Hanging out with Co-workers?

[you go boy]

so ya do you hang out with your co-workers? ive been at my company for 5 years but i am new to my department i had a transfer/promotion to a new job/position... i dont really know anyone except one person who i use to work with in my old department... i dont have anything in common with anyone there and to be honest dont feel like hanging out with them outside of work... they are not bad people and are actually nice but im not feeling like hanging out with them... is that ok to flake and not hang out or am i wrong? they are trying to chill next thursday for happy hour but im feeling like nah im good

 

[nawghtyhare]

not my current one no
but when i worked at niketown years ago
i got cool with folks i worked with
still hang
we used to go out after work for drinks and everything

 

[alchemist iq]

your head is gassed cause you got a higher promotion than your co-workers. i know people like you. just stay in your lane and do you. Don't cause any unnecessary friction with people. Keep your hands and books to yourself. bring food from home.

Good day sir!

 

[Fozz]

To build rapport with your new co-workers, sure. A drink or two wouldn't hurt, regardless if you get along with them or not.

I have nothing really in common with my co-workers, but one of them opened up their home for drinks and appetizers and that was chill.

I didn't like going out on Thursdays, though. I'm a homebody and the thought of spending money for alcohol was not in my interest.

I did go to the gym and play ball with co-workers, though. Prefer that than going out and drinking.

 

[sooperhooper]

If it's people I'm cool with, of course. If not 'nah, I'll pass' is the easiest option. This may lead to some clique-ish fallout, but you're there to work so it doesn't matter.

 

[Fozz]

All the potential thirst traps aren't in management. So I'm comfortable going out with my co-workers lmao

 

[you go boy]

your head is gassed cause you got a higher promotion than your co-workers. i know people like you. just stay in your lane and do you. Don't cause any unnecessary friction with people. Keep your hands and books to yourself. bring food from home.

Good day sir!

what are you talking about lol? i dont feel better than any of my coworkers... i applied for a position that was a different position/department and got the job... i got more money and a better position but the people i work with im actually the guy that gets paid the least... im not that guy whos stuck up and doesnt make friends with people at work... im actually the opposite...a lot of my friends i hang out with are people i met at work....but at the same time the people in my department now i cant see myself hanging out with them... i cant explain it but im not feeling it

 

[Nawzlew]

i mean you only know them in a work setting

just go, what's the worst than can happen?

 

[alchemist iq]

what are you talking about lol? i dont feel better than any of my coworkers... i applied for a position that was a different position/department and got the job... i got more money and a better position but the people i work with im actually the guy that gets paid the least... im not that guy whos stuck up and doesnt make friends with people at work... im actually the opposite...a lot of my friends i hang out with are people i met at work....but at the same time the people in my department now i cant see myself hanging out with them... i cant explain it but im not feeling it

 

[dman14]

Used to but it got kind of weird when a few coworkers got too drunk and started mouthing off to one another over bs work related stuff and that effected how they work with one another. Work is already kind of cliqueish where manager has his faves which is his drinking buddies. Also, really dony have much on common with the ones that go drinking after work everyday
For the most part, i avoid it but with the ones i am cool with i dont mind.

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

 

[ahat]

Never liked hanging out with coworkers. Once my shift/day is over im done, i leave everything work related there and go to my personal life.

Ill see yall tomorrow. Peace

 

[you go boy]

^ thanks for your input... that just gives me more reason to pass... im a just make up some excuse like i have to pick my moms up from the bus stop which is legit because she dont drive....they dont know though im lying and she really goes home with my pops

 

[stuntman mike]

there is only one guy i hang out with outside the office and it’s only for fishing. i’m not even friends on facebook with anyone from job.

 

[Top Boy]

Absolutely not. Im cool with everyone at work but I would never hang out with them outside of it.

I don't like my work life spilling over into my personal life.

Getting my paycheck and going home is my only objective, im not there to make friends and I don't want to.

Once we're no longer coworkers though its fine. If they changed jobs or something and I was cool with them I guess i'd be down.

 

[8|24]

I’ve hanged out with some coworkers before, no big deal imo.

 

[alchemist iq]

i chilled with a few co-workers back in best buy days. but i tried not make any real relationships with them cause they were imo kinda crazy and untrustworthy.

their are limits to who you can go eat lunch with and people you can actually trust outside of work.

 

[Top Boy]

Adding some additional info to my last posts...

When I worked retail I didn't care.

Partied, drank, and smoked with my managers/bosses before. Smashed coworkers, etc. In my mind those jobs never mattered even when I was working them.

My last post was speaking from my current perspective in corporate where I believe it's necessary to conduct myself a certain way.

 

[degenerate423]

is that ok to flake and not hang out or am i wrong? they are trying to chill next thursday for happy hour but im feeling like nah im good

If you aren’t feeling them then tell them you have plans. I had drinks with some co-workers and we ended up getting drunk. These fools told our whole office the next day . Learned my lesson, just keep your work life and personal life separate.

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

 

[brendasdeadbaby]

No

 

[...So]

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[DCAllAfrican]

Why ask if your mind is EARLY made up already?

Seems like you made this thread for confirmation.

Hang out with the people you want to hang out with. There is no right or wrong answer. Just know the pros and cons for each decision.

My coworkers are a tight knot group. We go out at least 2x per month. We always have fun and enjoy our time.

Hell, we just went out tonight.

 

[アミーゴ]

All matters what industry you are in etc...

 

[noir.]

i work for a company that is huuuuuuuuge on building a rapport & relationships with your coworkers & they enjoy hugging also (i hate being touched), like really huge on it, we travel for business a lot & between training sessions at the hotel & downtime, people are hanging out, being such an introverted individual who doesn't like that type of stuff, i'm in my room, going to dinner solo, etc... one night i will make time to chill for about 45 minutes, then disappear ... locally, i don't hang out with them at all, i don't do company parties no matter the open bar, or any of that, also being in upper management i find it difficult to do & still maintain a professional relationship with them, but i mostly don't do it because of my introversion.