the thread about nothing...
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Why the name change doe?
Ox.
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that sounds good. sandwich?Not even trying to rustle and no AYO but I had "The Jimmy"
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never saw He Got Game rupert????
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*MIND BLOWN*
always thought your screen name said jumpmanBK as if your from NY
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What's good TAN fam? It's time for my daily ramblings.
Today's controversy stems from my opinion that a woman cannot raise a man alone. It's written from somewhat of a black perspective (because that's my paintjob and I feel it's most relevant to our community) but damn sure applies to any other color too.
Some women hate this belief of mine, but y'all might get it. Enjoy.
http://betterbrothasbureau.blogspot.com/2013/04/wheres-daddy.html
Okay, I'm here to say this, and I'm gonna be real clear about it. A few setters might be upset, but the pointers should see my point.
A woman does not have the ability to raise a man alone. Can't. Cannot. Is incapable of it.
Yeah, I said it.
I know it's not a popular thing to say, but I never knew why having this opinion was such a big deal. I'd be the first to tell you I couldn't raise a girl without a LOT of help from a woman. There's simply no ******g way. I don't even understand women, I'd have no shot at raising one alone. Why is the opposite so hard for women to admit?
I know how big a hero the single mother is touted as in our community, and in many cases they deserve the recognition they get. Unfortunately, males don't always stick around to be fathers when they father and females aren't stringently careful about who they choose to have children with (and yes, the blame goes both ways), so to see a woman singlehandedly shoulder the unfathomable burden of raising an adult whose purpose is not to stuff a jail cell can be an inspiring tale of dedication, sacrifice and the strength of love.
It's also pretty much a guarantee that their children will experience a decreased quality of life as compared to kids with a well-rounded parental system. Single-parented children have higher rates of dropouts, teen pregnancy, runaway, jail visits, depression and suicide. They also have lower rates of graduation, career salaries and general standard of living. Google it yourself. Go ahead, I implore you.
Exceptions exist, of course (our President being one of them), but the numbers don't lie. A kid with less parents has less of a chance at succeeding in life, period. It's one of those things you can't really say because it's so true and nobody likes that it is...not even the guy writing this.
What's worse, studies show that around 70% of black kids have one or less parent, and let's not pretend we don't all know which one is usually absentee. That's ****** up in a way that I don't possess the vocabulary to describe, and in my view is the root of many of the problems, large and small, that our community faces.
The whole mentality behind the sentiment that a woman can raise a man by herself fosters an unhealthy attitude: "If I decide I want a kid, I'll just get authentically inseminated by some guy and figure out the rest later. I can do it alone, I don't need no man."
Yes. Yes you do.
To an extent, the issue involves girls too. (Daddy issues do, after all, stem from the relationship with the father or the lack thereof.) However, a woman at least usually knows how to be a woman, and is qualified to teach the class to those who wish to learn the skills involved.
The same-sex parent of a child is typically the single biggest (and ideally, first) influence on their life. The term "role model" is tremendously overworked, but that's exactly what that particular person represents: the primary model of life and the roles assumed therein.
It's not that a woman can't turn out a respectable male human being with some extensive assistance from an uncle/male cousin/male friend, it's that to say that she can do so without the benefit of male influence is not just a somewhat silly idea, but it is disrespectful to the function of a father. You're pretty much calling male parents unnecessary when you say some **** like that, and the downplaying of the role of a father in a little boy's life is one of the greatest disservices we do ourselves as a people. A young man needs a person who has been a man to show him how to be a man properly, and I honestly don't see how there's any disputing that.
I love my mommy as much as anybody else, but I know for a fact I wouldn't be the man I am. The kind of man that knows if you're independent, you don't have to take anybody's ****. The kind of man who knows much of life is up for negotiation, and there are very few things one has to pay full price for. The kind of man who's there for his kid, regardless if the circumstances aren't what he'd want. (Hell, as I'm writing this my phone rang and told me I have to finish this post later. Sometimes when duty calls, other callings have to be put on hold.) The kind of man that knows attending school doesn't make you educated any more than wearing a white lab coat coat makes you a scientist, that jewelry and papers don't make a marriage, and how to pee standing up. (What? It's important.)
Although my mommy taught me how to love, what a good woman was, and how to cuss (incidentally), I can honestly say I learned as much from my father as one person can learn from another (even if I didin't want to hear that **** at the time).
I don't know, maybe I'm old-fashioned. Maybe I was just raised differently. I know that plenty of crazy-*** people come from happy homes, I just also know it's very unlikely for any little boy--especially a little black boy--to reach his full potential as a man without a strong male role model who isn't on a reality show or in his earphones rapping to him about how to **** up his life.
It was a big reason I stayed around despite wanting a kid about as much as a prostate exam from a gorilla. It's a reason why our men need to start handling their business with greater consistency and our women need to stop doing so much business. Hell, it's a reason people really shouldn't have kids until they're sure they have somebody who's happy to be a parent.
Either that, or we can keep going the way we're going. How's that independence working out for us?
Today's controversy stems from my opinion that a woman cannot raise a man alone. It's written from somewhat of a black perspective (because that's my paintjob and I feel it's most relevant to our community) but damn sure applies to any other color too.
Some women hate this belief of mine, but y'all might get it. Enjoy.
http://betterbrothasbureau.blogspot.com/2013/04/wheres-daddy.html
Okay, I'm here to say this, and I'm gonna be real clear about it. A few setters might be upset, but the pointers should see my point.
A woman does not have the ability to raise a man alone. Can't. Cannot. Is incapable of it.
Yeah, I said it.
I know it's not a popular thing to say, but I never knew why having this opinion was such a big deal. I'd be the first to tell you I couldn't raise a girl without a LOT of help from a woman. There's simply no ******g way. I don't even understand women, I'd have no shot at raising one alone. Why is the opposite so hard for women to admit?
I know how big a hero the single mother is touted as in our community, and in many cases they deserve the recognition they get. Unfortunately, males don't always stick around to be fathers when they father and females aren't stringently careful about who they choose to have children with (and yes, the blame goes both ways), so to see a woman singlehandedly shoulder the unfathomable burden of raising an adult whose purpose is not to stuff a jail cell can be an inspiring tale of dedication, sacrifice and the strength of love.
It's also pretty much a guarantee that their children will experience a decreased quality of life as compared to kids with a well-rounded parental system. Single-parented children have higher rates of dropouts, teen pregnancy, runaway, jail visits, depression and suicide. They also have lower rates of graduation, career salaries and general standard of living. Google it yourself. Go ahead, I implore you.
Exceptions exist, of course (our President being one of them), but the numbers don't lie. A kid with less parents has less of a chance at succeeding in life, period. It's one of those things you can't really say because it's so true and nobody likes that it is...not even the guy writing this.
What's worse, studies show that around 70% of black kids have one or less parent, and let's not pretend we don't all know which one is usually absentee. That's ****** up in a way that I don't possess the vocabulary to describe, and in my view is the root of many of the problems, large and small, that our community faces.
The whole mentality behind the sentiment that a woman can raise a man by herself fosters an unhealthy attitude: "If I decide I want a kid, I'll just get authentically inseminated by some guy and figure out the rest later. I can do it alone, I don't need no man."
Yes. Yes you do.
To an extent, the issue involves girls too. (Daddy issues do, after all, stem from the relationship with the father or the lack thereof.) However, a woman at least usually knows how to be a woman, and is qualified to teach the class to those who wish to learn the skills involved.
The same-sex parent of a child is typically the single biggest (and ideally, first) influence on their life. The term "role model" is tremendously overworked, but that's exactly what that particular person represents: the primary model of life and the roles assumed therein.
It's not that a woman can't turn out a respectable male human being with some extensive assistance from an uncle/male cousin/male friend, it's that to say that she can do so without the benefit of male influence is not just a somewhat silly idea, but it is disrespectful to the function of a father. You're pretty much calling male parents unnecessary when you say some **** like that, and the downplaying of the role of a father in a little boy's life is one of the greatest disservices we do ourselves as a people. A young man needs a person who has been a man to show him how to be a man properly, and I honestly don't see how there's any disputing that.
I love my mommy as much as anybody else, but I know for a fact I wouldn't be the man I am. The kind of man that knows if you're independent, you don't have to take anybody's ****. The kind of man who knows much of life is up for negotiation, and there are very few things one has to pay full price for. The kind of man who's there for his kid, regardless if the circumstances aren't what he'd want. (Hell, as I'm writing this my phone rang and told me I have to finish this post later. Sometimes when duty calls, other callings have to be put on hold.) The kind of man that knows attending school doesn't make you educated any more than wearing a white lab coat coat makes you a scientist, that jewelry and papers don't make a marriage, and how to pee standing up. (What? It's important.)
Although my mommy taught me how to love, what a good woman was, and how to cuss (incidentally), I can honestly say I learned as much from my father as one person can learn from another (even if I didin't want to hear that **** at the time).
I don't know, maybe I'm old-fashioned. Maybe I was just raised differently. I know that plenty of crazy-*** people come from happy homes, I just also know it's very unlikely for any little boy--especially a little black boy--to reach his full potential as a man without a strong male role model who isn't on a reality show or in his earphones rapping to him about how to **** up his life.
It was a big reason I stayed around despite wanting a kid about as much as a prostate exam from a gorilla. It's a reason why our men need to start handling their business with greater consistency and our women need to stop doing so much business. Hell, it's a reason people really shouldn't have kids until they're sure they have somebody who's happy to be a parent.
Either that, or we can keep going the way we're going. How's that independence working out for us?
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never saw He Got Game rupert? |I
I have. It didn't hit me that he was quoting it till after I posted
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any hear of "gangs" throwing eggs at car windsheilds?
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double
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If I told you that in a 10 minute span Prince Harry walked by me and a fist fight broke out on 2nd Avenue in busy traffic between two grown men, would you believe me?
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yes
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pics or ducktales would be my respond instead of yes or no.
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I seent the pic
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Looks like I'm not getting my wallet back. Thieves. 
$350 gone and I have to get a new license and student ID. I'm an unhealthy combo of livid/upset/prettymuchanywordyoucanthinkofmeaningmad
$350 gone and I have to get a new license and student ID. I'm an unhealthy combo of livid/upset/prettymuchanywordyoucanthinkofmeaningmad
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I believe him.
Cuz I was the one fighting
Cuz I was the one fighting
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Doubtless.
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Thank you Rck, no ducktales here. I would have had a better angle but the cop knocked on my window and told me to cut the engine until he passed me completely, hence the back of the entourage pic
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jbuttersworth34
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I accidentally pushed my wife into DA stove when trying to discipline my son and got life at Rikers. Home on a furlough to try to do something positive for the community.
Comet Ping Pong on Conneticut Avenue for the game winner!
You weren't joking about the Bathroom Jumpmankb, I got lost trying to find that thing and I had been there already with my lady before...and I still couldn't find it! I must been feeling too nice the last time I was there as they had me pulling levers and touching stock/storage trying to find the "magic button for the trap door bathroom." Voila!
so it was really family that did it papi?Looks like I'm not getting my wallet back. Thieves.
$350 gone and I have to get a new license and student ID. I'm an unhealthy combo of livid/upset/prettymuchanywordyoucanthinkofmeaningmad
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Indeed.
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Looks like I'm not getting my wallet back. Thieves.
$350 gone and I have to get a new license and student ID. I'm an unhealthy combo of livid/upset/prettymuchanywordyoucanthinkofmeaningmad
so it was really family that did it papi?
Yup.
I left it sitting on top of a shelf in my room. I need my own apartment man...
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jbuttersworth34
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Ha, that's right you did. "Everyday I'm Rustlin;"...I was so hungry, I can't even remember the one I had...I just know it had jalapenos and some chorizo on it I think. Much better than the healthy, basil, white sauce/arugula combination I had last time with the misses.Not even trying to rustle and no AYO but I had "The Jimmy"
The Wings had a different flavor to them too, but were really good. I drank a good amount the night before and had a baseball game to coach shortly after our lunch...didn't think showing up to the game spelling like a Baltimore Brown Ale was a good look for the 14-15 year olds!
Definitely recommend the spot if you are near UDC/AU.
