soltheman
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People seemed to like my last post format, so I'll stick with that.
Summary
In the summer leading up to my freshman year of college I met one of my ex girlfriends. We liked each other a lot, but we were really different. She stayed in on the weekends and studied while I partied. On top of that, she wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, which I was definitely NOT trying to do (and I told her that in the beginning, too.) Long story aside, we dated for almost a year until I went out one night to a friend's party and got with another girl (call her girl 2.) The current girlfriend caught wind of it, we broke up, and I pretty much stopped talking to both girls involved. (Girl 2 knew I had a girlfriend at the time.) Just to be clear, I'm not proud of having cheated. And I'm still kinda salty about losing a good girl. But that's besides the point.
Fast forward a year later to now. I started chilling with more friends of Girl #2 (she chills with more black people on campus than I do,
) and I saw her at another party. We danced or whatever, she took my number, and for the past couple weeks we've been just talking and hanging out. Much to my surprise, I actually really like this girl. We have a lot of similarities. She's smart, chill, etc. I'm not currently on the lookout for a girlfriend, but I'm wondering if I should even keep her in consideration because of our past.
Long Story
Question to NT
Could/would you date a girl that you cheated on your ex with? Why/why not?
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Summary
In the summer leading up to my freshman year of college I met one of my ex girlfriends. We liked each other a lot, but we were really different. She stayed in on the weekends and studied while I partied. On top of that, she wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, which I was definitely NOT trying to do (and I told her that in the beginning, too.) Long story aside, we dated for almost a year until I went out one night to a friend's party and got with another girl (call her girl 2.) The current girlfriend caught wind of it, we broke up, and I pretty much stopped talking to both girls involved. (Girl 2 knew I had a girlfriend at the time.) Just to be clear, I'm not proud of having cheated. And I'm still kinda salty about losing a good girl. But that's besides the point.
Fast forward a year later to now. I started chilling with more friends of Girl #2 (she chills with more black people on campus than I do,
Long Story
Spoiler [+]
The ex and I met through a freshman immersion program at my school over the summer. Sparing all the meaningless details, we started dating after the program ended (although we were pretty much a "couple" after a few weeks into the program.) We were both very different people, and we acknowledged that. From the get go she said she wanted to wait until marriage, that she didn't plan on ever really partying (that changed, but she's still lowkey,) and that she wouldn't be down for it if I let those things become a major factor in my life. I told her I wasn't waiting for marriage, that I partied and wanted to continue that from high school, but agreed to tone it down because I really liked her. First semester we were in good shape. Second semester rolled around and things started getting a little different. We had settled into our group of friends, and her friends didn't like me. At all. And while my friends didn't really think too much of her (she was just kinda there, they didn't feel too strongly about her either way,) because her friends didn't like me, that made her automatically think that mine didn't like her. This is when we started getting into disagreements, her friends would tell her that I was talking to a girl at some party (not even hugging on her or anything-- just talking) and drama just started to ensue. We started spending less and less time with each other and more time with our friends.
I brought it up to her and she said don't worry about it, that it wasn't a big deal, and that I was just overreacting. I let it slide until I figured out that she started hanging out with her friends instead of chilling with me. (I'm cool with a girl having her own social life and stuff, but when she starts lying and saying that she's going to do HW and then I run into her and her friends just hanging out, I'm not gonna just stand idly by.) It was on a night like this when we had made plans to hang out after a show on campus when she said she wasn't feeling up to it anymore. (We had gone like 2 weeks spending time with each other, while living less than a football fields length away.) I wanted to chill, though. And she ended up going along with it. Then one of my homies called and invited me out. She insisted that I go out (i really didn't even want to,) but I eventually did and ended up getting with Girl 2 that night.
Girl 2 and I go way back. More than I even knew at first. She was cool with my cousin in HS so I had met her before, but we were never really friends. After talking to her for a little while I figured out that we grew up in the same neighborhood (we even lived in the same fourplex for a little while.
We were just too young to remember each other as neighbors,) went to the same elementary for a little while, have a TON of mutual friends, and have a lot of similarities with our personalities. She's cool and all, but I'm just not sure if I could date someone that I shared history like that with. If it wasn't for that, I'd have no problem. But I'm at a loss. What do y'all think?
I brought it up to her and she said don't worry about it, that it wasn't a big deal, and that I was just overreacting. I let it slide until I figured out that she started hanging out with her friends instead of chilling with me. (I'm cool with a girl having her own social life and stuff, but when she starts lying and saying that she's going to do HW and then I run into her and her friends just hanging out, I'm not gonna just stand idly by.) It was on a night like this when we had made plans to hang out after a show on campus when she said she wasn't feeling up to it anymore. (We had gone like 2 weeks spending time with each other, while living less than a football fields length away.) I wanted to chill, though. And she ended up going along with it. Then one of my homies called and invited me out. She insisted that I go out (i really didn't even want to,) but I eventually did and ended up getting with Girl 2 that night.
Girl 2 and I go way back. More than I even knew at first. She was cool with my cousin in HS so I had met her before, but we were never really friends. After talking to her for a little while I figured out that we grew up in the same neighborhood (we even lived in the same fourplex for a little while.
Question to NT
Could/would you date a girl that you cheated on your ex with? Why/why not?
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Girl 2.
Ex (just 'cause)
Ex (just 'cause)
