Update p. 14 Does this guy have a right to complain? Vol. Help a sista out.

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There's this guy I know, the guy I was talking about in the Ric Flair thread.  I see him at my work or at his work.  One day I was at his job, and he asked when we were going to go out.  I was surprised that he asked but didn't really give an answer, so he asked if I wanted to go out.  I said, "Maybe."  He was like, "It's either yes or no."  I finally said, "Yes."  He got my number.  Then before I was leaving, he asked if it's okay for him to call me, because he didn't want to feel like he was bothering me.  I guess I give off them impression that I don't like him.  I do like him, though.

Anyway, he never called.  I've been out of town for 4 weeks, and it's been a month since I've seen him, that is until this morning.  I got back to town this week, and he came into my work.  He had placed an order, and I brought his order to him and said, "It's going to be $21.82."  His response was, "Just it's going to be $21.82?  No "'hi'?"  Then I said, "Hi."  Basically, he was saying that I didn't give him an acceptable greeting.  Do you guys think he has a right to complain since he took my number but didn't call?
 
U gave off the vibe that u wasn't feelin him but u coulda at least said hi. I'm startin to wonder about u and what goes on in ur head miss
 
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i know this might be an innate quality but why do you act like that? a lot of women tend to do this whole "i like you but i'm just gonna act like idon't" then start complaining when the guy goes off of the impression you're giving and believes you don't like him. how about you stopplaying junior high games and act like a woman? i'm sure he would've called you if he thought you liked him.. get it together.
 
its done
been thru a similar situation
got chicks number 3 days before leaving the country for a month
got back, sent a txt, no reply.
 
Originally Posted by DanzInRealLife

Did you not greet him before you went to get his order?
No, because I was in the back of the restaurant. I saw his name on the ticket, so I knew he was coming in. When the door opened, I knew it washim, so I just brought his food from the back and said, "That will be $21.82." It was so nice to see him after a month of my being out of town, BUTI really didn't know what to think since he never called me. I also didn't want to seem too eager or whatever.
 
I mean you could have at least said hi. You didnt have to be all "oh my god hi havent seen you in a month. You never called." Should have just saidhi
 
Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

U gave off the vibe that u wasn't feelin him but u coulda at least said hi. I'm startin to wonder about u and what goes on in ur head miss
Do you not understand him dissing me first by not calling? I've only given my number out to 3 guys in my life: my ex, a gay boy I hopedwouldn't call, and now this guy. It was a big deal to me, and I waited for him to call. What am I supposed to be thinking?
 
Originally Posted by SShanique

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

U gave off the vibe that u wasn't feelin him but u coulda at least said hi. I'm startin to wonder about u and what goes on in ur head miss
Do you not understand him dissing me first by not calling? I've only given my number out to 3 guys in my life: my ex, a gay boy I hoped wouldn't call, and now this guy. It was a big deal to me, and I waited for him to call. What am I supposed to be thinking?
No, he did not diss u. U started it by actin like u aint like him. Probably made him question whether or not to take the chance. U say it was abig deal but gave mixed signals, that doesn't sound like a big deal. Do u know what his schedule is like? might be busy and may have forgotten. Then ublowin him off like that when he came to get his grub may have been the sealed deal of him not callin.

Now what u can do is, the next time he comes in for some vidos, ask why he aint call. U gotta stop askin stuck up miss, u startin to fit the stigma
 
You should have been more friendly to begin with....body language a lot of the time is "louder" than what you actually say.

..judging from your post you weren't giving him good vibes and he felt that you were giving him your # out of pity.

..I think you should have said at least hi though..so yeah he does have the right to "complain" I suppose.
 
Then before I was leaving, he asked if it's okay for him to call me, because he didn't want to feel like he was bothering me. I guess I give off them impression that I don't like him. I do like him, though.
this is the reason he didnt call. if a girl is giving off that vibe she dont want to be bothered then im not calling. and most likely dude wasbusy during that time, i normally call females when im bored or i want to smash.

just talk to the man



edit: pics of OP and your avy dont count.
 
ease up guys. if she's all over him he'll either get the wrong impression or get turned off.

honestly just seems like bad timing. i wouldn't worry about it. i mean you should have said that you saw his name and that's why your the one thatbrought the food. either way don't worry. play it off and next time he's there he'll be coming at you. trust me. if not then that means he justwanted to smash and grab.
 
You're sending dude mixed signals by playing it off like you're not feeling him. That's not the way to get a dude to approach you. You don'tgot to come off as desperate either, just be friendly.
 
I hate to say this, but yeah you should have said hi first. It comes off as rude, and as if you're not interested.

Sometimes just a simple 'hey' can make somebody's day.
 
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