Being a More Patient Person

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I'll admit I'm not the most patient person and I have a low tolerance for BS. It's not like I just snap for little or no reason though, it usually takes someone continually pushing buttons. I try my best to exhibit patience, but it's tough sometimes.

I'm always in situations where:

1. Someone will do something to agitate me and I'll just be like "Really?" until they do it one too many times and I react.

2. Someone will do something, I'll simply point out that they shouldn't, and then they get overly defensive and escalate the situation.

3. Someone tries to pick a fight and I finally cave and give them the argument they're looking for.

In the end the finger always gets pointed at me like everything leading up to me reacting, and the only reason I do react, should be ignored.

Do you guys have any experiences in dealing with people like this? Why do some people look for arguments or push buttons? Any tips for being more patient and for controlling your reactions?
 
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Meditating, clearing your mind, just staying focused on the bigger picture and what matters the most.
 
Im the kinda guy who pushes buttons i think i do it because i like to control others emotions
 
I'm impatient with bad service. If someone isn't doing their job to my expectations, I let it be known.

For example, I pull into the National car rental spot at JFK yesterday and dudes are chillin the a van w the heat on. They're supposed to approach when you pull up. I get out the whip, look at all three and say, "We working today or just collecting that paycheck?" **** I look like waiting in the cold for their ***** when I'm the customer.

Couple days ago I told a waitress to never let anyone order the mac n cheese again cause it's the worst I ever had.
 
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I'm impatient with bad service. If someone isn't doing their job to my expectations, I let it be known.

For example, I pull into the National car rental spot at JFK yesterday and dudes are chillin the a van w the heat on. They're supposed to approach when you pull up. I get out the whip, look at all three and say, "We working today or just collecting that paycheck?" **** I look like waiting in the cold for their ***** when I'm the customer.

Couple days ago I told a waitress to never let anyone order the mac n cheese again cause it's the worst I ever had.
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:lol: that's nothing, fam

Maybe I'm just a loose cannon
I was at a Red Lobsteronce, and i was waiting way too long for my food. I got up, bum-rushed my way to the kitchen and started flipping out, making a scene, and told the cooks that I'll have them looking for work in Tuscaloosa if they keep this bummy service up. I ran up on the waiter (who was chilling at the bar, kee-keeing up with her coworkers), knocked a glass of water over and got in her face and demanded I get some type of food or reimbursement to make up for the time lost. Needless to say, I was off a couple shots of the Henny and was listening to M.O.P-Ante Up on repeat on the car ride to Red Lobster.
 
Another time, me and my shorty were playing slaps (the hand game). And I kept dominating her, she couldn't touch me. I kept winning. She couldn't land one hit on my hands. I got angrier and angrier with each slap I landed, and my tone got angrier after each slap. I don't know what came over me but I started hearing DMX playing in my head and I just kept dominating. She couldn't land one hit on my hands but she kept challenging me. I was getting angry to the point where on the final slap I let off a huge scream in her face, yelled something along the lines of "you can't **** with this! You could never **** with this! You'll never beat me. I'm unstoppable. I'll dominate you, don't you ever step to me" but I broke down crying almost immediately after. This time I was off a pint of E&J and 2 bottles of Becks. Seems like the common denominator is liquor :smh:
 
FlyNY said:
Maybe I'm just a loose cannon
I was at a Red Lobsteronce, and i was waiting way too long for my food. I got up, bum-rushed my way to the kitchen and started flipping out, making a scene, and told the cooks that I'll have them looking for work in Tuscaloosa if they keep this bummy service up. I ran up on the waiter (who was chilling at the bar, kee-keeing up with her coworkers), knocked a glass of water over and got in her face and demanded I get some type of food or reimbursement to make up for the time lost. Needless to say, I was off a couple shots of the Henny and was listening to M.O.P-Ante Up on repeat on the car ride to Red Lobster.
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Another time, me and my shorty were playing slaps (the hand game). And I kept dominating her, she couldn't touch me. I kept winning. She couldn't land one hit on my hands. I got angrier and angrier with each slap I landed, and my tone got angrier after each slap. I don't know what came over me but I started hearing DMX playing in my head and I just kept dominating. She couldn't land one hit on my hands but she kept challenging me. I was getting angry to the point where on the final slap I let off a huge scream in her face, yelled something along the lines of "you can't **** with this! You could never **** with this! You'll never beat me. I'm unstoppable. I'll dominate you, don't you ever step to me" but I broke down crying almost immediately after. This time I was off a pint of E&J and 2 bottles of Becks. Seems like the common denominator is liquor
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“Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.” ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

like a jedi b.
 
FlyNY said:
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that's nothing, fam

Maybe I'm just a loose cannon
I was at a Red Lobsteronce, and i was waiting way too long for my food. I got up, bum-rushed my way to the kitchen and started flipping out, making a scene, and told the cooks that I'll have them looking for work in Tuscaloosa if they keep this bummy service up. I ran up on the waiter (who was chilling at the bar, kee-keeing up with her coworkers), knocked a glass of water over and got in her face and demanded I get some type of food or reimbursement to make up for the time lost. Needless to say, I was off a couple shots of the Henny and was listening to M.O.P-Ante Up on repeat on the car ride to Red Lobster.
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FlyNY said:
Another time, me and my shorty were playing slaps (the hand game). And I kept dominating her, she couldn't touch me. I kept winning. She couldn't land one hit on my hands. I got angrier and angrier with each slap I landed, and my tone got angrier after each slap. I don't know what came over me but I started hearing DMX playing in my head and I just kept dominating. She couldn't land one hit on my hands but she kept challenging me. I was getting angry to the point where on the final slap I let off a huge scream in her face, yelled something along the lines of "you can't **** with this! You could never **** with this! You'll never beat me. I'm unstoppable. I'll dominate you, don't you ever step to me" but I broke down crying almost immediately after. This time I was off a pint of E&J and 2 bottles of Becks. Seems like the common denominator is liquor
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Youre not impatient youre just wild off dat dark 
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Meditation brah.

Start slow, just build the habit of doing everyday.

You won't notice it right away, put after a couple weeks you will notice the change
 
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RustyShackleford said:
Meditation brah.

Start slow, just build the habit of doing everyday.

You won't notice it right away, put after a couple weeks you will notice the change
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Seriously. I'm Buddhist and haven't meditated since I was forced to as a kid. My ethics professor was heavy in meditation. He used to make us do it but said it comes in many forms, you can just sit there and zone out and meditate mentally. I do this daily at mid day.

I used to have a short fuse too. Used to curse out all the petty things in life. Now I don't let insignificant events and people bother me.
 
just was pondering these question OP asked the other day to myself. I gotta get back on that meditation grind! 
 
nurture and grow some plants, seriously...that will show you the beauty of patience for that task is at the very essence of patience
 
I like to let people know that what they're doing is wrong. How else will they learn?
 
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Youre not impatient youre just wild off dat dark :rofl:
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:lol: :lol: Fax tho :lol:
I swear I think I'm Diddy when I'm off day dark
I slapped a bartender (male) one time for getting my drink order wrong. I got kicked out da club
 
On another note, I don't like waking people up when I gotta piss and I'm in the window seat. I guess I'm empathetic to their sleep needs. **** me I gotta pee right now.
 
You gotta learn how to move through it unscathed as possible fam

I suggest you Buy this book Called the art of war


Just copped from Amazon for 4 bucks shipped.
 
Sounds like you're dealing with a woman! LOL!!!

I tell you this much: never argue with anyone. If you do then that means that you are agreeing that you two are on the same level. Now you can have a spirited dialogue, conversation, etc ... but you ALLOW an argument to happen is the last thing you should do (your fault or not).

I look at it like this: Don't major in the minor. Meaning don't feed into anything that's trivial and doesn't have a catastrophic affect on your life. Everything in life is a choice. You have to CHOOSE (easy or not) to not to feed into the ignorance.

I could break it down more, but that would take another 2 hours lol. Good luck
 
You know what, reading these posts has let me know that I went about my breakup with my ex last week wrong. I blew up on her, for good reason of course, and ended it doing so. I realize some people like to get a rise out of others and get a kick out of it. Is it better to be true to yourself and let loose when **** hits the fan or practice calm composure?

I think posters are right when they say you should stay calm. If I could have done that breakup a different way I would have just ended it with more detachment.
 
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