Where does fear of the yambs come from?

[truthgetsbusy]

i like the thrill of it.
how quickly can i mind **** her.
i'm more attracted to the puzzle than the end game, i guess.
i know i sound like a horrible person.

I agree 100%

 

[00david00]

i like the thrill of it.
how quickly can i mind **** her.
i'm more attracted to the puzzle than the end game, i guess.
i know i sound like a horrible person.

i know dat feel

lot of times once i know i won at the mental part im good

 

[dman14]

well since this is girl thread vol. 1 million, i need help figurin this **** out nt, i was talking to this girl and we were texting for a while, she was flirting with me, and i was flirting with her. Next thing i know we just stopped talking and having awkard conversations,(quick hey , wassup and bye). So when i asked her did we stop talking she said "yea" with a straight face. so i was like whatever(  i was ready to take the L), then i outta no where she says "just kidding!, and smiled. No i'm confused, does that mean she wants to keep choppin it up or was she trying to be nice about it?..should i just take the L or try and rekindle it. (she might be talking to someone else idk.)|I

sounds like you left da deal on da table..you gotta learn how to close.

"hey lets chill"

"yo wyd saturday? come watch a movie with me"

and proceed to extract da yambz

stop with the back and forth
ABC
always be closing
AIDA
attention/interest/decision/action

- glengary Glenn ross

 

[dragon]

That's that realness
Might be one of the best posts I've ever read on here.

Didn't quite catch the last sentence about iguana **** and being scared. So you're saying that even if men do not get the coochie because he is afriad, he still is winning because coochie should not validate who you are.

 

[awwsome]

WisePharoah is on to something with his post definitely. I also believe it lies in the ego of man.
If you truly know the value of yourself you should never be intimidated by another human being period.
I see it developing more in my generation growing up in this social media age it's sad but interesting at the same time.
I, like other dudes have stated in the thread love the thrill of talking to that beautiful girl you see wherever.
It doesn't have to be anything elaborate just confidence a little wittiness and radiate the belief that you have in yourself.
She blows me off? I'll live just as well as I would have if she ****** with me
Whether or not one girl out of how many billion wants you has no bearing on who you are.
All that fear is really just an illusion when you realize that you'll die one day and while your here you should live how you want.
A lot of you dudes have to throw everything you believe about women out the window and just use your intuition.
**** what society has led you to believe any man can be an alpha male, it's just a decision.

 

[hugheyfreeman]

sounds like you left da deal on da table..you gotta learn how to close.

"hey lets chill"

"yo wyd saturday? come watch a movie with me"

and proceed to extract da yambz

I got it ninjahood, imma hit her up today and proceed to close (something i should've been done). appreciate the advice.

 

[captnaj phd]

O.P. I believe that situation occurs in your chest because deep down inside whether you acknowledge it or not you believe pulling a female validates your masculinity and attractiveness so subconsciously of course when you arrive at a situation in which you feel inclined to put said validity on the line you feel nervous about the stakes. In essence you are approaching a very primal and natural situation under abnormal and unnatural scenarios. Consider the fact that in essence the male and female initial mating ritual in the human species was done in very very small and social groups ie tribes,clans etc. Mates during courtship would naturally take place within a very small pool of viable options within your immediate circle and would be females that you grew up with and were therefore very familiar with. Fast forward hundreds of years and now you have huge groups of humans living in large areas wherein they don't know 99% of the people surrounding them therefore forcing you to establish the mating ritual and courtship with a complete and utter stranger hoping that on a whim your physical appearance,presentation and communication skills are enough to win her over. I believe that these factors all play a roll in some men having issues approaching women in public. In a sense it isn't what millions of years of evolution have been designed to compensate for. It's deeper then just a fear or rejection, its a sense of anxiety from doing something that is in a sense not natural. Man is the only species on earth that's courtship ritual isn't just based upon one thing such as cunning, competition,strength, or size unconditionally everytime. With man its all completely subjective and meanders on our greatest gift and sometimes biggest blunder, choice. A broad can simply not be choosing and as a result you get hurt. With any other species if you can kill, beat up or out smart your competition you run through coochie just off the strength you won. As a human male you can be winning and still have dry iguana **** if your scared.

Incredibly insightful...our unique neurosis about the entire thing stems from the unique circumstances under which it takes place...so obvious, yet so esoteric. I dig with 2 shovels...might have to expand on this. Thanks for this post.

 

[young halo]

the god wise has spoken

 

[quik1987]

I think it's multiple things compounded with Anxiety and Fear of the unknown

Try this mental exercise:

There is a door in front of you, you know it leads to 3 possible places

Heaven/Paradise (yambs)

Nowhere, it's just a door frame

Hell (rejection)

Think about how you'd feel, before turning that knob and opening that door (approaching beezy and talking to her),

that's anxiety



Now compound that with the fact it's natural to associate hell with rejection

That's your ego trying to protect itself

Rejection can do mean things to the human psyche.



Therefore when you drink (and don't allow yourself to think about these things) it's easier to approach that door.

 

[youngdoc]

O.P. I believe that situation occurs in your chest because deep down inside whether you acknowledge it or not you believe pulling a female validates your masculinity and attractiveness so subconsciously of course when you arrive at a situation in which you feel inclined to put said validity on the line you feel nervous about the stakes. In essence you are approaching a very primal and natural situation under abnormal and unnatural scenarios. Consider the fact that in essence the male and female initial mating ritual in the human species was done in very very small and social groups ie tribes,clans etc. Mates during courtship would naturally take place within a very small pool of viable options within your immediate circle and would be females that you grew up with and were therefore very familiar with. Fast forward hundreds of years and now you have huge groups of humans living in large areas wherein they don't know 99% of the people surrounding them therefore forcing you to establish the mating ritual and courtship with a complete and utter stranger hoping that on a whim your physical appearance,presentation and communication skills are enough to win her over. I believe that these factors all play a roll in some men having issues approaching women in public. In a sense it isn't what millions of years of evolution have been designed to compensate for. It's deeper then just a fear or rejection, its a sense of anxiety from doing something that is in a sense not natural. Man is the only species on earth that's courtship ritual isn't just based upon one thing such as cunning, competition,strength, or size unconditionally everytime. With man its all completely subjective and meanders on our greatest gift and sometimes biggest blunder, choice. A broad can simply not be choosing and as a result you get hurt. With any other species if you can kill, beat up or out smart your competition you run through coochie just off the strength you won. As a human male you can be winning and still have dry iguana **** if your scared.

drop knowledge!

 

[j steezzz84]

It's bc you refer to women as "yambs" 

 

[dipsetgeneral]

different for some people
probably because you dont wanna come off wrong and have her think youre some weirdo

Exactly. Realistically, who actually approaches a girl they met the traditional way anymore? With the way technology and social norms is, Girls would probably think that's "creepy".

 

[youngdoc]

That's that realness
Might be one of the best posts I've ever read on here.

Didn't quite catch the last sentence about iguana **** and being scared. So you're saying that even if men do not get the coochie because he is afriad, he still is winning because coochie should not validate who you are.

It shouldn't but let's say you are NEVER able to pull. At some point you will start to question yourself as a man.

 

[oidreez]

Fear of rejection, lack of confidence, etc

 

[picknroll24]

different for some people
probably because you dont wanna come off wrong and have her think youre some weirdo

Exactly. Realistically, who actually approaches a girl they met the traditional way anymore? With the way technology and social norms is, Girls would probably think that's "creepy".

Nope it's only "creepy" if they think you are ugly, trust girls love being approached.

 

[tr1ll]

As someone who used to struggle with this, I have to say ninjahood and wise got it.

For me, I was worried about being deemed inadequate by someone I admired. I could talk to a chick I knew I had no chance on earth of getting all day every day, it was the chick that I knew who wanted it I couldn't talk to. I was worried about all kinds of stuff. I thought she might think my meat was too small, I wasn't gonna be good enough in bed, or I might mess it up just by talking to her. The only thing worse than flat out rejection was having a chick give me they eye, I say or do something and looks at me like I was nothing after that.

 

[freeze]

idk. i fear none.

 

[me no pass]

different for some people
probably because you dont wanna come off wrong and have her think youre some weirdo

Exactly. Realistically, who actually approaches a girl they met the traditional way anymore? With the way technology and social norms is, Girls would probably think that's "creepy".

Nope it's only "creepy" if they think you are ugly, trust girls love being approached.

 

[semf]

ever watch Wanted ?

The group's leader, Sloan, explains that Wesley's panic attacks are actually the untrained expression of a rare superhuman ability; when stressed, the drastically increased heart rate and adrenaline levels result in bursts of superhuman strength, speed, and reflexes – demonstrated when he successfully shoots the wings off of a fly.

 

[miketysonthekiller]

Self defeatism. I mean, a lot of the times I feel that men who doubt themselves before approaching a female start going about our flaws etc.. I mean, the best way to do it is to go for it right away before you mind starts playing games on you. Just flow with it. Once your mind starts racing thoughts, you pretty much defeated yourself before the actual race even started.

 

[gocop]

jus keep goin up to ******* (yambs)

it gets easier with practice

6 out of 10 times you'll get rejected but thats all good son

madd ******* (yambs) out here