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What up NT,
So after years of coming to the forum and seeing the bountiful relationship threads....I've finally decided to see ya'll out for some advice...
Here's the story: My girl and I have been together for 11 months. Im 22, She's 23, and we just graduated from college this past year. We had a longhistory before we started dating and were basically best friends (yes, i wasnt smashing...thanks) for two years before we decided to give dating a try. Anyway,we're both pretty focused on school and are each trying to incorporate the whole med school route into our futures. Recently, she's been talking aboutthe future a lot. I mean, she's got the right to plan and all, so I'm not complaining about that, but she's been asking many questions regardingour relationship. She says "I don't want to go to med school for 4 years and do 4 years of residency and be in a relationship and have nothing to showfor it." Does this mean she wants some kind of future security between us? I feel like she wants me to promise I'm going to marry her and all, butI'm honestly not even in the mindset to make that kind of decision right now. What would you guys/girls do? I'm not saying I don't see myselfmarrying her, because she is definitely wifey material, but I AM saying that my mind can't even fathom making that decision. I mean, I'm 22 and canbarely take care of myself.
What should I do guys? Should I be upfront with her and say that? Would you continue this relationship if you were in it? Any insight is greatly appreciated.
Thanks NT.
Cliffs:
-Been dating 11 months. Went from best friends for 2 years to dating.
-She wants to know about our future.
-My mind can't even fathom making a marriage proposal or anything of the sort.
-Should we keep dating, seeing that she clearly wants some sense of future security, but I cant even relate to that kind of decision at this point in my life?
Pics: I'll post when I get home im on the cell.
Thanks.
So after years of coming to the forum and seeing the bountiful relationship threads....I've finally decided to see ya'll out for some advice...
Here's the story: My girl and I have been together for 11 months. Im 22, She's 23, and we just graduated from college this past year. We had a longhistory before we started dating and were basically best friends (yes, i wasnt smashing...thanks) for two years before we decided to give dating a try. Anyway,we're both pretty focused on school and are each trying to incorporate the whole med school route into our futures. Recently, she's been talking aboutthe future a lot. I mean, she's got the right to plan and all, so I'm not complaining about that, but she's been asking many questions regardingour relationship. She says "I don't want to go to med school for 4 years and do 4 years of residency and be in a relationship and have nothing to showfor it." Does this mean she wants some kind of future security between us? I feel like she wants me to promise I'm going to marry her and all, butI'm honestly not even in the mindset to make that kind of decision right now. What would you guys/girls do? I'm not saying I don't see myselfmarrying her, because she is definitely wifey material, but I AM saying that my mind can't even fathom making that decision. I mean, I'm 22 and canbarely take care of myself.
What should I do guys? Should I be upfront with her and say that? Would you continue this relationship if you were in it? Any insight is greatly appreciated.
Thanks NT.
Cliffs:
-Been dating 11 months. Went from best friends for 2 years to dating.
-She wants to know about our future.
-My mind can't even fathom making a marriage proposal or anything of the sort.
-Should we keep dating, seeing that she clearly wants some sense of future security, but I cant even relate to that kind of decision at this point in my life?
Pics: I'll post when I get home im on the cell.
Thanks.