TAY: IT'S A MAN THING GINA

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USABasketball08 said:
I swear, since moving to the city/downtown and having more $ than what I did while being a broke college student, I've been reckless as hell. Well I hadnt even done anything up until yesterday...



And what also turns me off to my girl sometimes is the fact that I have to pay all the bills..drives me crazy..but in her defense, when I had nothing she was helping me out with the very little that she had..but I'm talking thousands compared to her helping with hundreds so it's frustrating bros. I think regardless of whatever happens with me and my girl I'll always support her financially...
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Well that's something that will come with time. If she is career oriented and working on advancing in her area of expertise, she will eventually make them dollars. Obviously this is also based off what she is doing. However, I'd still clap DC chick. Plus from what you initially were saying, you and DC chick seemed to have been into each for years and finally, things are happening.
 
Honestly, it sounds like bro is trying to convince himself further that the grass may be greener. When you get to that point you begin to pick at details that were once passed over or ignored.

Consider what Tom said above, is she career minded? Will she rely on you like this in the long run or is this a temporary thing?
 
So it's been a while since I ended it with my ex. Everyday my emotions are at a different place. Today I feel indifferent towards her but yesterday I had an anxiety attack due to life, the break up and work.

Has anyone ever ended a long distance relationship then ended up moving to the same area they live in? I know, weird question. But did you make the move for yourself or have any hopes that things would rekindle?
 
MarcMac360 said:
Honestly, it sounds like bro is trying to convince himself further that the grass may be greener. When you get to that point you begin to pick at details that were once passed over or ignored.

Consider what Tom said above, is she career minded? Will she rely on you like this in the long run or is this a temporary thing?
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She wants to teach. Teachers here make $50K. So its temporary. Maybe yall are right. I want no parts of the savage life anymore.

I feel like when I smash I'm going to be done with this chick, but if I do that she'll continue to linger around.
 
So update on the girl I've been dating for a couple months. Reason she short texting is because she had a project that needs to get done by the end of today, so I'm in the clear. So we had that "talk" and she feels good about us "dating", she likes how we're taking our time getting to know each other, making sure if its the right thing for us to move to the next level (exclusive). Enjoy's my company whenever I'm around. Usually she jumps into relationship to relationship without dating and getting to know each other so this is the first for her. Also told me im the first for many things, complementing, flowers taking her out to new places around the city.  She ask me how I would feel if she went on a date with another guy and I got stuck and didn't know what to say. Honestly IDK how I would feel, another guy that is trying to take the girl I've diggin for a while from me. Think that would crush me honestly. Should of ask her the same question myself but I totally forgot. 

She also told me she been applying applied for a government job down in Sang Diego and other places around the States for a while indicating that she wants to move around. So IDK if I want to peruse this knowing that she wants to move. Very sweet family oriented girl something hard to pass up specially when we're getting old. So IDK what to do, stick around hoping she change her mind and work toward something exclusive or let her go n let her do her thing. 
 
JRAdagreat72 said:
So it's been a while since I ended it with my ex. Everyday my emotions are at a different place. Today I feel indifferent towards her but yesterday I had an anxiety attack due to life, the break up and work.

Has anyone ever ended a long distance relationship then ended up moving to the same area they live in? I know, weird question. But did you make the move for yourself or have any hopes that things would rekindle?
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It gets better over time man (shout out to Mugen). Don't make any rash decisions while you're in your emotions, it'll be that much harder if she rejects you. Get your bearings and sense of self and the world back first, make that a priority.
 
Mark Antony said:
JRAdagreat72 said:
So it's been a while since I ended it with my ex. Everyday my emotions are at a different place. Today I feel indifferent towards her but yesterday I had an anxiety attack due to life, the break up and work.

Has anyone ever ended a long distance relationship then ended up moving to the same area they live in? I know, weird question. But did you make the move for yourself or have any hopes that things would rekindle?
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It gets better over time man (shout out to Mugen). Don't make any rash decisions while you're in your emotions, it'll be that much harder if she rejects you. Get your bearings and sense of self and the world back first, make that a priority.
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And that's where I'm at. My current job has a ceiling and I need a job that has retirement options, vacation time, sick time, etc and in my field (public transportation), there's a lot more room for growth out where I'm looking towards which is the bay area.

I've been wanting to move that way before I met my ex. It's just weird now that I'm going up there and she's not around. Dah well, the chicks in the bay are pretty dope to begin with so I shouldn't have too much trouble :pimp:
 
Cuetero said:
Any of yall feel like your addicted to sex?
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Nah i think its more then new *****. Me and my girl can go 3 rounds, but then i still want more and then in the morning i wana go at it again.

sometimes it gets to the point where i just need that 3rd nut. Joint will be so sore but i gota get it.
 
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She also told me she been applying applied for a government job down in Sang Diego and other places around the States for a while indicating that she wants to move around. So IDK if I want to peruse this knowing that she wants to move. Very sweet family oriented girl something hard to pass up specially when we're getting old. So IDK what to do, stick around hoping she change her mind and work toward something exclusive or let her go n let her do her thing. 
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I've been through this situation before, only thing I have to say is this...
She's on the gring trying to make a career for herself, so you can't expect to stay where you are and expect for her to stay where she is because of you. I know you said you don't expect to, but let her do what she has to do and see if you and her can still manage to spread your time out and see each other, sometimes its right person wrong time.
So Stick around.
you like her enough for that.

USABasketball08 said:
She wants to teach. Teachers here make $50K. So its temporary. Maybe yall are right. I want no parts of the savage life anymore.

I feel like when I smash I'm going to be done with this chick, but if I do that she'll continue to linger around.
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Show some love for us teachers.

50k is nothing in this day and age any more but we do it for the love.
but im sure she'll help when she can

as far as DC goes though...
Let's not forget how this all started. (for those who don't remember how this whole thing started)
You've had a thing for her for awhile.
and it was always something you wanted over your girl anyway.

I feel like you need to just see what's up with DC on a more real tip,
really evaluate what you got with your girl

DC obviously wants to be the main, and has/had residual feelings for you.

you need to go find your Joshua tree brotha. evaluate this situation.
 
A lot of problems or situations I have read over the past days has a lot to deal with communication.
That's one of the most vital elements into making a relationship work.
Many people fear those hard discussions of expectations, goals, lack of support, etc..
Your not only doing a disservice to you but your mate, side piece, FWB, Whatever your situation maybe, you have to speak what's on your heart. Walking around harbouring your thoughts leads you to reckless behavior or all out depression. I know it's hard to express yourself sometimes, especially as men( it's a fine line but your mental health is more important then losing a woman) but walking around with bottled emotions takes years off your life. Once again we all make mistakes, wish for things to show up right now but a lot of times if you just step back and look at the situation ahead of you, guaranteed you have all the answers. The problem with many of us is that we don't want to acknowledge the tough problems, we don't want to acknowledge the timing may be off, we don't want to acknowledge even though the cookie is good and she has the looks, the other qualities this person displays is detrimental to our future. We are creatures of habit and fear the unknown or fear being alone.
Until you truly sit down and just ask the tough questions of yourself and what you truly want out of life, you will be out here doing God knows what.
Life is all about balance.
Finding how to be chill, ambition, polite, firm, steady, strong in conviction and when to walk away.
Until you really tune out the world and look within and stop ignore the lessons, you are doomed to make the same mistakes.
Nothing is guaranteed or owed.
Speak your truth and live[emoji]9996[/emoji][emoji]127999[/emoji]️
 
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