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I work with a guy that 39 years old never been married and doesn't have any kids.
He's been in corporate finance for 15 years, whether it be accounting, capital structure, budgeting.... He's made his rounds...
He's doing pretty well right now... Maybe low 100k range. Might be higher b/c our company pulled him from his old company, And he was at 97k there...
He told me that as a 39 year old man that has never been married and doesn't have kids... There's a totally different perception of him, and it leads towards negativity.
We discussed how society looks at these men as immature and selfish, or even gay, if the haven't married or had kids by a certain time.
He even told me that jobs look at married men as a saferbet.
Silly me, I was told companies want a guy that is willing to work his tail off, and be mobile... Take jobs where ever they want you to go.
He said that they do, but corporate perception would rather you do that with a wife and kids. They know you're going to work hard, and its a tough decision if you want to take a job that pays 20k more in Denver....
A single , no kids guy would likely jump at that and leave them hanging.
He said that being married matters in the workplace and in society... People always question whether something is wrong. He said even his mombs thought he was gay...
He responded with "Naw ma... I just getting different b*****s"
It seems like at that age... Its a BENEFIT to being divorced once...
Dude has a HUGE nest egg saved up... And is so cautious about getting married because he's seen a large majority of his friends fail at it and lose BANK... or are miserable... Plus he says he hasn't found the right chick...
He cautions me to be VERY selective about who to marry because the myths of women wanting to lock down a successful dude past 30 with no kids is SO blatant... Chicks be trying to rush him into marriage, introduce him to their kids so he become daddy... Allat...
What do y'all think about it? I'm no way going to force myself into something like marriage and kids. I just find it interesting that this is how people think...
BTW... Dude gets yambs on the regular... ... So we're not talking some lame here...
He's been in corporate finance for 15 years, whether it be accounting, capital structure, budgeting.... He's made his rounds...
He's doing pretty well right now... Maybe low 100k range. Might be higher b/c our company pulled him from his old company, And he was at 97k there...
He told me that as a 39 year old man that has never been married and doesn't have kids... There's a totally different perception of him, and it leads towards negativity.
We discussed how society looks at these men as immature and selfish, or even gay, if the haven't married or had kids by a certain time.
He even told me that jobs look at married men as a saferbet.
Silly me, I was told companies want a guy that is willing to work his tail off, and be mobile... Take jobs where ever they want you to go.
He said that they do, but corporate perception would rather you do that with a wife and kids. They know you're going to work hard, and its a tough decision if you want to take a job that pays 20k more in Denver....
A single , no kids guy would likely jump at that and leave them hanging.
He said that being married matters in the workplace and in society... People always question whether something is wrong. He said even his mombs thought he was gay...
He responded with "Naw ma... I just getting different b*****s"
It seems like at that age... Its a BENEFIT to being divorced once...
Dude has a HUGE nest egg saved up... And is so cautious about getting married because he's seen a large majority of his friends fail at it and lose BANK... or are miserable... Plus he says he hasn't found the right chick...
He cautions me to be VERY selective about who to marry because the myths of women wanting to lock down a successful dude past 30 with no kids is SO blatant... Chicks be trying to rush him into marriage, introduce him to their kids so he become daddy... Allat...
What do y'all think about it? I'm no way going to force myself into something like marriage and kids. I just find it interesting that this is how people think...
BTW... Dude gets yambs on the regular... ... So we're not talking some lame here...