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What are your opinions on holding a grudge versus forgiving? Where do you or should you draw the line with what you can forgive someone for?

Share your experiences with forgiving or not. What was the situation? Was making up or burning the bridge the right move in the end? Anyone been conflicted with whether they should give someone another chance?
 
I'm the kind of guy that forgive nearly everything, but forgets absolutely nothing.

To me, forgiveness is about accepting that as human beings we are all flawed, and we all make mistakes. I can't hold that against a person. What I can do is learn from the experience and move on with my life. Sometimes that means I have to move on without that person.

The way I see it, we lose too much of ourselves holding on to grudges. Harboring hate isn't good for the soul. Look at it on a weighing scale. It costs way more to hold on to the bs you have endured at th behest of other people than it does to accept the bs, acknowledge that it's in the past, and move forward with your life being more mindful of what sort of thing you should watch out for.

I'm trying to ball forever. Can't let these mother ******* knock me off my pivot. :smokin
 
Forgiving is tough...i mean its easy to say but to really 100% absolve someone is really hard...its not some passive thing ....... you have to use ALOT of concentrated internal and spiritual strength.

With the situations currently in the news....Charleston. ...Boston bombing.............if someone intentionally killed someone i love i could probably say i forgive them........but inside i know i could never forgive them....like my body...emotions...my soul...would not allow that to happen.
 
coconut ciroc

forgive and forget ***** I already forgot
 
Depends on how egregious the act may be. I forgive everything, in the sense that I dont allow it to eat at my soul. However, I do not forgive those who reveal character flaws, such as loyalty and trust, because you can't change someone's character and those caliber of things inevitably manifest themselves repeatedly over time.
 
Only if they demonstrate that they learned from their mistake(s).
 
At 30 years of age, and for all the self-actualization I tote about myself....I still have not learned the art of forgiveness for some people.

I've taught myself how to nurture and keep that grudge warm.

One day.
 
I'm the kind of guy that forgive nearly everything, but forgets absolutely nothing.

To me, forgiveness is about accepting that as human beings we are all flawed, and we all make mistakes. I can't hold that against a person. What I can do is learn from the experience and move on with my life. Sometimes that means I have to move on without that person.

The way I see it, we lose too much of ourselves holding on to grudges. Harboring hate isn't good for the soul. Look at it on a weighing scale. It costs way more to hold on to the bs you have endured at th behest of other people than it does to accept the bs, acknowledge that it's in the past, and move forward with your life being more mindful of what sort of thing you should watch out for.

I'm trying to ball forever. Can't let these mother ******* knock me off my pivot. :smokin

My sentiments exactly
 
I can forgive, if the person made an honest mistake. However, I will hold a grudge in certain circumstances. Especially if the opposite individual knows they did wrong, but does not want to be accountable.

That's why I think it's best to speak up, be outspoken, never suppress a thought. I can admit when I am wrong. But, harmful people who lack integrity and have a history of being habitual wrongdoers, can't forgive.
 
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I ain't forgiving a white supremacist for killing a family member.


If I do it'll be in private and not in public making me look like a submissive slave
 
I ain't forgiving a white supremacist for killing a family member.


If I do it'll be in private and not in public making me look like a submissive slave

Still can't wrap my head around how the family members of those victims could bring themselves to utter words of forgiveness. There are limits.
 
^ I just saw the Boston bomber victims speak today and they STILL ain't forgave dude...rightfully so but it just shows how different black folks are when it comes to forgiveness

It's truly a weakness
 
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It's the Christian thing to say, that's why they said it. Or maybe it helps then move on with life. Can't say I understand it either
 
god forgives when will you?
 
NEVER
 
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