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Originally Posted by debs 168
Honestly, I know way more ppl that have dead beat dads than I do females living off of welfare with cs assist. And I'm sure most of u do too, but whatever. I'm typing on my iPhone which makes it mad tedious to respond to this thread but when I get back on the computer, I definitely will.
IMO it seems like a lot of ppl here are more concerned with their paychecks and saying/doing things to the BM out of spite rather than think about their children.
Originally Posted by debs 168
smh in disgust at some of you. As a person that comes from a single parent household, that had an able bodied father that chose to !%%* every !#*@%, have multiple kids outside of the marriage, that chose to be a deadbeat dad...
!%%* you.
My mother worked her $!% off, struggled and sacrificed for me while his $!% did what he wanted.
A lot of you don't understand the struggle of some of these women out there and the sacrifices they make.
But see .. the problem is ...Originally Posted by voodoo
How many guys turned out to be deadbeat dads that were married or in a serious committed relationship? Compare that to the amount of guys that turned out to be deadbeat who met the chick one night at the club and didn't give a damn about her anymore than she cared about him. Females are as much to blame for getting knocked up by a deadbeat guy as the guy is. These young & dumb women running around these days thinking they're somehow empowering themselves by sleeping around "like a man".
Originally Posted by AZwildcats
I feel Child Support laws and divorce laws in this country need reforming. Both are biased toward the female member
Originally Posted by LadyExpensive
But see .. the problem is ...Originally Posted by voodoo
How many guys turned out to be deadbeat dads that were married or in a serious committed relationship? Compare that to the amount of guys that turned out to be deadbeat who met the chick one night at the club and didn't give a damn about her anymore than she cared about him. Females are as much to blame for getting knocked up by a deadbeat guy as the guy is. These young & dumb women running around these days thinking they're somehow empowering themselves by sleeping around "like a man".
None of that matters after the child is created. No matter how the child got there, he's there.
The child shouldn't have to suffer because their parents had a one night stand.
Does the Kid LIVE with him? If the child spends the night, has some breakfast in the morning and all. He should be about to get the CS taken off and he becomes the custodial parent with the CS coming towards him. Has long has this been going on?Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
debs 168, let me give you a scenario. My man, that I grew up with, had a child with a woman. They are no longer together but he literally has his son 5/7 days per week. For whatever reason, she still took him for CS. This pissed dude off because he was like, what more can I do? I have this child practically living with me, and she STILL pulls this stunt.
So she got awarded the victory. He has to pay child support to this son that "lives" with him.
Do you think he has a legit gripe when it comes to what is actually done with this money?
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
His father does not have legal custody of the child. If the child were old enough to get bills, they would probably be sent to his father's house since he is there for a far greater portion of the week.
This has been going on for well over 3 years now.
And for the person that said women need to make better decisions on the men that they allow to bust nuts inside of them, I agree. The woman isn't ALWAYS the victim people.
Originally Posted by GRyPR33
In DC's case, if they really wanted to be fair and equal about it, the mother should be paying the father a little. In a perfect world, the father would have custody.
Since he has the child for the majority of the time, the mother shouldn't get squat. Doesn't matter if she has bills to pay. The kid isn't living there the majority of the time.
She should be paying her own bills with her own money.
Doesn't matter what the outdated laws say, he's taking care of the child the majority of the time.
Then he should be able to have full rights granted to him.Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
His father does not have legal custody of the child. If the child were old enough to get bills, they would probably be sent to his father's house since he is there for a far greater portion of the week.
This has been going on for well over 3 years now.
And for the person that said women need to make better decisions on the men that they allow to bust nuts inside of them, I agree. The woman isn't ALWAYS the victim people.
Oh I know it.Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
Originally Posted by GRyPR33
In DC's case, if they really wanted to be fair and equal about it, the mother should be paying the father a little. In a perfect world, the father would have custody.
Since he has the child for the majority of the time, the mother shouldn't get squat. Doesn't matter if she has bills to pay. The kid isn't living there the majority of the time.
She should be paying her own bills with her own money.
Doesn't matter what the outdated laws say, he's taking care of the child the majority of the time.
You would be surprised how often the custody is given to an absolutely incompetent motherMost fathers are never even given the chance to be the primary caregiver all they are expected to do is provide funds %%# thatIf I'm having kids I want an equal hands on chance in raising them
THISOriginally Posted by AntonLaVey
Cliffnotes of everything I've said in hereOriginally Posted by Dathbgboy
I think it's necessary. No way a dude who doesn't wanna take care of his responsibilities should get off clean. However, it should be monitored and be screened so that these moochin huzzies don't get a free ride like they do w/ every other govt. assistance.
All of you saying it should be on a bank or EBT card, while it makes a good point, it would only work if the woman couldn't buy somethin then return it w/ the receipt so she can get the cash back. We all use this when we wanna get rid of gift cards and things of that nature. It would require a monthly or bimonthly audit.
All in all, the system will never be changed unless there is protest and clearly there isn't and won't be.
So why didn't/doesn't the father take full custody? Does the mother work, if so, can she afford all of the bills to have a sound environment for the child? Who makes more money? The scenario presented is based off hearsay. Just because the father says he has his son 5 out of 7 days doesn't mean he ALWAYS has him( although he possibly could). How much is child support?Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
debs 168, let me give you a scenario. My man, that I grew up with, had a child with a woman. They are no longer together but he literally has his son 5/7 days per week. For whatever reason, she still took him for CS. This pissed dude off because he was like, what more can I do? I have this child practically living with me, and she STILL pulls this stunt.
So she got awarded the victory. He has to pay child support to this son that "lives" with him.
Do you think he has a legit gripe when it comes to what is actually done with this money?
It doesn't have to be the tax payers, it could be as simple as having a "joint account" where i could monitor where the money I spend on my kids goes to and even if I had to pay for the extra service it would be worth it imoOriginally Posted by kickstart
So why didn't/doesn't the father take full custody? Does the mother work, if so, can she afford all of the bills to have a sound environment for the child? Who makes more money? The scenario presented is based off hearsay. Just because the father says he has his son 5 out of 7 days doesn't mean he ALWAYS has him( although he possibly could). How much is child support?Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
debs 168, let me give you a scenario. My man, that I grew up with, had a child with a woman. They are no longer together but he literally has his son 5/7 days per week. For whatever reason, she still took him for CS. This pissed dude off because he was like, what more can I do? I have this child practically living with me, and she STILL pulls this stunt.
So she got awarded the victory. He has to pay child support to this son that "lives" with him.
Do you think he has a legit gripe when it comes to what is actually done with this money?
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I agree with Debs for the most part. I'd bet the majority of you don't know a trifling female like you are describing and just going off of movies and hearsay.In a perfect world, there would be no need for CS because both parties would've thought the whole thing through.
Hell, half the threads on NT advocate "Smash and Dash" and 85% of those advocates are reppin' TeamRaw. %+#@, when I first joined NT there was a thread talking about should I pay child support or buy new kicks. Thread: http://niketalk.com/topic/298009/Child-Support-FTL?page=1 It's selfishness at it's finest. {NOT JUSTIFYING BUT PUTTING IT OUT THERE It's wrong as hell for the mother to spend the money on herself, but at least she has a greater chance of finding another suitor help to "take care" of your offspring. NOT JUSTIFYING BUT PUTTING IT OUT THERE}
A third party in theory sounds good but who is going to pay for that extra service? I'm pretty sure taxpayers would boycott it. Both parties should be held equally accountable, but it's easier for females to get stuck with the "raw" end of the deal (not all women want children), so it makes sense for the system to be skewed towards them. And who is to support the child once they turn 18? Do both parents drop responsibility and the kid is left to fend for themselves?
My bestfriend, his dad was a single father raising two kids and was receiving CS, so it's not always one-sided. Just sayin'.
So, who do you take the issue to if you feel money is being mishandled? And what would happen then?Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
It doesn't have to be the tax payers, it could be as simple as having a "joint account" where i could monitor where the money I spend on my kids goes to and even if I had to pay for the extra service it would be worth it imoOriginally Posted by kickstart
So why didn't/doesn't the father take full custody? Does the mother work, if so, can she afford all of the bills to have a sound environment for the child? Who makes more money? The scenario presented is based off hearsay. Just because the father says he has his son 5 out of 7 days doesn't mean he ALWAYS has him( although he possibly could). How much is child support?Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
debs 168, let me give you a scenario. My man, that I grew up with, had a child with a woman. They are no longer together but he literally has his son 5/7 days per week. For whatever reason, she still took him for CS. This pissed dude off because he was like, what more can I do? I have this child practically living with me, and she STILL pulls this stunt.
So she got awarded the victory. He has to pay child support to this son that "lives" with him.
Do you think he has a legit gripe when it comes to what is actually done with this money?
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I agree with Debs for the most part. I'd bet the majority of you don't know a trifling female like you are describing and just going off of movies and hearsay.In a perfect world, there would be no need for CS because both parties would've thought the whole thing through.
Hell, half the threads on NT advocate "Smash and Dash" and 85% of those advocates are reppin' TeamRaw. %+#@, when I first joined NT there was a thread talking about should I pay child support or buy new kicks. Thread: http://niketalk.com/topic/298009/Child-Support-FTL?page=1 It's selfishness at it's finest. {NOT JUSTIFYING BUT PUTTING IT OUT THERE It's wrong as hell for the mother to spend the money on herself, but at least she has a greater chance of finding another suitor help to "take care" of your offspring. NOT JUSTIFYING BUT PUTTING IT OUT THERE}
A third party in theory sounds good but who is going to pay for that extra service? I'm pretty sure taxpayers would boycott it. Both parties should be held equally accountable, but it's easier for females to get stuck with the "raw" end of the deal (not all women want children), so it makes sense for the system to be skewed towards them. And who is to support the child once they turn 18? Do both parents drop responsibility and the kid is left to fend for themselves?
My bestfriend, his dad was a single father raising two kids and was receiving CS, so it's not always one-sided. Just sayin'.