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I'm missing your point.....
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I'm missing your point.....
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But in all seriousness...
I don't buy the whole "monogamy isn't natural" thing. I think sexuality, and relationships, differ from person to person, and couple to couple. That's not to say that having attraction or sexual urges towards a person outside of your relationship isn't natural, but the idea that we're somehow mandated to act on is childish, and I feel it's a cop out for people who lack impulse control - that's the only thing natural going on with them.
Personally, I'm at a point in life where the idea of having sex outside of a relationship where there's legitimate intimacy and trust just isn't appealing to me. The idea of it, as with most things, is usually 10x better than the execution, and I'm not much interested in playing randos that close; even the smell of them on the bed sheets afterwards is 'scust to me. At 34, I like to go with what I know. That being said, monogamy feels natural to me, even beyond the consequences that it may have for my relationship, though still, I do understand attraction.
If you and your girl are cool with sharing each other physically, more power to you. There are no rules in relationships except those that you draw up yourself, so if it's something that you mutually can agree, go for it.
That being said, I think I lean more towards the concepts of 1. No man wants to share his girl (and there are evolutionary reasons behind that, according to what I've been taught), and 2. Yeah, we do know what a woman in love looks like, and I'll explain the second part for OP.
From what I understand, the reason men value sexual fidelity to the extreme that we do (even more than women) has to do with childbirth - when a woman has a a child, she knows it's hers; when a woman has a child, if she's a thot, a man has reasonable grounds to question the paternity of that child. See: 'mama's baby, papa's maybe." I think that's why there's this double standard between the genders (among many others), "**** shaming", and HOH movements. Men generally don't want to give commitment to a sexually promiscuous woman for this reason, though women like to believe it has to do with fragile egos or some other nonsense. Do the knowledge.
The second half has to do with emotions. A woman in love generally doesn't want to share her man most likely because she views sex as an extension of her emotions and her commitment to him - it's an intimate act that signifies the closeness of their relationship. Still, I think there are more exceptions to this rule than the other; from what I know, most women are less hurt by physically infidelity than the idea of their man emotionally cheating on them.
Granted, while women do have sexual urges and there's a million and one stories about "what goes on behind closed doors with girls" and "they out here doing the same thing as us", the truth (as I see it) is, their sexual strategy is not the same as ours. Even if they're banging some other dude out behind closed doors, more than likely something is wrong with her relationship. MOST women who are truly in love aren't thinking about another partner in that way. If she's just randomly knocking dudes down while single, best believe deep down she's trying to get a commitment, from somebody - she's just not showing discernment. Women give up sex because they think it'll make dudes commit - it's the reason they commit. "Give me sex and your time and I'll be your girlfriend." We're not wired that way, so it's a flawed strategy.
Anyway, I went on a little bit of a tangent here, but I love dropping into these threads to share my $0.02. I feel like sex and relationship dynamics are my favorite topic of conversation these days.
#betaboyz. We in here.
I don't buy the whole "monogamy isn't natural" thing. I think sexuality, and relationships, differ from person to person, and couple to couple. That's not to say that having attraction or sexual urges towards a person outside of your relationship isn't natural, but the idea that we're somehow mandated to act on is childish, and I feel it's a cop out for people who lack impulse control - that's the only thing natural going on with them.
Personally, I'm at a point in life where the idea of having sex outside of a relationship where there's legitimate intimacy and trust just isn't appealing to me. The idea of it, as with most things, is usually 10x better than the execution, and I'm not much interested in playing randos that close; even the smell of them on the bed sheets afterwards is 'scust to me. At 34, I like to go with what I know. That being said, monogamy feels natural to me, even beyond the consequences that it may have for my relationship, though still, I do understand attraction.
If you and your girl are cool with sharing each other physically, more power to you. There are no rules in relationships except those that you draw up yourself, so if it's something that you mutually can agree, go for it.
That being said, I think I lean more towards the concepts of 1. No man wants to share his girl (and there are evolutionary reasons behind that, according to what I've been taught), and 2. Yeah, we do know what a woman in love looks like, and I'll explain the second part for OP.
From what I understand, the reason men value sexual fidelity to the extreme that we do (even more than women) has to do with childbirth - when a woman has a a child, she knows it's hers; when a woman has a child, if she's a thot, a man has reasonable grounds to question the paternity of that child. See: 'mama's baby, papa's maybe." I think that's why there's this double standard between the genders (among many others), "**** shaming", and HOH movements. Men generally don't want to give commitment to a sexually promiscuous woman for this reason, though women like to believe it has to do with fragile egos or some other nonsense. Do the knowledge.
The second half has to do with emotions. A woman in love generally doesn't want to share her man most likely because she views sex as an extension of her emotions and her commitment to him - it's an intimate act that signifies the closeness of their relationship. Still, I think there are more exceptions to this rule than the other; from what I know, most women are less hurt by physically infidelity than the idea of their man emotionally cheating on them.
Granted, while women do have sexual urges and there's a million and one stories about "what goes on behind closed doors with girls" and "they out here doing the same thing as us", the truth (as I see it) is, their sexual strategy is not the same as ours. Even if they're banging some other dude out behind closed doors, more than likely something is wrong with her relationship. MOST women who are truly in love aren't thinking about another partner in that way. If she's just randomly knocking dudes down while single, best believe deep down she's trying to get a commitment, from somebody - she's just not showing discernment. Women give up sex because they think it'll make dudes commit - it's the reason they commit. "Give me sex and your time and I'll be your girlfriend." We're not wired that way, so it's a flawed strategy.
Anyway, I went on a little bit of a tangent here, but I love dropping into these threads to share my $0.02. I feel like sex and relationship dynamics are my favorite topic of conversation these days.
#betaboyz. We in here.
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I appreciate the stance man.
I agree that there's no right or wrongs in what you choose to do. However i think that every person with a pulse will agree that there are always outside desires. To what degree they affect you and whether you choose to act on them consciously is another thing.
I feel that cheating within a monogamous relationship is the childish act however not the concept of non-monogamy in itself. In that scenario it's probably the case that you were neither able to control your impulses or have the conversation with your partner expressing those desires.
The perspective on the pair bonding is interesting though. Obviously i can relate to the male perspective but i hadn't heard the 'woman in love' slant broken down like that before. I can see the logic in the argument but is there anyway of knowing that's really the case? Maybe the average woman is just better at suppressing those urges than the average guy. Like you said the social stigma attached to promiscuous women could make them way less inclined to share those feelings.
I agree that there's no right or wrongs in what you choose to do. However i think that every person with a pulse will agree that there are always outside desires. To what degree they affect you and whether you choose to act on them consciously is another thing.
I feel that cheating within a monogamous relationship is the childish act however not the concept of non-monogamy in itself. In that scenario it's probably the case that you were neither able to control your impulses or have the conversation with your partner expressing those desires.
The perspective on the pair bonding is interesting though. Obviously i can relate to the male perspective but i hadn't heard the 'woman in love' slant broken down like that before. I can see the logic in the argument but is there anyway of knowing that's really the case? Maybe the average woman is just better at suppressing those urges than the average guy. Like you said the social stigma attached to promiscuous women could make them way less inclined to share those feelings.
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Thats not only gay part
Being completely nude and erect in front of a nude and erect dude
Putting your meat in a hole that still has the lubricants of a man (the man you need and erect in front of)
Accidentally brushing against each other ( its inevitable)
the list can go on.
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Yeah y'all watch too much porn because that's not how it happens at all. Go have some real sex and leave the virtual world alone.
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Yes because you have been in the room and watched everyone who has ran train sessions in the world
Your experience is not everyone experience
And just based on "hearsay" culture has an effect on how people approach trains/threesomes
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The thing I'd keep coning back to is b that a lot of women don't just F without emotional attachments.
Having your girl/wife emotionally interested in another man would be tough.
Having your girl/wife emotionally interested in another man would be tough.
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So what's really the pleasure behind teaming up on 1 P? Since you guys are making out to be like you just having sex with her SEPERATE but in the same room, why not just bang her individually?...lmao
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Peep this tho...2 girls running a train on one dude, will more than likely get involved physically....but is unheard of, for 2 dudes at this stage of exploring their sexuality will venture into that territory....like my man said, you open to a threesome, you are not just having sex with the girl, your are also sexing your boy to some extent.
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this is a good question, never looked at it like that way.
Never ran a train and after getting rid of porn in my life I realized it is a sexual script push on us.
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Dudes don't want to own up to the homosexual level that it takes to be aroused alongside your mans hitting 1 P, smelling his scent, watching him climax, etc...but instead want to paint it as the most alpha heterosexual and cool thing that 2 bros can do....talmbout we fully clothed b, timbs and Steeptech on. 
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Real talk my college football teammates ran train very differently then my black teammates.
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wavy daddy
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This dude steezy man smh
He prolly a frail, grasshopper lookin dude too.
He prolly a frail, grasshopper lookin dude too.
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?????
You havent seen a pic of steezy yet?
There all over NT
You havent seen a pic of steezy yet?
There all over NT
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?????
You havent seen a pic of steezy yet?
There all over NT
Im not gona stop scrollin to look at a pic of a dude unless someone is clownin them.
Were they clowing him tho
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Real talk I want wilt to answer ksteeze question k Steeze question?
I can understand wanting a female in the room while you have sex with a female but I don't get having a male in the room while you have sex with the female.
Why can't you just wait outside until your homeboy is done and when he's finished you get your turn while he's waiting outside.
Same thing goes for those videos of husbands going to watch their wives get smashed Lol.
I can understand wanting a female in the room while you have sex with a female but I don't get having a male in the room while you have sex with the female.
Why can't you just wait outside until your homeboy is done and when he's finished you get your turn while he's waiting outside.
Same thing goes for those videos of husbands going to watch their wives get smashed Lol.
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Im not gona stop scrollin to look at a pic of a dude unless someone is clownin them.
Were they clowing him tho
You won't look at a pic
But you'll have your hard meat out with another man in the room
***** please
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Yall non savage, sexing thru the boxer hole, light off candles on ** ***** just wont be able to understand.
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some people have weirder fetish's than others. I don't think it's really explainable besides that. My friend and his wife are swingers and to them it's just *******, like sport. I don't get it but it they love it.
to each their own, I suppose.
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I understand you want to explore your sexuality in the presence of another male, is not really hard to understand that concept, what I don't understand is why go to those lengths and then make it seem like "yo this is some manly ****" it's not.
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***** i aint even the one that brought this up, i defended a certain circumstance and you came out of left feild wit your inner emotions that you been feeling for years and tried to twist words.
Im down to tag team yo momma wit ya daddy tho.
Im down to tag team yo momma wit ya daddy tho.
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