Is avoiding confrontation/fighting some one cowardly or more mature?

[niketalker23]

"Feeling like a *****" for not fighting is the insecurity of a guy who feels he needs to prove his masculinity to himself. Young men tend to think that physicality equals manliness. The older you get the more you realize that being a man isn't about proving how physical you are.

 

[KingdomFlatbush]

"Feeling like a *****" for not fighting is the insecurity of a guy who feels he needs to prove his masculinity to himself. Young men tend to think that physicality equals manliness. The older you get the more you realize that being a man isn't about proving how physical you are.

 

[flesh prince]

Simply getting my $1000 back didn't feel like adequate punishment. I just made it clear that robbing me isn't a good idea. I don't hold grudges though so we were cool again after the incident. He learned his lesson so we never spoke of it again after that and just moved on.

Nah.

 

[doublemesh96]

As a grown man fighting is a whole nother animal as opposed to when we were in school. These days if I fight somebody it's more than likely a life or death situation there's a lot more on the line. I do anything I can to de escalate a situation because once it goes there I'm probably going to try and kill you, die trying to kill you,or make it the worst day of your life for sure and nobody wants that. At the end of the day it's not worth it.

To win a battle without fighting is the ultimate victory.

 

[allreds]

Should of checked him

should have

 

[wayniac211]

Being punked and standing up for yourself are total opposite feelings. Train yourself to whup his *** next time on site

 

[airblaster503]

At this point in my life I feel it isn't worth it for me to go looking for trouble and start a fight. However if someone were to swing on me, that is a different ball game and I would retaliate.

For example was at a bar last night and there was this dude in the bathroom talking **** to everyone in there including me, saying some off the wall ****. Dude was drunk as hell and could barely stand up. He was trying to start **** but honestly he would have been KO'd easily in the shape he was in. Best to ignore people in that situation and keep it moving.

 

[letsgetit22]

Resorting to violence isn't always necessary. A "friend" stole $1000 from my bank account using my debit card. I was using my debit to buy bottles at the bar (6 or 7, don't exactly recall) and he went along to carry all the glasses etc. Must've seen me type my code. When I woke up at home the next day I noticed my debit card was missing so I called him and he said I forgot it at his place.
Went to pick it up, left and checked the bank to see how much I'd spent at the bar. Dude bought a bunch of videogames, grocery shopping, ... roughly $1000 in purchases and withdrawals and transferred $1000 from one of my other accounts to the deposit account hoping I woulndn't notice I guess.
Got my money back the same day + $200 extra without having to raise my voice or lift a finger.
I went to his house and calmly told him transfer the money + 20% extra or I leave and go straight to the police. Not only for the obvious debit card theft but some of his other dirty laundry as well. A couple minutes later I had my money back along with the extra.

You lying...

Bruh stole your debit card for video games and groceries, but had $1200 to pay you back within minutes of you asking for it? :roll eyes

and how tf can he transfer money from one of your accounts to another by simply having your debit card and pin? He did this at an atm?

 

[kevenmayne]

You lying...

Bruh stole your debit card for video games and groceries, but had $1200 to pay you back within minutes of you asking for it? :roll eyes

and how tf can he transfer money from one of your accounts to another by simply having your debit card and pin? He did this at an atm?

 

[Belgium]

You lying...

Bruh stole your debit card for video games and groceries, but had $1200 to pay you back within minutes of you asking for it? :roll eyes

and how tf can he transfer money from one of your accounts to another by simply having your debit card and pin? He did this at an atm?

He repaid me partially with money he withdrew from my deposit account and put into his own account but the majority came from his savings. You're acting like $1000 is a huge amount to have in a savings account. A thief isn't necessarily dead broke.

I had around $2000 in my deposit account at the time so after he bought all those things and withdrew some cash he transferred $1000 from another account into the deposit account putting the balance back to what it was. Didn't work out very well for him obviously.

Because he used an atm I knew he was on camera so I had leverage to get my money back.

 

[Master Zik]

It depends what it's over and what if it's worth it to you.

So yeah imo you sound like a ***** OP. If $150 don't mean nothing to you or the act of someone stealing from you doesn't compel you to enact some payback then fine get over it even if you regret it a bit after inaction but if it does mean something to you and you just lied to yourself cuz you were shook then you ***** made and you gonna have to really dwell on that and decide if it's time to change.

I would've hit that thieving ***** with the bike or at least plot some proper revenge. Win or lose.

forgive me legal ignorance, but isn't that considered extortion ?

Snitching as well

It's only snitching if you actually snitch.

It's definitely extortion. He aint even call the extra money interest for taking so long for paying him back or citing how not getting paid back inconvenienced him.

He kinda snitched on himself with that post though

 

[letsgetit22]

He repaid me partially with money he withdrew from my deposit account and put into his own account but the majority came from his savings. You're acting like $1000 is a huge amount to have in a savings account. A thief isn't necessarily dead broke.
I had around $2000 in my deposit account at the time so after he bought all those things and withdrew some cash he transferred $1000 from another account into the deposit account putting the balance back to what it was. Didn't work out very well for him obviously.
Because he used an atm I knew he was on camera so I had leverage to get my money back.

So, he partially paid you back with your money?? Also, how was he able to transfer money? He would need your account numbers. Sorry bro, your story just don't make sense. Went from... he paid me within minutes, to... he partially paid me with my own money. I know thieves, they don't admit to stealing that easily.

 

[Master Zik]

Live like a lion, you'll feel much better about yourself.

Until you get Cecil'd.

 

[Belgium]

So, he partially paid you back with your money?? Also, how was he able to transfer money? He would need your account numbers. Sorry bro, your story just don't make sense. Went from... he paid me within minutes, to... he partially paid me with my own money. I know thieves, they don't admit to stealing that easily.

You're reading this wrong. I said part of the total sum was money he withdrew in cash from my account at an atm. The remaining money all came from his savings account.
Meaning he did pay me the full $1200 but it wasn't 100% out of his savings account. Around $200 was cash he withdrew from my bank. And what do you mean how did he transfer money? Idk what kind of banks y'all got in the US but over here you stick your debit card in an atm, enter your pin and you see all your accounts. You click one whatever account, press transfer between own accounts, select an account and amount from the list and press transfer. Literally takes like 1 minute. Same goes for online banking.
If you're referring to needing my account number for repaying me I have an app for my bank on my phone.
"Most thieves don't admit to stealing"
He was the only one in close enough proximity to see my type my pin and he had my debit card on him the next day. Not exactly hard to connect the dots.

 

[letsgetit22]

You're reading this wrong. I said part of the total sum was money he withdrew in cash from my account at an atm. The remaining money all came from his savings account.
Meaning he did pay me the full $1200 but it wasn't 100% out of his savings account. Around $200 was cash he withdrew from my bank. And what do you mean how did he transfer money? Idk what kind of banks y'all got in the US but over here you stick your debit card in an atm, enter your pin and you see all your accounts. You click one whatever account, press transfer between own accounts, select an account and amount from the list and press transfer. Literally takes like 1 minute. Same goes for online banking.
If you're referring to needing my account number for repaying me I have an app for my bank on my phone.
"Most thieves don't admit to stealing"
He was the only one in close enough proximity to see my type my pin and he had my debit card on him the next day. Not exactly hard to connect the dots.

Oh, you not in/from the U.S? Then I apologize. You can't transfer money at an atm out here. But, dude had money but still stole from you and y'all still cool? You'll get got again.

 

[Master Zik]

He repaid me partially with money he withdrew from my deposit account and put into his own account but the majority came from his savings. You're acting like $1000 is a huge amount to have in a savings account. A thief isn't necessarily dead broke.
I had around $2000 in my deposit account at the time so after he bought all those things and withdrew some cash he transferred $1000 from another account into the deposit account putting the balance back to what it was. Didn't work out very well for him obviously.
Because he used an atm I knew he was on camera so I had leverage to get my money back.

So, he partially paid you back with your money?? Also, how was he able to transfer money? He would need your account numbers. Sorry bro, your story just don't make sense. Went from... he paid me within minutes, to... he partially paid me with my own money. I know theifs, they don't admit to stealing that easily.

According to him, the guy didn't admit to stealing. He was threatened with the reveal of w/e shady activities he was doing to the police unless he paid him back and gave him extra money.

If he had his debit card and pin (the pin is the reach), that'd be enough to transfer money in to his account depending on the bank. At the atm you can at least see like the last 4 or 6 digits of the savings account. Still sounds fishy though

There's been times where I had all necessary id but did not know my entire account # and the bank teller let it slide when I made deposits, withdrawals, etc. so that's possible too.

 

[xbiker47]

Let karma handle it.

cant be said enough

 

[blastercombo]

Karma?


Whatever helps yall sleep at night I guess

 

[htg designs]

Yall make Karma sound like Debo

 

[sofa king awsm]

thats his 150 bruh

 

[301216baller]

lmao word

this is karma

 

[cerebralarrow]

Until you get Cecil'd.

Live like a Tiger.

 

[301216baller]

naw but karma is definitely real..

 

[Master Zik]

naw but karma is definitely real..

 

[julesbeats]

In certain instances karma comes into play