Just realized me and my brother aren't exactly close or really friends.

[thorrocksjs]

Me and my brother had a discussion /argument and it pretty much concluded with me saying who are you I dont know anything about you and you don'twant anybody to know anything about you.He even said I dont want you all to know anything about me..He doesn't have a legit opinions,beliefs,ideas,dreams,hobbies.He just really exist .He even said he doesn't and really doesn't care for anything besides himself .Dude even told me if I went to jail for 40 years it wouldn't even affect his daily life like that because he really doesn't care for me like that..I was like wow i've lived for 19 years with a complete stranger who I don't even know much about.Like it was pretty cold blooded and heartless.He even said he would rather see me fail and make mistakes because he isn't obligated to helping me because other people dont do and why should he.
Like that was pretty painful to hear.Then again he never really did care for me as a kid when I went to school and got picked on or wanted to learn how to play sports he left me outside once with a pitcher of water and drove off while I was outside playing basketball for 5 hours.

 

[kilojules64]

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rafiki zeeki wrote:

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im glad me and my siblings are best friends. nothing better than that. i suggest u try and work it out.

I don't think it's something you could understand.
Don't get me wrong, my younger sister and I are best friends and I would do anything for her. I try my hardest to give her a good example to follow every day.
I turned 18 and my sister looked enough like me to take my ID and empty out all of my savings accounts.  She stole that 80 thousand dollars from me and she is 9 years older. She was a 27 year old adult when she did that, it wasn't a stupid teenage mistake, it was a calculated event. She went through all of the file cabinets in my house to find my social security card, birth certificate, even my old high school ID so that if they asked her for another form of ID she would have it.
She took my college fund and didn't think twice. What do you think would happen if I tried to work it out with her? She would say everything that her loving little sister wanted to hear and then find another way to take advantage of me.
She took my Christmas presents to the pawn shop every December 26th or stole my stuff while I was at summer camp, she is just a terrible person.

Like I said before, OP, I feel you 100% and there is no reason for us to have to deal with them just because they are family. Just focus on the people you do care about and if our siblings fall through the cracks then that is better for us in the long run.

 

[hendrix watermelon]

^dirty

Your brother hates your for something. He's older than you right? Maybe he's been holding out on you out of sheer jealousy? Maybe he saw that you parents showed more affection to you? IDK, that's what it sounds like to me.

If you want to find out what his problem is, sit him down and discuss this without turning it into a confrontation.

Eh.

 

[thorrocksjs]

Like I feel extra stupid right now for actually looking up to somebody who in general looks down upon me or doesn't respect me at all. I mean I used to stay up all night so he could play video games or open the door when he gets home cuz he would be too drunk to use his keys.

I dont know why he can hate me I mean I did everything a little brother can do right .I wasn't a nuisance didn't really take his things break his stuff as a kid a genuinely minded my own .I do come to terms with the fact he essentially stole my christmas list from me and I rarely got the toys i wanted I got the stuff he deemed was cool or the games he wanted.Like I genuinely don't know what I did to wrong him to make him not like or care about me.

 

[mangudai954]

That's horrible fam I don't even know what to say

 

[diplomat007]

Me and my brother arent even friends i would say , we are only 2 and 1/2 years apart . I dont know what happen , but i wish he was someone i could have looked up to . Sucks that he was never that for me . Now hes just a screw up smfh

 

[rafiki zeeki]

im glad me and my siblings are best friends. nothing better than that. i suggest u try and work it out.

 

[omgitswes]

Damn, that's really tough.
I'm really close with my sister, it's gonna be hard seeing her go off for college.

 

[antbanks81]

damn thats tough as hell. I'm a big family person, so I could only imagine how painful that is. I wish you the best with your loved ones. At least you know where you stand with him so you won't go out thinking he has your back.

Do yall both share the same parents?

 

[thorrocksjs]

LIke I really just dont know what did I do man.Like he was always better than me at everything grades,school,sports,women,clothes ,playing instruments everything .Like i never really outdid him he is just that much better than me.He is really that good .Me on the other hand Im only a good speaker and im smart yet my grades are complete crap his weren't.Like im really wondered what did I do to make him hate me.Yeah we got the same parents.I mean the only thing I really got going for me is my attitude and personality and smarts.Dude has all that and then some. 

 

[megatron]

Originally Posted by ThorrocksJs

Me and my brother had a discussion /argument and it pretty much concluded with me saying who are you I dont know anything about you and you don'twant anybody to know anything about you.He even said [color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]I dont want you all to know anything about me[/color]..He doesn't have a legit opinions,beliefs,ideas,dreams,hobbies.He just really exist .He even said he doesn't and really doesn't care for anything besides himself .Dude even told me if I went to jail for 40 years it wouldn't even affect his daily life like that because he really doesn't care for me like that..I was like wow i've lived for 19 years with a complete stranger who I don't even know much about.Like it was pretty cold blooded and heartless.He even said he would rather see me fail and make mistakes because he isn't obligated to helping me because other people dont do and why should he.
Like that was pretty painful to hear.Then again he never really did care for me as a kid when I went to school and got picked on or wanted to learn how to play sports he left me outside once with a pitcher of water and drove off while I was outside playing basketball for 5 hours.

I mean I thought i was gonna be able to relate to this post once i read that. Because that's who I am. You know i seperate my friends from family from my love life etc. Don't need those things mixing right now.

but damn. reading the rest of that post hurt. obviously he has his mind set on not letting you into his life like that. no need to waste time on someone that wont change for the better. move on before you realized you wasted your time. doesn't matter if its blood if hes treating you like that.

 

[falcon4567]

Listen, its OK to not like your family.

 

[sofa king awsm]

sometimes you just have to deal with a loser f'd up brother. I got two bros, a younger bro and a twin bro. my younger bro is chill, hes 19. my twin bro is a f'n loser who is obese. he dont pay back money he owes at all. people are different and even tho they are family he can still be shady as F. I dont plan on helping him out with anything in life

 

[ryair max 1]

my brother and i aren't close at all. he's 8 years older. i can even see us not really speaking in the future (not necessarily because we don't like each other but we are just different people). Its not a good thought but having an actual convo with him is like pulling teeth. My dad and his brother whose still alive haven't spoken in about 6 years.

I feel like he's sort of lazy with no vision and I'm sure he thinks I'm some sort of over opinionated, pompous $%# but it is what is. We sometimes don't even say anything when we are in the same room. Its really awkward.

 

[shoefreakbaby]

Originally Posted by ThorrocksJs

LIke I really just dont know what did I do man.Like he was always better than me at everything grades,school,sports,women,clothes ,playing instruments everything .Like i never really outdid him he is just that much better than me.He is really that good .Me on the other hand Im only a good speaker and im smart yet my grades are complete crap his weren't.Like im really wondered what did I do to make him hate me.Yeah we got the same parents.I mean the only thing I really got going for me is my attitude and personality and smarts.Dude has all that and then some. 

 Something wrong with him, you didnt do nothing. when ppl are hurt they hurt the ppl around him.Dont let his bad vibes hurt you. He may be going through things and is lashing out on you cause he know you want fight back.Just keep being a good brother dont allow him to change who you are.

 

[oidreez]

Originally Posted by kilojules64

EDIT:

rafiki zeeki wrote:

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im glad me and my siblings are best friends. nothing better than that. i suggest u try and work it out.

I don't think it's something you could understand.
Don't get me wrong, my younger sister and I are best friends and I would do anything for her. I try my hardest to give her a good example to follow every day.
I turned 18 and my sister looked enough like me to take my ID and empty out all of my savings accounts.  She stole that 80 thousand dollars from me and she is 9 years older. She was a 27 year old adult when she did that, it wasn't a stupid teenage mistake, it was a calculated event. She went through all of the file cabinets in my house to find my social security card, birth certificate, even my old high school ID so that if they asked her for another form of ID she would have it.
She took my college fund and didn't think twice. What do you think would happen if I tried to work it out with her? She would say everything that her loving little sister wanted to hear and then find another way to take advantage of me.
She took my Christmas presents to the pawn shop every December 26th or stole my stuff while I was at summer camp, she is just a terrible person.

Like I said before, OP, I feel you 100% and there is no reason for us to have to deal with them just because they are family. Just focus on the people you do care about and if our siblings fall through the cracks then that is better for us in the long run.


That's terrible

 

[thorrocksjs]

He truly didnt do wrong by me as kids he just never really let me interact with him beyond stuff he wanted to do or what was on his accord.

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

That mess up..

 

[arsnalj23]

Originally Posted by ryair max 1

my brother and i aren't close at all. he's 8 years older. i can even see us not really speaking in the future (not necessarily because we don't like each other but we are just different people). Its not a good thought but having an actual convo with him is like pulling teeth. My dad and his brother whose still alive haven't spoken in about 6 years.

I feel like he's sort of lazy with no vision and I'm sure he thinks I'm some sort of over opinionated, pompous $%# but it is what is. We sometimes don't even say anything when we are in the same room. Its really awkward.

You basically described my relationship with my little brother. I'm 8 years older. I love him but we don't speak much at all, we acknowledge each other but we don't even really say hi. We're just completely different people, he seems "too cool for school" so to speak. I make a conscious effort to talk to him sometimes but we don't have much to talk about.

To OP, it's one thing not to talk, it's another thing to not care about one another.
Let him live, do you and keep an open mind, if he never changes then so be it, at least you know you tried.

 

[elpablo21]

LIke I really just dont know what did I do man

Don't feel like you did anything wrong or feel guilt for how +@+%+! up your brother's mind works. It's almost like he resents you for existing in "his" world. Messed up

, don't let it phase you from now on though..it's his lost

Edit: Are you the youngest in your family?

 

[thorrocksjs]

Honestly I cant see talking to him the same after this argument like its just not gonna happen.What he did created a disconnect like a numbness towards him.I remember when I got my hs diploma dude said man i dont give a f about that go away.I brushed it off but that really got me thinking.

 

[josebronx]

Damn ya got horrible siblings

I'd kill for my brothers and sister....

 

[thorrocksjs]

Im the middle kid I remember we were supposed to go to an NERD concert twice and he didn't bother taking me but he took his friend and his younger brother with him who lives down the street all the way to Austin to go see the concert and I took off early to go and was ready he made an excuse saying we didnt have enough room and time .Im the middle kid he talks and hangs with my younger brother more these days .

 

[DownByLaw]

Sorry to hear about that op, it sucks when there is distance between siblings.

 

[caput]

Most people aren't close with their siblings. I have no problem talking to my siblings but i still wouldn't consider us close.