Losing my Mom

[putting in work]

RIP to your Mom.

Hope you make it through.

My wife just lost hers 2 days after Christmas last year. She was young too like around 50-52 I believe.

She's still devastated and cries herself to sleep some nights singing you are my sunshine, my only sunshine... that's the song her mother sang to her when she was a baby and she still remembers it.

It's been real hard for her and her father. She and her mom were like best friends too and spoke all the time.

I couldn't have asked for a better mother in law bro. My wife could catch me with another chick and her own mother would probably talk her off the ledge and out of it is how much she liked me.

My wife's mother and father told me a years ago to have my fun and what not, but don't forget where home is.

She always won at the casino too, and everytime that she did she always gave me like $20-$100 depending on how much she won. I never took it though I just gave it to my wife... same with Xmas money.

Edit - also about the grandkids that's another thing my wifes mom didn't get to enjoy. We were going to start trying to have kids after our wedding this year, but it all went out the window once her mom passed.

 

[big1236]

condolences to you and your fam during this difficult time.

Stay strong, you'll get through this and if you have to, have a good cry

 

[drew]

My sincerest condolences, bro.

I can't even imagine the pain of losing one of your parents. It's one of the things that truly horrify me to this day.
One of my best friends recently lost his mother as well and it was the one time, in the close to 20 years I've known him that he was in such pain.
I don't even know how to prepare myself for that, but I've always meant to save money on the side for that certain situation.
I want to be able to book myself a trip to clear my head the moment that ever happens to me.

I would honestly look for advice in the books I read and the podcasts that I listen to. If I happen to come by any material that I believe would be helpful, I will surely post it in the thread.

Stay strong, Saint Lo , knowing that your mother is in a better and happier space.



-Drew

 

[green rhino123]

RIP Mom Lori Cuneta

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sure you love each other very much.

 

[shibadekobe]

My deepest condolences & Prayers to you and your family.

"If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world. If none of my earthly pleasures satisfy it, that does not prove that the universe is a fraud. Probably earthly pleasures were never meant to satisfy it, but only to arouse it, to suggest the real thing. If that is so, I must take care, on the one hand, never to despise, or to be unthankful for, these earthly blessings, and on the other, never to mistake them for the something else of which they are only a kind of copy, or echo, or mirage. I must keep alive in myself the desire for my true country, which I shall not find till after death; I must never let it get snowed under or turned aside; I must make it the main object of life to press on to that country and to help others to do the same.”
CS Lewis

 

[Saint Lo]

RIP to your Mom.

Hope you make it through.

My wife just lost hers 2 days after Christmas last year. She was young too like around 50-52 I believe.

She's still devastated and cries herself to sleep some nights singing you are my sunshine, my only sunshine... that's the song her mother sang to her when she was a baby and she still remembers it.

It's been real hard for her and her father. She and her mom were like best friends too and spoke all the time.

I couldn't have asked for a better mother in law bro. My wife could catch me with another chick and her own mother would probably talk her off the ledge and out of it is how much she liked me.

My wife's mother and father told me a years ago to have my fun and what not, but don't forget where home is.

She always won at the casino too, and everytime that she did she always gave me like $20-$100 depending on how much she won. I never took it though I just gave it to my wife... same with Xmas money.

Edit - also about the grandkids that's another thing my wifes mom didn't get to enjoy. We were going to start trying to have kids after our wedding this year, but it all went out the window once her mom passed.

Man... just like me I just tell myself even tho she physically get to hold her grandkids she’ll def be out there looking out for them. Watching them grow. There has to be a part of my brain she tapped into to keep me from grieving too hard. Or maybe my heart and energy just senses hers.

 

[thejrob]

Sorry for your loss.

If you need people to talk to, got plenty of fam here for you. Keep your head up G

 

[DB Cooper]

My condolences go out to you and your family. May she rest in peace.

 

[AZwildcats]

May she rest in Paradise

 

[ahat]

My condolences to you and the rest of your family bro. May she rest in peace.

 

[Bert.]

I couldn’t Imagine that

I lost my father 7 years ago but with my mom would hurt way too much

May she Rest In Peace.

 

[asianplayer]

RIP to your mom.

 

[frshstunna]

RIP to your moms and shout out to all the other NT members moms...we luv u

 

[951guero]

praying for you bro.

 

[Mr.cee]

Sorry for ya lost

 

[zmaqbool]

I'm sorry for your loss brother. It must be hard...I can only imagine what you're going through. Take it 1 day @ a time. If you need to talk/vent, I got you brother just DM me. May God rest her soul

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

My Brother, I just want to resonate the heartfelt sorrow others have expressed to you. I almost did not click this thread because i'm facing a similar situation. But I'll say this, you did the right thing by coming here to post this thread. All the faults and all this community has, it rallies behind its members during a time like this to show support. You'll need to go through the motions of not having her physically here and don't shy away from it. It is a necessary thing for you to do to make peace and continue to live on for your mom. People are going to tell you she is in a better place till your up to the gills in these sentiments and at a time that you might be sick of hearing that. But take solace in the fact that not anyone knows the place our soul goes after the physical shell is done its job as a vessel.

If you have the app audible there is a book called "Solve for Happy" by Mo Gadat. In it he talks about how he faced death after his 17 year old son died out of nowhere, and it can give you some perspective on that which your going through. Unfortunately, death comes for all of us and it doesn't tell us the time it's gonna come. But without it this life would be meaningless. Those years you had with you mom are a blessing and you'll have those memories for the rest of your life to not make you sad hopefully, but to help you remember that you are here because of your mom and to live a full and happy life before you see her again and then live another full life with her in another place.

My inbox is always open if you want to chat. Don't hesitate at all.

Everything ill be fine. Trust me.

 

[Saint Lo]

Gill Baka Esq. LLC. thank you bro! I will def see if I can find the physical book(trying to read more). First man with your situation I’ll keep you in my prayers. And I do appreciate that everyone saying she’s in a better place. Brings some sense of peace. Nobody really knows what happens after we are physically gone. But, I do believe there is a “somewhere” and I just hope she’s found peace and she’s happy there. 50 is fairly young but that’s blessed 30 years I got to spend on earth with her. Not everyone gets the opportunity for that. Wish the best for you as well keep your head up bro. I just try and remember the good times and remind myself try and not be too sad cause it’s not what she would of wanted. And lastly, I rarely post but I do recognize a lot of SNs. I spend a lot of time on NT going through random posts. It’s kinda became my life. I don’t know anyone in real life on here(probably do but don’t know it) and the support and positivity is overwhelming. I appreciate everyone single one of you guys.

 

[wayniac211]

Rest in paradise to ure moms.

 

[Saint Lo]

Rest in paradise to ure moms.

Thank you bro!

 

[GTA 809]

Te acompaño en tus sentimientos.

 

[JetsfanQ]

My condolences homey ...

Lost my moms the back end of 2015 from cancer (she just turned 51) ..i was in the hospital everyday the entire time she was there (around 2 months) then they told me she wasnt gonna make it pass the weekend..she did ..then they transported her to a rehab center for a 2 week physical therapy so she can come home ..last week in sht started acting up,went back into hospital than they transported her to hospice to pass away...was there for all of it i used that situation to make me a stronger person especially when she kept drilling in my head to hold myself down & rely on nobody...so when she passed though i was mad sad cried a few times i got by doing sht i liked ( watching & playing sports , going out to sportsbar every weekend ,being around people who was about something ,sneakers as usual, getting bunns from chicks & most importantly chasing a buck to make sure my rent & bills was paid) rather than sit around mope & go into a depression & give up on life (my pops went that route when my grandmoms died & got hooked on drugs heavy for 20+years) ...everybody grieves in different ways but my advice to u is stay on ya grind chase ya money & do things that will put u in a comfortable happy mindframe ,dont rely on nobody (family will hit u with fake love in beginning telling u they gonna be there for u,friends also... a month or so later youll see it was b.s if u choose to take they word...i had fam tell me soon as my moms died that if i get locked up dont call them , of all things to say lol) youll be aight though ya moms in a better place ..

Peace

 

[Beruseruku Desu]

Sorry for your lost OP.

My mom’s heart is in a really bad state and if she doesn’t get surgery, the cardiologist stated that she won’t be living for much longer. Only problem is the surgery is a big one and risky and he’s not sure my mom can recover from it . Have to see him again to get the exact percentages of success, etc.

I woke up from trying to sleep because the fear of losing my mom is killing me. Remembered I saw this thread so here I am posting in it.

OP I’ll keep you in my prayers.

 

[1c3m4m]

Sorry for your lost

Was randomly walking about amonth ago when the thought of losing my moms came to my mind and made my eyes water

Cant imagine what you are going thorough, keep your head up

 

[antbanks81]

My condolences to you and your family

I have become a workaholic since Mom passed. Really it started before she passed. I just use it to keep my mind off of it. When I do allow myself to think of her, I just let the pain run its course. It never gets easier. You just become stronger.