Do you allow yourself to cry?

[eye see soles]

If I were to cry for every time I should have or wanted to, I'd be able to fill up the Atlantic Ocean. Well, maybe more like a lake, but you get thepicture.

As a man, I shouldn't cry or show my emotion, except at those times where it's the norm for everyone to cry, e.g. funeral, wedding, birth of child,etc. But there have been times I've felt like crying because of things that had no great significance to anyone else but me, and maybe the thing or personthat made me cry.

Like this morning, my father is taking my nephews fishing, but the %*%!% didn't even dare to ask me. It's kinda $#$!*% up, and I should cry over it,but as usual it's just shrugged off as another L. I don't mind taking Ls, but I'm starting to mind holding this %!+% back.

Should I just let that %!+% all out? Is it bad for the soul to keep it all in?

 

[ballinamillion1]

I stopped showing emotion in that way a long time ago... Nothing wrong with crying I just see it as kinda soft

 

[kix4kix]

Always cry when you feel like it. Growing up with just my Father was a unique experience where I was not allowed to cry. I was baited into crying, and thenwhen I gave in my father would call me a girl, and told me to shut up. No child should go through that.

Thankfully my Mother was always a phone call away, and girlfriends became a shoulder for my sorrow. If you hold it all in it will kill you. Nothing feminineabout crying, when I cry it always feels amazing real talk. I hope I provided some mature advice you didn't expect on NT.

 

[baby jumpman]

^I don't think I would cry about that but I don't know the relationship you have with your dad. Also I tend to hold all my emotions in which people sayis even worse then just expressing how you feel.

 

[richkarlmarx]

no. act like a man always.
unless youre alone. thenn diff rules apply

 

[foamposite]

I havent cried since my mom said i was gettin an m3 after i graduate

 

[million dollar stacks]

I hardly ever cry, unless I'm high upset and that rarely happens.

@ me no emotions at all bruh.

 

[mangudai954]

Originally Posted by richKarlmarx

no. act like a man always.
unless youre alone. thenn diff rules apply

Yea because real men never cry..be real.

 

[c money 88 05]

Personally I don't allow myself to cry, I'm very emotional in my mind(maybe because I've held so much in it just swirls around in my head) but Inever let it show as far as crying/pain/agony goes. To mask that I keep a focused and determined look because that's normally how I feel, to solve whateverit is giving me trouble. I look at things a little different I think though, so who knows.


I always believe there needs to be at least 1 calm person at all times or chaos will ensue, and I try to be that person so I almost always stay happy orneutral at the most, never any tears, true anger, despair, anything(in public anyway). I let my tears and emotion show through my writing though as my way ofgetting it out, I found that's better than nothing.


I'm gonna stop this now because I could go on for hours, especially thinking about what you said about your dad taking your nephew and not includingyou...%#$@!% up right there...how the hell is that justified?

 

[bravo]

Honestly I can not remember the last time i cried. Its a perfectly normal for a dude to cry but it aint me

 

[reeeem0]

Originally Posted by Foamposite

I havent cried since my mom said i was gettin an m3 after i graduate

wont you the same dude talkin that "sooowoooooooop" @!*+ in the other thread

 

[atl 23 jumpmanlove]

Originally Posted by throwedyonasb

Honestly I can not remember the last time i cried. Its a perfectly normal for a dude to cry but it aint me

 

[produccionfrescos]

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Never in front of anyone, only when I'm alone.[/color]

 

[DeadsetAce]

if something happened to my mom i probably would. if i had to experience another aaron bleepin' boone type of homerun i probably would.

 

[ballinamillion1]

Originally Posted by reeeem0

Originally Posted by Foamposite

I havent cried since my mom said i was gettin an m3 after i graduate

wont you the same dude talkin that "sooowoooooooop" @!*+ in the other thread

Its THB his life is a contradiction...

 

[mrmoneyindabank]

I get choked up from time to time but I usually have to force tears.

 

[justscoreda100]

I cant remember the last time I cried.

I feel almost completely devoid of emotions it scares me sometimes.

 

[brandonb2005]

Sometimes I feel like crying about different things that hit me deep, rather it be life or family related.

But I realized that crying isn't going to help the situation at all... a long time ago. So most of the time when I am feeling down, I drink (cant smokeanymore

)

(Yes I know drinking isn't going to help/solve the problem)

 

[mytmouse76]

All I do is cry. When I'm sad mad watching a commercial. It's not even something I can control so I try to act like nothing bothers me cuz I don'twant to seem like an emotional mess cuz I'm not I just cry easily.

 

[gnarmyroly]

I don't think there is anything wrong with crying but I'm not so sure crying over something so petty like not being invited to go fishing isnecessarily "worth it". You might have some issues with your dad you might want to work out.

I'm a pretty sensitive person sometimes (although I don't let some stuff get to me just because I don't like other people having the satisfactionthat they are getting to me) and I think it's cool to cry but I barely do. I think the last time I did was over a bunch of personal stuff just happeningall at once and compounding/stressing the crap out of me. That was a while ago though.

But never ever do I cry in front of anyone, just alone, I think the last time I cried I ended up calling my mom and crying over the phone. lollll.

 

[fittednoob]

no, to me crying shows weakness.

 

[sofreakinwavy]

only when im mad i cry

 

[starzinoureyes]

i think when a man cries over something that's of real significance in his life is actually refreshing.
one shouldn't automatically assume crying = wimp/not manly. raw & real emotions are always welcomed... from my eyes in a gf's/best friend'sPOV.

now if you cry because you failed a class, ehhhh

 

[gnarmyroly]

Oh and it's very bad to hold stuff in. It's very good that you're letting it out. You will explode in a bad way if you keep everything in.

 

[webnerd06]

Originally Posted by ProduccionFrescos

Never in front of anyone, only when I'm alone.

this and it sometimes i wont even cry when im alone.. i think its a sign of weakness, but sometimes i cant help myself. when i feel myself tear up i put myselfin check asap... just from a girls point of view.