No Confidence FTL Vol. I'm Pathetic

[mitchellicious]

So, I it turns out I have no idea how to talk to women. None, nada, zip, zilch. Everytime I try to ask one out or tell them I how I feel about them, I chokeup and when I do get around to it, I'm either too late (eg. they get boyfriends) or they're just not interested (eg. they hook up with another guyright in front of me). There was one girl that I really dug for awhile and she told me that I never take things seriously. That really hurt.

I was just at work and there's a chick that works with me that I've been wanting to get at for months. I swear everyday that she is there I go throughscenarios in my head of how to ask her if she wants to hang out (eg. I'll wait til she's alone and be like "what's up? wanna catch up afterwork?") but it never plays out. Other people either enter the convo or I just avoid the topic and say "oh well, I'll get her next time".Seriously it's a joke.

I'm a funny, smart, attractive and creative guy who is sometimes too nice (which doesn't always help). I know you'll all make jokes and tell me toswallow two tonnes of concrete and harden the $#%+ up, and maybe I should, but it's not that easy.

I've taken so many losses over the last couple of years that I really can't be bothered trying anymore. I can't even speak to girls when I'm onthe drink now cos I'm so shook by all the L's. I'm only 20 and my prime is going to waste. I feel like Karl Malone.

I swear sometimes I don't even deserve a penis.
EDIT: It's only 9:44 PM in Australia, but I'll put cliff notes anyways

CLIFF NOTES:
- I am funny, smart and attractive but can't talk to women
- I take lots of L's
- I feel like Karl Malone
- I sometimes do not deserve a penis

 

[lb510]

its 3am I'm nor is anyone else reading that

 

[mf doomer]

Ouch, your coming on yourself hard metal face.

 

[feelmode]

dude, holla at girls on the internet. it sounds like your only option, not to mention incredibly easy.

 

[aintfresh]

we all get rejected in whatever form, and all you have to do is just learn from it and move on. what can possibly go wrong when you ask a girl to chill? yeahshe may reject you, but who cares? move on to the next. youre not going to learn if you dont try, and getting rejected is part of the learning process. give ita shot, maybe just talk more in general helps, and then a convo will start from whatever you may say.

 

[c money 88 05]

I feel you dude, I use to be just like that(minus the L's, I never put myself out there so I never had any L's to take)
anyway you just gotta realize they are human, you are human, both are same in every way minus the obvious difference, and once you buy into that you won'tworry about the rejection if it comes, that just means there's something wrong with that person.

You'll always take the L if you never try so right now you're at a 0% win rate, if you at least put yourself in the game you have a chance of at leastgetting 1 OR more.


Try finding something you really don't like about yourself(if you can, find something that really stops you from talking to those girls such as beingover/underweight or something) and work on that(in this case, hitting the gym then). When you work on a weaker point you feel you have and it becomes moreacceptable to you, your confidence will go up so much more because you won't have that weighing on your conscious anymore.


Also realize you don't have to get at EVERY girl you see, everything that shines isn't gold. Yea this involves a little judging which is bad, but inthis case you don't want to go up to somebody if you feel in your head she can be different than what you want(sometimes you just kinda know they too damncute for no reason but the way they act wouldn't work for you, don't worry about them worse come to worst, make the assumption in your head if you passthem up, then if the opportunity comes back and you still wanna holla you can with only up to go with them in your mind).



anyway that's all I got for now, gotta go to work

 

[dont be a menace]

same exact thing with me.. even the same age.

i toss that aside if i find out she likes me though. but if i THINK she likes me then that's still a no go for me.

 

[aznjmacan]

Crawl before you walk, find a group of fat chicks to practice your game on--learn to dance like him

 

[mycoldyourdone]

 

[phillypg1]

it could be worse

 

[fear the ibis]

Just whip it out

 

[mnmballa2323]

Originally Posted by Mitchellicious

I swear sometimes I don't even deserve a penis.
- I sometimes do not deserve a penis

 

[dropkicks]

^^

 

[antonlavey]

I'm the same way I've never asked a girl out. I can only bag girls in casual, informal settings or if they make the first move. INS.

 

[goldmember]

Mitchellicious wrote:

I've taken so many losses over the last couple of years that I really can't be bothered trying anymore. I can't even speak to girls when I'm on the drink now cos I'm so shook by all the L's. I'm only 20 and my prime is going to waste. I feel like Karl Malone.

Seriously tho.. Who cares? ...just man up and ask her..

If you feel like you've taken too many L's then this should be a cakewalk to you.. you've got nothing to lose

 

[Gill Baka Esq. LLC.]

What you need to do is stop beating yourself up over it, do a real self-assessment of yourself where you find out what your position is now in life and whereyou want to be, then find a way to get to that point.

What the poster said above me was true, we are all humans so just like how your taking L's left and right doesn't mean it hasn't happened to therest of us at another point in time in our lives. But we learned from that and then used that knowledge to further ourselves in our discourses/engagements.

Life is only as hard as you make it for yourself.

 

[jigsta05]

I'm the same way. I'm even in same situation with you with a girl at work. I'm always telling myself to ask her for her number but I never do.We've been talking on facebook but we hardly ever work together so its hard. You just gotta keep going at it.

 

[nyelectric]

You're awful.

 

[dr spaceman]

You know that girl that you always stare at and wish you were smashing? well i am smashing. no hole left unturned, fluids everywhere.

 

[k2theablam]

Australian?
You should come to the States my man. Girls will flock based off your accent alone.

 

[the kid fiasco]

Originally Posted by Mitchellicious



I swear sometimes I don't even deserve a penis.

CLIFF NOTES:
- I am funny, smart and attractive but can't talk to women
- I take lots of L's
- I feel like Karl Malone
- I sometimes do not deserve a penis

i dont really think you should even go that far, and say that.
dude just man up and execute, just ask her out if shes says no, then at least you tried, and thats not taking an L. you taking an L is playing these scenariosin your cot damn head, and always dreaming but never doing and saying i dont deserve the magic stick. thats taking the L my friend.

 

[club29]

Originally Posted by Dr Spaceman

You know that girl that you always stare at and wish you were smashing? well i am smashing. no hole left unturned, fluids everywhere.

 

[bravo]

dude im worse than you attractive girls are constantly showing signs of interest and i do nothing....i have yet to ask a girl for her number this school year

 

[JayDean03]

hey, i was in the same boat as you. You're gonna grow out of that phase. Jus go head, walk up to a chica and talk to her, ask her how she's doin,introduce yourself....etc. if u get shot down, its gravy cuz there's more fish in the sea.

OR

Refer to the Team Can I Hit It Loser thread and holla @ myspace breezies.

 

[primavera vills]

Did you just say you don't deserve a penis?.....damn fam hahaha

But never feel down about it. It'll happen some day......just be persistent but not a pest. Never shoot your confidence down 'cause it leads to anearly death. Just try to work on what you know you mess up on.....you'll get it.