antonlavey
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I tend to be minimalist when it comes to my living space. I love large apartments with as little clutter and furniture as possible.
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I think thats bad advice unless the friends are being negative (not constructive criticism) about whats important in your life. Maybe you one of those cats have to have all your friends be clones or something.Man I feel this article.... Sometimes I look in my closet and say " why the fudge do I have all these shoes,clothes" could have spent that money on trips... I look at how much I spend on rent/going out and I get it.... It's like we are in a cycle of just buying to feel good or look better then other people... I don't knock anybody who wants that life but I am looking to downsize myself and travel more and get people out of my circle that only worship things instead of experiences...
Do that and you'll see a world of difference in your life.
I started giving alot of my clothes and shoes away this week.. Bittersweet but I am starting to feel some weight off my shouldersI think thats bad advice unless the friends are being negative (not constructive criticism) about whats important in your life. Maybe you one of those cats have to have all your friends be clones or something.
Nah I definitely know that life I'm going through the same thing actually but I don't have to get rid of my friends to change what I do. When they doing things I'm not into I just don't go when we on the same vibe we connect. Its that simple for me but at first its not. I also don't want to try to blame them for my situation and thats how people come off when they start that I want new friends who whether you agree or not (not trying to force you to) or more like clones of what you think you are now. Like I said earlier if they are just being downright negative I can understand but outside of that you just have to be grown and do things on your own if they not feeling what you into. Thats what I learned and do now but it took time to do that. I also don't care that my friends mooch or anything like that cause I'm not paying their bills so I don't see how that has anything to do with me being their friend or much of my concern. If you don't want to be their friends cool but no need to crap on them to make your decision seem better. I was like that and realized like I'm telling you what happens to us is our choices most times not because our "friends" are moochers and junk like that. I don't mind the tangent hell we here to connect agree/disagree with others thats the point of the NT fam.I started giving alot of my clothes and shoes away this week.. Bittersweet but I am starting to feel some weight off my shouldersI think thats bad advice unless the friends are being negative (not constructive criticism) about whats important in your life. Maybe you one of those cats have to have all your friends be clones or something.
The friend thing sucks but I have started re-evaluating the people I hang with.... It's true u are who you hang with and I am tired of the bar scene/smoke thing... Get tons of **** for wanting to do different things... Wanting to try different cultural things... Plus I have my own spot and I work hard to keep a roof over my head while two of my " friend" graduated school and just mooch off their parents and buy junk and I am just tired of my circle.... Just on a different level in my life right now so I personally like this advice... Living with little... Traveling and meeting new people who have different outlooks
Sorry for tangent
Edit: don't need friends that are clones... Need friends that are about more then just party life, my life sucks but don't want to change... Maybe u don't know that feel but at some point that life is for suckas
I don't blame them for anything... I have gone out of my way for them (sometimes more then I should) and not on some victim **** because I have had good times with them but just like dating a chick....the routines, the walking on egg shells to tell them the truth...seeing them do destructive behavior and having to constantly bail them out gets tiring and stifling and sorry it's just getting old for me.... I feel like I am not growing as a person anymore...I get what you are saying but sometimes you have let people go so they can grow and you can do the same...if you want to change,downsize,stop being so negative but go back to doing the same thing...it's like a hamster on a wheel...got love for them but not in love with themNah I definitely know that life I'm going through the same thing actually but I don't have to get rid of my friends to change what I do. When they doing things I'm not into I just don't go when we on the same vibe we connect. Its that simple for me but at first its not. I also don't want to try to blame them for my situation and thats how people come off when they start that I want new friends who whether you agree or not (not trying to force you to) or more like clones of what you think you are now. Like I said earlier if they are just being downright negative I can understand but outside of that you just have to be grown and do things on your own if they not feeling what you into. Thats what I learned and do now but it took time to do that. I also don't care that my friends mooch or anything like that cause I'm not paying their bills so I don't see how that has anything to do with me being their friend or much of my concern. If you don't want to be their friends cool but no need to crap on them to make your decision seem better. I was like that and realized like I'm telling you what happens to us is our choices most times not because our "friends" are moochers and junk like that. I don't mind the tangent hell we here to connect agree/disagree with others thats the point of the NT fam.
I've already subscribed to minimalism for years. Living with less is more.
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the reason i know what minimalism is, is because of NT................i know finnns was one of the NTrs who explained it to me i dont recall other names but we had a thread/discussion on this subject a whilllllllllllle back
Seeing some of the added things you put I understand how you feel like you feel. I'm fortunate I don't have my friends that I feel that I'm different from dragging me down in those ways. I definitely understand more now and I would distance myself from cats like that also just hope everything works out for the best for you.I don't blame them for anything... I have gone out of my way for them (sometimes more then I should) and not on some victim **** because I have had good times with them but just like dating a chick....the routines, the walking on egg shells to tell them the truth...seeing them do destructive behavior and having to constantly bail them out gets tiring and stifling and sorry it's just getting old for me.... I feel like I am not growing as a person anymore...I get what you are saying but sometimes you have let people go so they can grow and you can do the same...if you want to change,downsize,stop being so negative but go back to doing the same thing...it's like a hamster on a wheel...got love for them but not in love with themNah I definitely know that life I'm going through the same thing actually but I don't have to get rid of my friends to change what I do. When they doing things I'm not into I just don't go when we on the same vibe we connect. Its that simple for me but at first its not. I also don't want to try to blame them for my situation and thats how people come off when they start that I want new friends who whether you agree or not (not trying to force you to) or more like clones of what you think you are now. Like I said earlier if they are just being downright negative I can understand but outside of that you just have to be grown and do things on your own if they not feeling what you into. Thats what I learned and do now but it took time to do that. I also don't care that my friends mooch or anything like that cause I'm not paying their bills so I don't see how that has anything to do with me being their friend or much of my concern. If you don't want to be their friends cool but no need to crap on them to make your decision seem better. I was like that and realized like I'm telling you what happens to us is our choices most times not because our "friends" are moochers and junk like that. I don't mind the tangent hell we here to connect agree/disagree with others thats the point of the NT fam.
Edit: being a moocher( was one myself) does effect me because I work hard and they always complain about not having money but buy vinyl toys or alcohol or dro but when we go out they always look at me for the tab.... Sorry not dumping on them, I can't take care of a grown man anymore just because I am doing good and I can't listen to whoa is me stories but you not trying to change... Everybody is different...for me I find myself passing judgement and that is why I am backing off, so yeah this might be my karma but for me to grow I have to do me now....eventually they will be better people in their own time but for now I can't do it anymore... You can't judge other people but yourself and that is something I am starting to realize I do and I want to change and move on....no more tangents just my opinion, won't clog thread anymore
Aye, what do yall do with your shoes when they are dogged? I know Nike Stores have bins but I don't know what they do with them.
I want to just place them in/near a spot with homeless folks but I don't want to be disrespectful.
Good postSome of you guys are arguing too hard against this.
Think of it like this. When you're a broke high school student living with your parents, you eat what's there. Breakfast at home, lunch at school, dinner is whatever your mom cooks. That's it. Then when you get to college, everybody gets that freshman 15. Basically most freshman gain around 15 pounds the first year, because now they control their own diet. And because they control their own diet, they got a prepaid meal plan that's a part of tuition, and they're not restricted to whatever their parents have, they overdo it. They eat everything. But after they go through that freshman 15, most people realize that it's not sustainable, and unless you wanna be a fat bastard for the rest of your life, you learn to eat responsibly and hit the gym. So that's where this guy is at. All the "stuff" that yall are gonna buy and bring into your life once yall get the money, that's that freshman 15. All he's saying is that the stuff you're chasing after, once you get it, you realize that you didn't really need it all. Maybe some of it but not all of it.
And everybody saying he has no right to tell people who haven't made it to live minimal, that's like saying a senior has no right to tell a freshman to eat right and hit the gym so you don't end up with a gut. It's wisdom from somebody that's been there, that's all. If anything you should be more inclined to take their advice because they've already been through the stage where they overidulged and they realized it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. I think it's a fair statement and the guy has a point. Whether you choose to listen or not is on you, you are your own person, but don't act like he's talking out of his ***, what he said was real talk. Now that's not saying being broke is cool. If you can't take care of yourself and provide basic things then I get it, you gotta go get what you need. He's just saying you don't HAVE to overindulge,
It's actually so random this post popped up now, because I've basically been through what's he's been through when I graduated college (on a much, much lower level of course), and I agree 100%. I've been planning on filling up bags and selling and/or donating at least $10000 worth of clothes that still have the tags on them and other "stuff" that I've barely even touched over the last 4 years. And 10k is a low estimate. I could've traveled brazil and europe with my friends for a whole summer with that kinda money. I'm just saying, experiences > stuff, in my experience at least.