Holiday BBQs: w/ ur fam or ur girls?

Originally Posted by ericberry14

just go to both... go to your fams BBQ for a lil while... then make an appearance at hers...

pretty simple
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this is the right way
 
Originally Posted by AntBanks81

I have a big close knit family and I prefer to be with them for all events. My family is down to earth and we have a good time together. My girl's family is spread out with some in the Chicago area. For me it's easy, but since we found out she's pregnant she has been going on and on that we are only with my family for the holidays.

For NTers (men and women) in serious relationships, how do you handle holidays? Do you split, alternate or dominate?
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It's probably best to have a conversation with your girl about this rather than NT. Who cares what NT thinks? lol
 
Thanks for the input NT fam...I came here with the question because she and I are both biased on the topic.

I get the point and I see the light

Grizz, I am definitely a momma's boy, but I do realize that I will be with my woman and kids more so than her or my family.

Mytmouse, her mom stays 5 hours away so that is not feasible for her to be around her much during the pregnancy. I think she is going to visit next weekend.

SO I will look to split some holidays...Je Ne Sa , I will use that method for as long as possible
 
well her mother and sisters stay in south east IL, like a 5 hr drive...when I get there, I am on the only man.This is not the way I know a BBQ

her aunt stays in west suburbs of Chicago, I admit I have just been lazy and selfish on this one

I guess in the end its just about staying in my comfort zone. When the kids get here I will have to make some concessions
 
Originally Posted by Grizzlyboy

Originally Posted by arrjae

fam first!
then your girls...
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obviously you are not in a serious relationship.
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OP....split holidays. Go to one fam for Christmas another for Thanksgiving. Rotate it. Also since she is pregs you might want to start to form your own family traditions at your place. This gives both families an opportunity to come by.
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Couldn't have said it better myself. Me, my girl, and my daughter had our own Thanksgiving and Christmas. But my girl went back home to visitthe fam (I had to work). Good thing for us is we both from the same spot and all the family she really cares about is in the hometown. My moms sees the lil onesame amount of time her mom does. You gon have to compromise and realize that it aint about u anymore, its gon always be about the baby and ya girl since shegave birth. Sucks but it is what it is
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Man you having twins?

Whoooooo....good luck. You should be sleeping now. Because when they come...its a wrap!
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If it's something like Memorial Day or Fourth of July, I try to fit them both in, one in the day and one in the evening.

Christmas and Thanksgiving are a different story. Im not married or even close so I havent dealt with that dilemma yet.
 
Originally Posted by RECOGNIZE GAME

play that scene like a porno
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Come on man!

Yep Grizz, Twins FTW! I know I need rest but I'm gonna enjoy these moments as much as I can . Gotta make it a hot summer to remember.

DatHBGboy, I'm slowly learning to compromise. I just had this conversation with my uncle Saturday night. He just advised that I giver her randomweekends that way it won't be an issue when I wanna stay at the homebase.
 
Originally Posted by AntBanks81


Mytmouse, her mom stays 5 hours away so that is not feasible for her to be around her much during the pregnancy. I think she is going to visit next weekend.
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how far is your fam? it really just sounds like your being kinda selfish...you know she can't get out there as often as i'm sure she wouldlike but yet you want to spend all the holidays with your people? that doesn't sound fair...
 
^^^ mytmouse, we in Chicago. I gotta get money for said kids, not take up every weekend driving ten plus hours. I'm blessed that my loved ones are all inone city whereas she has some close family here and some a trip away.

also, you gotta realize her moms and sisters all work too.

I got uncles on my pops side that I don't see either (although its not a fair comparison)
 
This was pretty much the reason my ex and I are no longer together. Her family stayed 8hrs away and she expected me to make that trip every holiday.




This is why I need to invest in a mail or bride... problem solved.
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^^ LMAO

I'm just happy I didn't get too serious with any chicks from college, they were from all over.
 
Do both. Especially if you're starting a family. Besides, that's more food and drank for the both of you that you dont have to pay for....
 
Originally Posted by AntBanks81

^^^ mytmouse, we in Chicago. I gotta get money for said kids, not take up every weekend driving ten plus hours. I'm blessed that my loved ones are all in one city whereas she has some close family here and some a trip away.

also, you gotta realize her moms and sisters all work too.

I got uncles on my pops side that I don't see either (although its not a fair comparison)
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i'm not saying go every weekend...but from the way it sounds you see your people alot more often than she gets to see hers...most major holidays are 3 dayweekends...of course you can't make all of them but damn is it really that hard to make a few? i could be reading it wrong but thats just how it seems tome...
 
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