines day/women don't appreciate !+@% thread...

From the sounds of OP, she was crying her eyes out and was disturbed enough to call someone and vent her problems...

 

[retro23j]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

UPPTEMPO8387 wrote:

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BeDirtyRich wrote:

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Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?

That's all that really needs to be said..If she didn't live with him and just came by his crib once or twice a week, I could understand him not giving her at least a Mother's Day card.. But if she lives with him I would ASSUME they've been together for a decent amount of time..And most dudes don't like a chick around their kids a lot if they don't plan on being serious with her, so if he lets her live with him and she's always around his kids, he obviously feels that she could one day be their stepmother. A card is $5 tho..Dude didn't have to be a douche about it.


However, to play devil's advocate, maybe he didn't give her a gift because he didn't wanna put pressure on her to feel like she is officially the mother? Like, maybe she wants kids of her own in the future and might not end up married to this guy, so she wouldn't want him considering her their mom, and then she leaves and has kids of her own with her future bf/husband and now she won't have the joy of truly being a mother for the first time.

do men really think this deep?



Dunno about others but I do.

 

[dabottom305]

I would, especially if she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. She doesn't have to and she still does it.

 

[upptempo8387]

Originally Posted by Retro23J

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

UPPTEMPO8387 wrote:

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However, to play devil's advocate, maybe he didn't give her a gift because he didn't wanna put pressure on her to feel like she is officially the mother? Like, maybe she wants kids of her own in the future and might not end up married to this guy, so she wouldn't want him considering her their mom, and then she leaves and has kids of her own with her future bf/husband and now she won't have the joy of truly being a mother for the first time.

do men really think this deep?

Dunno about others but I do.

I would if I was in his situation. Unless I put a ring on her finger, I wouldn't wanna put that kind of pressure on someone I'm with. I don't have any kids, but my current girl of 3+ years loves kids and gets emotionally attached to people she loves, so I wouldn't want her feeling like she's the stepmother of my kids if I wasn't planning on being with her forever because I'd know once we broke up and she couldn't be around them anymore she'd be broken hearted and miserable not being able to see those kids anymore. However, I do consider my current girlfriend to be the one I spend my life with so if I did have kids, I would have no problem with her feeling like she's their stepmother, especially if she lived with us and was taking care of them when I wasn't around.

 

[lil black jean jacket]

I did last week & she's a single mother.....

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[bedirtyrich]

Originally Posted by Josednk1068

Originally Posted by ShadyKay NT

LOL at crying over it though...

I don't think that is funny, I think that may be a sign that she puts in a lot of work with the children and just wants to be recognized as a mother figure. But I guess there is some lulz to that...

  

I don't think its funny either, and yes everyone she is very active in their lives. I just don't think she deserves anything, she has a birthday. 

 

[bedirtyrich]

Originally Posted by UPPTEMPO8387

Originally Posted by BeDirtyRich

Just got off the phone with my friend who was apparently still crying from Sunday about how her boyfriend did not acknowledge her on Mothers day. Being as I had a pretty cool one, did not tell her my opinion on how can she demand gifts on that day when she is not a mom?

Her argument was decent though, she lives with a boyfriend who has children, claims she a a good "unofficial" Step mother to them. Saying how she cooks, cleans, takes them places etc. Nope their not married. She doesn't have any kids.

Anyway Just seeing if any of you guys would or did acknowledge your girlfriends who take care of YOUR kids.?

That's all that really needs to be said..If she didn't live with him and just came by his crib once or twice a week, I could understand him not giving her at least a Mother's Day card.. But if she lives with him I would ASSUME they've been together for a decent amount of time..And most dudes don't like a chick around their kids a lot if they don't plan on being serious with her, so if he lets her live with him and she's always around his kids, he obviously feels that she could one day be their stepmother. A card is $5 tho..Dude didn't have to be a douche about it.


However, to play devil's advocate, maybe he didn't give her a gift because he didn't wanna put pressure on her to feel like she is officially the mother? Like, maybe she wants kids of her own in the future and might not end up married to this guy, so she wouldn't want him considering her their mom, and then she leaves and has kids of her own with her future bf/husband and now she won't have the joy of truly being a mother for the first time.

The way you put it I see both sides of the story, especially since a card is $5.  Not diamonds or pearls but just a card would have been nice. well put.  Your devils advocate side is how im initially feeling,  because she does want kids of her own.  Because hes usually not such a jerk, or insensitive to leave her crying for days like this. 

 

[naturalylight]

I mean nothing says she deserves to be acknowledged if those aren't her kids on Mother's Day, HOWEVER me personally? If she was raising my kids and acting like a mother on an everyday basis? I would def show love on Mother's Day.

 

[mytmouse76]

Originally Posted by BeDirtyRich

Originally Posted by Josednk1068

Originally Posted by ShadyKay NT

LOL at crying over it though...

I don't think that is funny, I think that may be a sign that she puts in a lot of work with the children and just wants to be recognized as a mother figure. But I guess there is some lulz to that...

  

I don't think its funny either, and yes everyone she is very active in their lives. I just don't think she deserves anything, she has a birthday. 

thats not the same thing

 

[BranchLifestyle]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

Originally Posted by BeDirtyRich

Originally Posted by Josednk1068

I don't think that is funny, I think that may be a sign that she puts in a lot of work with the children and just wants to be recognized as a mother figure. But I guess there is some lulz to that...

  

I don't think its funny either, and yes everyone she is very active in their lives. I just don't think she deserves anything, she has a birthday. 

thats not the same thing

I guess a hug and a thank you won't suffice eh?

 

[pharelfor3]

Damn I can see her thought. How hard was it to take her to Applebees and give her a card