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my mom told me that one of the best things you can learn is the reply "because i said so".
"pick up your toys"
"why?"
"because i said so"
that was probably the worst piece of parenting advice my mom ever gave me we have spent/spend so much damn time explaining stuff to my kid, reasoning, dialogue, even from a very young age, but it seems to work out really well. we want our son to develop internal motivators for positive behaviors rather than live under the threat of external pressures to act right. i still yell at him on the rare occasion but so far, we have never gotten physical with him. yet. that being said, i have no qualms with parents who hit their kids. zero judgement. everyone does what works for them. there are tons of times where i wanted to slap the crap outta my son and i understand why some hit their kids.
on a side note: one of the biggest challenges i've been going through as a parent right now is the process of enrolling him in kindergarten. we've tested him for 5 or 6 private schools here. i think we've done a good job of not putting unrealistic expectations and pressures on him. i truly believe that finding a school that fits our kid is way more important than the prestige of getting him into the school with the best name but i'm also afraid that i'll feel like a failure if he doesn't get accepted to a good one and i'll also feel like a failure if he does get accepted and i'll have to struggle coming up with the tuition money that i can't really afford
"pick up your toys"
"why?"
"because i said so"
that was probably the worst piece of parenting advice my mom ever gave me we have spent/spend so much damn time explaining stuff to my kid, reasoning, dialogue, even from a very young age, but it seems to work out really well. we want our son to develop internal motivators for positive behaviors rather than live under the threat of external pressures to act right. i still yell at him on the rare occasion but so far, we have never gotten physical with him. yet. that being said, i have no qualms with parents who hit their kids. zero judgement. everyone does what works for them. there are tons of times where i wanted to slap the crap outta my son and i understand why some hit their kids.
on a side note: one of the biggest challenges i've been going through as a parent right now is the process of enrolling him in kindergarten. we've tested him for 5 or 6 private schools here. i think we've done a good job of not putting unrealistic expectations and pressures on him. i truly believe that finding a school that fits our kid is way more important than the prestige of getting him into the school with the best name but i'm also afraid that i'll feel like a failure if he doesn't get accepted to a good one and i'll also feel like a failure if he does get accepted and i'll have to struggle coming up with the tuition money that i can't really afford
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