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Not sure if this thread has been made recently. But w/e.
Talking to my ex a few minutes ago and the topic of marriage (not to her in particular, just marriage in general) comes up. She says I won't get married soon because I'm too stubborn/focused on my future. In a sense this is true because I don't think it's something a guy should do until he is ready to be a provider, care taker, etc. I told her "I can't see myself getting married as long as I'm still getting help from my mother. If I can't take care of myself 100%, how can I look a man in his face and ask his blessings to marry his daughter?" I asked her how would she view her husband if he were the kind of guy who relied on her more than she did on him. Then she goes on about how admirable that was and how she understands why I'd always avoid the topic when we were together (mind you, I've said it to her when we were dating, but some girls tend to have a bad habit of hearing something other than what was said).
But this talk got me to thinking. What does it mean to be a man in your opinion? Not just with respect to dating/marriage, but overall.
For me, it's about being able to stand on your own two feet and making a way out of no way when necessary. It's about making sure that those that you have obligations to are provided for. Being a man is being able to assert yourself and having your aura/character demand respect without you ever having to ask to be respected.
Talking to my ex a few minutes ago and the topic of marriage (not to her in particular, just marriage in general) comes up. She says I won't get married soon because I'm too stubborn/focused on my future. In a sense this is true because I don't think it's something a guy should do until he is ready to be a provider, care taker, etc. I told her "I can't see myself getting married as long as I'm still getting help from my mother. If I can't take care of myself 100%, how can I look a man in his face and ask his blessings to marry his daughter?" I asked her how would she view her husband if he were the kind of guy who relied on her more than she did on him. Then she goes on about how admirable that was and how she understands why I'd always avoid the topic when we were together (mind you, I've said it to her when we were dating, but some girls tend to have a bad habit of hearing something other than what was said).
But this talk got me to thinking. What does it mean to be a man in your opinion? Not just with respect to dating/marriage, but overall.
For me, it's about being able to stand on your own two feet and making a way out of no way when necessary. It's about making sure that those that you have obligations to are provided for. Being a man is being able to assert yourself and having your aura/character demand respect without you ever having to ask to be respected.