the thread about nothing...

Got invited to play some flag football this weekend. Hopefully I don’t move around like an out of shape dad.
 
It’s on and poppin...
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Is his fiancé aware of how ambitious he is and his doubts? If so, he needs to communicate that clearly. Are you his best man? I hope you’re really helping him see the benefits of spending the rest of his life with this girl. That’s ALOT of money being thrown down the drain if he calls it off.

It’s cheaper to call it off now? Marriage is expensive and divorce is even more of a fall of a cliff expensive. He’s not hurting for money - he’s probably already got a net worth of $2M+ and gets paid a lot at work. Most of this is that he’s scared of committing to one person. He’s already feeling doubts and thinks that it will only grow with time. I’m not doing much one way or another. They’ve gone to couples therapy, and he’s seen a therapist. I’m just here to support him either way. It’s one of those weird catch 22 things where he’s messing this up because he thinks it’ll eventually get messed up down the road. I feel worse for the girl. She’s gonna be a mess. Gave her heart to him. He’s in love with her but he’s not the sort of guy that can’t easily bounce back from this. Not a sentimental only one girl in the world for me type guy definitely.
 
He’s got anxiety about going through with this. His mom and dad got divorced and so did all of his aunts and uncles. He views marriage more of a forced bad business contract that screws the man lol. Also, I think he got caught up in the hype of all of our friends getting married and starting to have kids etc. Made him think he wanted that, but isn’t really ready for all that I guess. He’s also super super ambitious and thinks that getting to this girl equates settling down and accepting a mediocre life.

All valid points.

I love my girl to the end of the earth, but I think this stuff too. Without having to compromise and sacrifice to be in a relationship there is a lot more that you can do with a career and a life (and of course with girls lol)

This is fair, imo.

The only mistake he made was going through with it all the way to this stage.
That's a lot of $$$, time, and effort all wasted.

It’s cheaper to call it off now? Marriage is expensive and divorce is even more of a fall of a cliff expensive. He’s not hurting for money - he’s probably already got a net worth of $2M+ and gets paid a lot at work. Most of this is that he’s scared of committing to one person. He’s already feeling doubts and thinks that it will only grow with time. I’m not doing much one way or another. They’ve gone to couples therapy, and he’s seen a therapist. I’m just here to support him either way. It’s one of those weird catch 22 things where he’s messing this up because he thinks it’ll eventually get messed up down the road. I feel worse for the girl. She’s gonna be a mess. Gave her heart to him. He’s in love with her but he’s not the sort of guy that can’t easily bounce back from this. Not a sentimental only one girl in the world for me type guy definitely.

How long were they together before he proposed? How old are they?

Couples therapy is a joke, btw.
 
It’s cheaper to call it off now? Marriage is expensive and divorce is even more of a fall of a cliff expensive. He’s not hurting for money - he’s probably already got a net worth of $2M+ and gets paid a lot at work. Most of this is that he’s scared of committing to one person. He’s already feeling doubts and thinks that it will only grow with time. I’m not doing much one way or another. They’ve gone to couples therapy, and he’s seen a therapist. I’m just here to support him either way. It’s one of those weird catch 22 things where he’s messing this up because he thinks it’ll eventually get messed up down the road. I feel worse for the girl. She’s gonna be a mess. Gave her heart to him. He’s in love with her but he’s not the sort of guy that can’t easily bounce back from this. Not a sentimental only one girl in the world for me type guy definitely.

This would definitely affect his girl.

But if he’s not ready, yikes. He really shouldn’t have gone through with proposing.
 
I hate to say it but people take marriage too seriously. I think its a societal pendulum in a sense that our parents didn't take it seriously and divorce rates went through the roof so now us the younger generation wants to make sure everything is perfect before we commit. But in reality nothing is ever perfect. Things will happen and you have to have that person in your life that you know you can work through things with. That have the same end goal in mind and want what you want at the end of the day.

Its the grandparents that got it right (imo) our parents didn't. You hear of the "we have been together for 63 years" stories because a whole lot of crap went down in those years and they stayed. People lie, cheat, steal etc it happens no matter what its how you handle that stuff that makes the difference. No marriage is easy. None...life isn't easy....so a marriage won't be.
 
My windows are ice this morning I need to read NikeTalk's rules.
 
Both my Grandmother's have alzheimers.

My Aunt (Dad's side) came from El. Salvador and her and my Mom were both talking about it.

Felt so bad hearing about it.

Might need to hit up El. Slavador soon and visit. Haven't been in 17 years.
 
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