Saying "I Love You" is trivial = True / False?

[dior paint]

Curious to hear with those currently in long term relationships think...
I personally feel like it's a something to placate a woman's feelings. Speaking for myself...I don't think it's something men "need" to hear. For example, a man and a woman can be in complete bliss with each other but I don't think a man thinks his girl telling him this or not is really something he gives much thought to. Whereas the average women, need/want to hear it as much as possible. Similar to how men don't REALLY care about the ceremony of a wedding and that the "show" of the big wedding is for women.

I'm not saying a man shouldn't a tell a woman he loves her if he does. I'm just saying that theoretically...having to say it...is really for women. What do you think?

 

[GTA 809]

Give people flowers while they can still smell them.

 

[rusty shackelford]

I love you

 

[tr1ll]

I agree 100% with your last line, OP. Most men put more wieght in actions versus words and believe in the phrase, "Talk is cheap".

 

[dabottom305]

Originally Posted by DIOR PAINT

Curious to hear with those currently in long term relationships think...



I personally feel like it's a something to placate a woman's feelings. Speaking for myself...I don't think it's something men "need" to hear. For example, a man and a woman can be in complete bliss with each other but I don't think a man thinks his girl telling him this or not is really something he gives much thought to. Whereas the average women, need/want to hear it as much as possible. Similar to how men don't REALLY care about the ceremony of a wedding and that the "show" of the big wedding is for women.




I'm not saying a man shouldn't a tell a woman he loves her if he does. I'm just saying that theoretically...having to say it...is really for women. What do you think?

I found myself always saying "I love you too". Sometimes I feel bad but then life goes on. 

 

[dior paint]

Originally Posted by DaBottom305

Originally Posted by DIOR PAINT

Curious to hear with those currently in long term relationships think...



I personally feel like it's a something to placate a woman's feelings. Speaking for myself...I don't think it's something men "need" to hear. For example, a man and a woman can be in complete bliss with each other but I don't think a man thinks his girl telling him this or not is really something he gives much thought to. Whereas the average women, need/want to hear it as much as possible. Similar to how men don't REALLY care about the ceremony of a wedding and that the "show" of the big wedding is for women.




I'm not saying a man shouldn't a tell a woman he loves her if he does. I'm just saying that theoretically...having to say it...is really for women. What do you think?

I found myself always saying "I love you too". Sometimes I feel bad but then life goes on. 

Same here

 

[young handsome]

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Forever alone

 

[moonman818]

You should never mess with another person's heart and emotions. If you don't love em, don't tell em.

 

[dior paint]

Originally Posted by MoonMan818

You should never mess with another person's heart and emotions. If you don't love em, don't tell em.

You totally didn't get the point.

 

[omgitswes]

I def feel what you're saying. It's better to actually feel the love more than to hear it.

 

[kiiing]

Originally Posted by Tr1ll

I agree 100% with your last line, OP. Most men put more wieght in actions versus words and believe in the phrase, "Talk is cheap".

Actions speak louder then words. The words "I love you" do nothing for me. So, for me yes, having to say it would really be for my lady. 

 

[rocathajordans23]

When both the woman and the man are truly in love and mean it. A simple I love you from that person at any given time can mean the world to that person. It's not needed, but I always enjoyed hearing it from my girl who I was in love with. Although it shouldn't be the confirmation needed per se its definitely nice to hear it when you know the person truly feels that way. It is a powerful saying that gets thrown around a lot unfortunately.

 

[troymcclure]

I think the scale has tipped a little towards the "trivial" side...but that is all a generalization. 
Most people who say it...well, they could be lying for the purpose of an illusion or allusion, or they might not know what love really is.

But there are instances when it's said it's meant.

But as aforementioned, actions speak louder than words.

 

[wr]

saying and doing are 2 different things. But some people beg to hear those 3 words. (Asking to be lied too).

 

[green rhino123]

when in true love, these words are powerful
even if you use a different set of words or noises that mean the same thing

don't dismiss these words if you have never been deeply in love with someone

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Thanks for bringing this up.

When dealing with a man and his woman. I find it so hard to say it and not feel cheesy/forced. I can say it every once in a while but I am very bad when it comes to saying those words. I honestly just don't think about it to be honest.

 

[hazeleyed honey]

Agreed, it is by showing actions rather than it being said. But, people do need to hear and feel not only through actions but also through words. What is wrong with saying I love you more often if you mean it and feel it? Feels good to hear it at times.

My best friend, was with a man for 2 and a half years, he never said the L word. She confronted him, and he just said it since I think he felt bad. Then, she thought well yea, maybe he just doesn't know how to express his emotions in words, and he'd buy her things instead and she thought that is how else he expressed his love for her. I knew this was not normal. Turns out when she caught him cheating, that he admitted he never knew he if ever really did love her. By the way, my best friend was so loyal to him, even when he was in jail for a year! This man was so ungrateful and is probably a sociopath, but that's a whole other story. But yes, sometimes, it does need to be said for reassurance.

 

[dabottom305]

Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican

Thanks for bringing this up.

When dealing with a man and his woman. I find it so hard to say it and not feel cheesy/forced. I can say it every once in a while but I am very bad when it comes to saying those words. I honestly just don't think about it to be honest.

I used to be real bad with this. I found it easier to say when I didn't mean it. When I think back, I barely told my mom unless she said it first.

To help you out, Olive Juice. 

 

[dirtylicious]

disagree..
while I appreciate and recognize the "actions" of my wife's love.
I still like hearing the words..