men aren't showing up to these mixers for a myriad of reasons...dating apps destroying the confidence of men might factor in but it's the general atmosphere & environment created from what men see on social media in combination with what the see & hear from the women around them...
there are also 'reviews' on social media from men & women alike that attend these type events that don't paint the best picture for guys regardless of where they stand on the overall attractiveness spectrum
What are these events that yall are even talking about?
Like speed dating?
So what's happening at these events? Just a bunch of women partying with eachother?
I occasionally attend a mixer event called "MNDR TNDR" (minder tinder) with my best friend. The name translates to "Less Tinder" in Dutch.
Only singles are allowed and they try to keep the ratio roughly 50/50, and upon entry you receive a heart pin and sexuality pin. If you find someone and wish to make clear that you've found your partner for the night and others should stay away, you put your heart pins on eachother so everyone can see you're no longer available.
In order to avoid unnecessary confusion, you have to wear the sexuality pin (straight, lesbian, bi) at all times. Trans people must also wear a trans pin.
It's usually a pretty good time and in my experience, the women are proactive and approach on their own rather than waiting for a guy to approach them.
Pretty wide variety of women. For some reason I either get approached by older women in their 40s or crazy-eyed university students who probably have BPD or something. No inbetween.
I'd highly recommend mixers like that. It can be a bit awkward if you bring a female friend, you'll constantly see dudes acting jealous, repeated questions about whether you're her boyfriend etc, ...
Those aspects can get a bit annoying but the benefits of having a wingwoman can come in very handy, more so than a wing
man imo.