alright whats the deal with the apps? Certain apps more for just smashing / fwb, and others better for actually dating or long term relationships?
TL;DR lesson:
Hinge seems better. And not just for long-term, but for hookups. The Hinge app does a better job digitizing the feel of IRL dating" experience. Which imo also makes it easier to turn digital conversations into irl meetings. And hinge has cool features like letting you state your intention of just looking for hookups upfront, or ignoring answering the question entirely. But it's still the internet, so nothing is perfect here. And any unmoderated social media apps (all tech companies) will be prone to bots, scammers et al to make the ambiguity more confusing.
^Okay, so whether or not Hinge is for "Long-terms only" is a grey area. Meaning you get to define the rules
My friend said "Hinge the company pitches it as a long term thing in their marketing. But on the app, you can do whatever you want." Which is true, I put on my profile whatever I want. First I had IIRC "Not looking for anything serious" , then changed it to "Not sure yet". And then I just hid it (so "what I'm looking for is not visible on my profile).
But yeah , also, these apps can delete your messages whenever - which I just learned , so I'm not 100% certain if it was Hinge or Bumble, but earlier I was on Hinge (i THINK) and thE BY FAR THE HOTTEST match of the day told me straight up she's down to hookup if I'm down to pay. She then said I could ping her on Snapchat (which I don't have) and she left her handle or whatever. But I didn't click on the snapchat link and now when I look back in my messages it's not there any more - I think she unmatched me?
I'm pretty sure she was a bot - which was my opening line by the way - and really funny if she is not a bot and really smart if she was one - but yeah she looked like Sarah Vandella - so I was tempted to learn more I said "How much do you charge? And can I make request like 'Wear that choker necklace you have on in that one pic'?" So then she probably unmatched me for saying that? WHICH, THEN IS CONFUSING because if she was a ***** then why would she unmatch with someone who's willing to pay her. Whcih then means, she was probs a bot. But I'd know more if I would have clicked on her damn snapchat (dayum)