Try dating online man
Go to the gym and get swole
I hear ya, appreciate the words, but I've tried online dating and I can get dates and get chicks, its just a matter of me reverting to an idiot if I actually like someone, but yea maybe the right just hasn't come along....as far as the gym goes...I am pretty strong for my weight, (not for my height), but i'm not a bodybuilder type body or build....even when I was "brolic strong", I could not gain more then an extra 10-12 pounds of what I am at now...I'm build more like Michael Phelps say in a swimmer that is strong, but still has long lean muscles.....i'm sure this sounds frail, but i'm 5'11, 148....but really strong for my size, tons of push-ups/pull-ups....and thats purposeful, my dad is a tall/large very overweight man, and I tend to like to do alot of outdoor things as far as hiking and walking alot of places, so at most, I would want to add 5-8 more pounds of muscle. However I cut gluten out 2 months ago or so, and actually is why i'm under 150, i did not see any loses as far as weight and amount of weight / body repetition I was doing during my exercises. but again, this is starting to get old to just bang random biddies...Maybe i've just ******* fast forwarded through some maturation phase idk...
I have said this before on NT but my sister once told me that your 30s are when you really start living. You have time dude nothing going downhill yet.
I hear ya and appreciate the words bro. I would agree with your sister as far as females are concerned. Males I'm not so sure about....John Mulaney's joke...nothing worse then a single 38-40 year old lonely man.....even if you got loot, the chicks with you are there for your loot at that point, I do not like fake people haha one major thing.
It's never downhill.
Get your CPA. Be positive and find enjoyment in life. Take a random class or do an activity off Groupon. Talk to new people. Enjoy yourself and your time on Earth. Be positive.
Travel more and experience different cultures or perspectives. Don't be afraid of change, embrace it before you regret things.
See your posts alot man, appreciate the words, respect your thoughts. CPA is meh, i am sure I will get it, I'm sitting for the last section in October and I'm ready, I've passed the others without any problem, I just do not see a reason or a point.
Let me elaborate some as I love your points about the class and activity and talking to new people. I believe you are in NYC if I am not mistaken? if so, then I agree with you like crazy. My job with audit has me on the road all the time now, and my "base" area / where I home my house, is one of the other reasons I am actually somewhat in this funk I am in. I really hate the area I live in, and it sucks because its where I grew up, where all my family and extended family is, yet I just do not like it one bit. I'll put my flame suit on, but I am a very socially progressive liberal, and I live in a bible belt very conservative, gun-toting (nothing wrong with it, it just not my vibe or flavor of tea, i grew up around responsible gun owners, so to each their own, same with religion, just not my cup of tea), so every time I am not on the road, i'm pretty depressed at home (on top of the dog now not really wanting to be with me at my place, he tolerates it lol.
I do really believe in karma, and thats why i'm a little bit in feeling how I am. I always try to put good vibes in the air, truly do not talk badly about people, generous with money to help friends/family, generous with my time for volunteering...maybe even call me a beta male in a sense...but ehhh for another time, and maybe why I felt as if I fit into Canada much better. But i'll be honest, i've been here 3 days this trip already (of which is like my 8th time in Toronto), and i'm starting to not be as pleased with the city. This is also playing into my state of mind as well as in part of getting out of the area I am in, I want to move to either a) Toronto, b)Vancouver, c)Seattle, d)LA, e)NYC. However, 1/2 are much higher on my list as I have job perspectives and offers in 1 of the other 3 and will in all 3 once I am fully licensed. However, the process with the visa and then trying to settle and get PR / eventual citizenship is daunting and a long process, and based on this trip, making me really unsure what the **** i am doing.
I've traveled alot with my job, but I hear you, I mean I've been all over North America (Mexico, Canada, US), however no Euro countries, but I am not afraid of change at all man. I'm super open-minded and the regret thing is the one thing I worry about where I may be shy in situations, maybe I just need to start doing ****.
My motto is "****'ll buff out." We all go through it. Sounds like you're bored. Get into something new.
great motto, I try to go with "it is what it is", but that is not helping me at the moment as this is how it has been for the last 2-3 years of my life. I may be somewhat bored and elaborated on it above, but i may be striving something unattainable as well...
Sounds like you're concerned that life will be monotonous from your 30s on, but at the same time aren't sure that the things (or comfort they bring) that come to most at that age will come to you. Even the money that you're already making presents sort of an issue in itself. Getting your CPA will be big and it sounds like things are going well career-wise for you.
You also sound wary of getting too close to people. Do you have some good friends you could talk to about some of this? They're going through this transition as well so they'd be good to talk to. As for a partner, sure some previous experiences with women seem like the same thing over and over but one day you'll find a girl that will break that cycle. If you're so worried about making a mistake, take your time, don't rush into anything, and just let things develop.
Along with talking things out with some friends going through the same thing, my other piece of advice would be to not let yourself get too absorbed into the idea that you should be doing _______ at ___ age. Find and do what makes you happy.
Appreciate the reply fam, have seen your posts and we are from the same area (state, maybe not area) if I believe, but i do not want to give too much away about myself lol. Things are going well career wise, and maybe too well, I tried to elaborate on that more above in the post about my home area and lifing there...i am concerned that life will be monotonous as it already feels like that now.
That is very true, I am very skeptical of people and not very open (DRAKE no new friends right?). I have a few good friends, but not really to talk to about this, even people i've known since I was young, I'm not sure I could unload some of this on them (and why i am posting here, I really did not have much of another outlet). I am the ones that the friends usually unload on and try to offer reasonable advice. I really have not put myself in that situation before, not sure who to talk to .. Most of my friends going through a transition as well to talk to this about (guy or girl) are already married or in a long term relationship, with some of my bros even being "jealous" of me being able to bang multiple chicks, but ehh it gets old as I said. that maybe low t, idk, but not as much of a horndog as I once was. I hear you and actually have heard that from two of my good friends on taking my time and not rushing into anything and letting develop, so I appreciate that...i did try that this time, but yea who knows, maybe I'm just not where I need to be mentally to attract the partner I want.
I appreciate that and hear you on doing x @ x...however if I want to immigrate, I need to try to do it before I'm 31-32 (at least the process) so after 2-3 years when I go to apply for PR i'm still in the magic "Canadian" window age for maximum points haha.
Like I said, I really appreciate the words and support for a long time lurker. I'm going to go take a walk outside, see what is up with the city, hopefully some of the thoughts dissipate, althought that is how some came to me yesterday.
I'm still here with more of a postitive outlook this morning, appreciate the words of support, will try to check back in this afternoon fam.
