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I've been going through some tough times recently and I believe that some of it is caused because I really don't know who I am as a person. How to go about this
- Apr 11, 2006
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gotta let life keep going for better or for worse. if you ever going to need to rely on yourself you will find yourself pretty quick when people turn they backs on you.
- Sep 6, 2012
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Know what you value & prioritize it.
Know what you are not and what you are.
Keep it 100 with yourself all the time, even if it hurts.
Envision your ideal self.
Know what you are not and what you are.
Keep it 100 with yourself all the time, even if it hurts.
Envision your ideal self.
yeezusdisciple
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- Nov 29, 2013
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The hardest to thing to manage is yourself
Idk b this is a great question idk if any has figured it out doe
Idk b this is a great question idk if any has figured it out doe
- Nov 24, 2002
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Define, "tough times." Relationships, money, career/school, all of the above?
- Sep 10, 2005
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Just come out the closet b.
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- Aug 14, 2012
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-Grab a piece of paper.
-write out the things you need to do and the things you love to do
-improve yourself and do both more frequently
-remember life is a roller coaster. Sometimes things are down sometimes things go up.
-write out the things you need to do and the things you love to do
-improve yourself and do both more frequently
-remember life is a roller coaster. Sometimes things are down sometimes things go up.
- Jun 23, 2013
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Be honest with yourself. About everything. Once you know how you feel about certain things, especially what you find important, itll help mold who you are as an individual and give more insight into yourself.
- Oct 11, 2013
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Everything pretty much, plus sever depression/anxiety and a whole set of other problems
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- Oct 11, 2013
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But the thing is I really don't know what I value and question if I have any value
- May 24, 2006
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Go on a vacation.
- May 31, 2011
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Play Lauryn Hill's Peace of Mind until your thrid eye opens.
Thank me later.
Thank me later.
- Sep 18, 2013
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Create yourself instead
- Sep 6, 2012
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Well better get to thinkin pleighboi.
Relationships, friendships, famb, yourself, values, morals, goals,happiness,money,material objects.
Your self esteem needs to be proper before you legitimately become comfy with yourself.
Prioritize that.
PM me if anything.
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fresh112
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black out on everyone else except fam, fam
- Mar 6, 2007
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use a gps
- Jan 5, 2004
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Dude... Been there, done that... Few times over.. ******* sucks incredibly... I just always had to ride **** out... Having friends that you can use as a crutch momentary helps a lot...
And quite honestly, getting drunk helped quite a bit in one circumstance... I'm not an alcy, never been close to one, couldn't be... But getting drunk with friends, just getting mind off ****... But obviously booze is not the solution lol...
And like dude said, keep it 100.. That's all you can do... If you feel as though you have no value, that's OK... But you gotta strive to gain value... Figure out what you want/need, and get it.. Gain that value... Starting at bottom is what a lot of people need/have to do... Nothing wrong at all with that... Like I said, been there, done that...
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Just know that it takes time. You will fall and that's ok. It's ok to make mistakes and feel lost. Just don't give up on yourself. Remember that you are stronger than you think. Try to embrace who you are, improve whatever behavior bothers you. Don't forget to take responsibility for your own actions. You'll become the person you want to be. The most important thing to remember is to not give up.
- Apr 4, 2008
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Cut the noise out. Stop focusing outwardly on what others expect and want from you and reect inwardly. Clear your head via meditation. Trust the universe and begin living. Follow the omens. Be enthusiastic. Be energetic be confident and courageous to experience new stuff and take action. Be fueled by fear.
Mactastic4167
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This This and This!
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I've been working on this since about this time last year.
One thing you HAVE to do is be COMPLETELY honest with yourself & others, no matter if it's embarassing, difficult, troubling, soft, over the top, whatever. You aren't going to get what you're looking for if you hide anything you feel inside yourself. This is MAJOR, you instead need to embrace yourself & your imperfections, realize you won't have everything figured out & you're on a never ending journey, realize not everyone will like everything you do, realize you can't define or expect things with people you need to take them as the imperfect people they are, you need to explore the depths of your mind a little & see what may spin off from what you like so you can be more diverse in what you go after.
Remember you're capable of ANYTHING you set your mind to so don't limit yourself to just "normal" & "basic" things so you can fit in, there's levels to this **** man & you trying to find yourself meansreaching your own level, no matter how high or low it may be, you gotta take it, own it, embrace it & appreciate it because it's yours & only yours.
I'll tell you some of what's been helping me move along this journey:
-The entire last 1/2 of the year ended up being about "Perception", how everyone has a different perception of the same events that happen & will just see things in a different light because they are flat out NOT YOU, they have different situations in their past that gave them a different set of ideas & morals that shape their perception of things. Because of this you need to look into yourself, embrace what you experienced before & understand what you do only.
-This year is all about "Patience" & realizing things won't happen all at once or right away, give yourself time to make mistakes & learn yourself. Things will get hard sometimes for sure but you gotta see yourself through things & remain encouraged.
-I created a vision board with a collage of different pics that represent goals I set for myself, it's hanging in my room so I had to take time to make it & I have to see it on my wall every day I wake up.
-I put a whiteboard in my room so any thoughts I come up with, ideas I have, things I want to think about later, things that inspire me, all that can go on the board.
-I've been working on words that describe the person I want to have & traits I want to show of myself.
-I've moved away from being online & using social media/watching TV a lot & started replacing it with time spent on things like reading/writing & just spending time with people doing different things, basically appreciating the things I can do rather than read & look at from what others did.
Hopefully some of that helps you man, or at least gives you an idea of something to try, & hopefully that makes sense because I've been typing this during my work commute lol
One thing you HAVE to do is be COMPLETELY honest with yourself & others, no matter if it's embarassing, difficult, troubling, soft, over the top, whatever. You aren't going to get what you're looking for if you hide anything you feel inside yourself. This is MAJOR, you instead need to embrace yourself & your imperfections, realize you won't have everything figured out & you're on a never ending journey, realize not everyone will like everything you do, realize you can't define or expect things with people you need to take them as the imperfect people they are, you need to explore the depths of your mind a little & see what may spin off from what you like so you can be more diverse in what you go after.
Remember you're capable of ANYTHING you set your mind to so don't limit yourself to just "normal" & "basic" things so you can fit in, there's levels to this **** man & you trying to find yourself meansreaching your own level, no matter how high or low it may be, you gotta take it, own it, embrace it & appreciate it because it's yours & only yours.
I'll tell you some of what's been helping me move along this journey:
-The entire last 1/2 of the year ended up being about "Perception", how everyone has a different perception of the same events that happen & will just see things in a different light because they are flat out NOT YOU, they have different situations in their past that gave them a different set of ideas & morals that shape their perception of things. Because of this you need to look into yourself, embrace what you experienced before & understand what you do only.
-This year is all about "Patience" & realizing things won't happen all at once or right away, give yourself time to make mistakes & learn yourself. Things will get hard sometimes for sure but you gotta see yourself through things & remain encouraged.
-I created a vision board with a collage of different pics that represent goals I set for myself, it's hanging in my room so I had to take time to make it & I have to see it on my wall every day I wake up.
-I put a whiteboard in my room so any thoughts I come up with, ideas I have, things I want to think about later, things that inspire me, all that can go on the board.
-I've been working on words that describe the person I want to have & traits I want to show of myself.
-I've moved away from being online & using social media/watching TV a lot & started replacing it with time spent on things like reading/writing & just spending time with people doing different things, basically appreciating the things I can do rather than read & look at from what others did.
Hopefully some of that helps you man, or at least gives you an idea of something to try, & hopefully that makes sense because I've been typing this during my work commute lol
- Jun 1, 2013
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In 4 NT knowledge Gems
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You aint lost op....like someone said the mistake people make in life alot is searching. Searching for happiness..searching for love....searching for yourself. You have to create those things.
You have to break out from the inside.
Like a chicken egg. If it gets broken from the outside its over...but if it gets broken from the inside its a new life.
Be a chicken egg op.
That footprint u leave on the beach....it takes the moon and the ocean to wash that away.
U need to explore....I guarantee that the clothes you own have been more places than you have.
People wonder why mafia members dont use remote starters for their car...it makes sense right??? But u know wat....they dont.
U may never find yourself op.
Never.
Instead of finding yourself u should try and lose yourself
You have to break out from the inside.
Like a chicken egg. If it gets broken from the outside its over...but if it gets broken from the inside its a new life.
Be a chicken egg op.
That footprint u leave on the beach....it takes the moon and the ocean to wash that away.
U need to explore....I guarantee that the clothes you own have been more places than you have.
People wonder why mafia members dont use remote starters for their car...it makes sense right??? But u know wat....they dont.
U may never find yourself op.
Never.
Instead of finding yourself u should try and lose yourself
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I went through a year-long rough patch after I graduated college. The things that helped me figure out who am I and who I want to be the most were extended periods of introversion and introspection. I maybe hung out with my friends once a month for that year, and I made a conscious effort to stay off of social media sites. Instead of going out at night I would spend a lot of time reading or going on long bike rides. I just spent a lot of time thinking and doing some deep soul-searching.
It was uncomfortable at times, and it was certainly lonely, but I thank myself for it now that it's over. I got rid of a lot of negative influences in my life and got over my "woe is me" attitude about feeling stuck in a rut. I realized that the only person that could pull me out of my situation was myself, and I started taking the necessary steps to get to where I am today.
That was four years ago, and I'm a much happier person now than I was back then.
It was uncomfortable at times, and it was certainly lonely, but I thank myself for it now that it's over. I got rid of a lot of negative influences in my life and got over my "woe is me" attitude about feeling stuck in a rut. I realized that the only person that could pull me out of my situation was myself, and I started taking the necessary steps to get to where I am today.
That was four years ago, and I'm a much happier person now than I was back then.
