Hanging out with Co-workers?

[alchemist iq]

Yes favoritism at work creates enemies. That’s why I’m super careful who I hang out with and deal with. I’m sociable but not like that.

I’ve heard a story of co-workers going to a bar in nyc and someone fistfighting for a iphone charger. The person who owned the charger didn’t know who to give it to. The girl with the fat booty he was trying to smash or his female supervisor he was kissing *** too. They fought it out for that iPhone charger. I don’t know who won but I found it hilarious people get desperate like that for something so petty.

 

[tr1ll]

Yes favoritism at work creates enemies. That’s why I’m super careful who I hang out with and deal with. I’m sociable but not like that.

I’ve heard a story of co-workers going to a bar in nyc and someone fistfighting for a iphone charger. The person who owned charger didn’t know who to give it to. The girl with the fat booty he was trying to smash or his female supervisor he was kissing *** too. They fought it out for that iPhone charger. I don’t know who won but I found it hilarious people get desperate like that for something so petty.

Sounds like a bunch of ****boys in general.

 

[fac3 tak30v312]

If you think you're gonna be there for the rest of your life sure why not keep to your self
In my industry however, it's how I'm able to stay steadily employed. Far too often its more about your personality, than how much you actually know. On the job training is still expected even though it is not explicitly stated in the job application. It's one of those things that's used to make the employment process seem fair. Same with promotions, so far it's been the individuals that the manager feels most comfortable with and as well as least threatening to their own survival.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Fat booty

 

[alchemist iq]

Sounds like a bunch of ****boys in general.

They were females. Hears a real ****boy story at the same job .

I had personal beef with one co-worker who was a supervisor. I had bought me some rare QS Roshe runs sneaker boots. I was getting mad compliments from other coworkers males and female like “yo where you get those at?” “I like those” “yo alchemist iq stay fresh, he’s so cute” the supervisor had some regualr General release Ross outlet all-black roshes he got super jelly cause I was styling on him. Damm dude was annoying too cause he kept takling in 3rd person. Nyc cats be funny like that, though, that’s why I don’t wear my real heat when I’m working.

What’s funny I worked with another NT’er at this job, I saw him log onto Niketalk on his MacBook. I was like “oh you niketalk? Too?” I was off my NT high during that time period but I was so surprised when I seen him logged on. We were cool.

Pics of Said of roshes I had...



Recently copped these...QS Roshes was very hard to find in my size since they were QS.

 

[llerraj]

There's a fine line with being social at work. All but one of my coworkers in my department are white and 95% are women. Being the only Black man, I'm already on a tight rope between professional and too chummy. I talk and laugh when it's appropriate, but I don't want to be the gossip like all of the women are. After work is definitely a no go with #metoo being the hot topic.

 

[fluid hips]

I used to have that mindset of keeping my work life and personal life seperate. But once I started hanging with some co-workers outside of work, I realized they were cool people. The girls I wasn't checking for at work, looked delicious outside of work in yoga pants and tight jeans

It's a fine line to thread. Just gotta move correctly.

 

[alchemist iq]

There's a fine line with being social at work. All but one of my coworkers in my department are white and 95% are women. Being the only Black man, I'm already on a tight rope between professional and too chummy. I talk and laugh when it's appropriate, but I don't want to be the gossip like all of the women are. After work is definitely a no go with #metoo being the hot topic.

This. Don't fall for the okey doke even if shantell or Marla from accounitng got the fat booty under them jeans & she's tryna get this Mandingo.

Just look and keep it moving. All my years of working with females i've never smashed. only that one time when i told the milf "her hair looked nice" but she was just a worker at the target and i was contractor for my job. we didn't work for the same company.

 

[wayniac211]

When it was blue collar, **** yeah. Ended up in a brothel in TJ once and work the next day

White collar.. meh..

 

[Chiron]

There's a fine line with being social at work. All but one of my coworkers in my department are white and 95% are women. Being the only Black man, I'm already on a tight rope between professional and too chummy. I talk and laugh when it's appropriate, but I don't want to be the gossip like all of the women are. After work is definitely a no go with #metoo being the hot topic.

Yeah my job has a pretty decent mix for male/female... but the key decision makers are predominantly white.
To make it worse, everyone at my level is 40+ years old. Management all pretty much stereotype millennials as lazy and entitled. Even though I like classic music they like, or speak well, and make decent conversation. I'm still a young black dude who moved up miraculously fast. Socializing too much will quickly end up with somebody Flashing a camera when you feel comfortable... Now you at happy hour looking like Andre Hayworth .

 

[Sonset23]

These are people you see almost as much as your family...just have a drink and do what you have to do small talk and whatever then go home

 

[anomolie]

I work in the healthcare field. Majority of my coworkers are women. I’m currently the only male therapist. I enjoy working with them but they are nosey. They are constantly on my IG and always trying to hang. I’m a married man now. I’m not trying to mess that up. Often talk about sexual topics around me. I don’t take part in them. Ive been tested the last year or so. These chicks are aggressive up here in the A.

 

[ROYGBiV]

Hate hanging out with co workers unless they are mad cool.

But I will hangout with female co workers.

 

[Mark Antony]

When we were all young and around the same age it was dope. Made lifelong friends that way. Now it's more of a chore.

 

[Mark Antony]

I work IT nd our department is over the entire post. It's incredibly stressful, everyone hates us (often for things that our outside of our control or certainly mine as an individual, I have a "joke" I just work here, that's above my pay grade), so one thing our Department Chief does do well is we have a lot of organization days during work hours, bowling, at the lake, luncheons, and there's alcohol involved and we almost always get to leave early. They're basically mandatory. I don't rock with all them like that though, just a few, I'll call them my coworkers. However, I understand office and interpersonal politics well enough to know if you don't go to enough of them and your Supervisor, and Boss, and Project Manager, etc. barely know you outside of emails and that guy works for/with us, when it comes time perhaps to cut a few positions, you think they're cutting the person they barely know or the guy who goes to Happy Hour every Friday and attends the same church and wives have Yoga class together, etc? Of course being the best you can be at your job is important, but it's a thing.

Now my office mates, only 1 works for the same division as me the others are on a lower tier contract we support, kind of unique, but I like all of them for the most part. FB friends and text and everything, sometimes we'll go to lunch together. Even the females, although that's a sticky thing too with a few of them because anyone with eyes can see me and one have a chemistry even in our office conversations and she's always talking about how much her and her husband fight and are this close to ending it and everyone knows how much my BM makes me miserable.

But yea, I can see both sides. I'd say find a happy medium. It's not going to kill you to go to lunch at BBW's twice a month with them.

Even back to office things, say I have a bunch of assignments and one is for Ryan Whoeverthehell who I don't know and another is from a person I know and like on a personal level. Whose you think is getting priority? Everyone can act holier than thou and like everything is this world is decided on a meritorious basis but it clearly isn't

I took a step back in position and pay to work at this place with a five minute commute and their culture is refreshing. The IT Dept has solid policies in place, they have fun, works not stressful and the employee population loves them. Never seen anything like it. I'd be good here for a long time if the pay wasn't so low.

 

[Korofi]

so ya do you hang out with your co-workers? ive been at my company for 5 years but i am new to my department i had a transfer/promotion to a new job/position... i dont really know anyone except one person who i use to work with in my old department... i dont have anything in common with anyone there and to be honest dont feel like hanging out with them outside of work... they are not bad people and are actually nice but im not feeling like hanging out with them... is that ok to flake and not hang out or am i wrong? they are trying to chill next thursday for happy hour but im feeling like nah im good

Just go. Get a feel of their energy. You may not have anything in common, but you might have fun. If you don't like it, leave. Its easy.

 

[grimeyy]

Some of my former co-workers have become my closest friends. 2 will be my groomsmen this year

 

[datznasty]

I took a step back in position and pay to work at this place with a five minute commute and their culture is refreshing. The IT Dept has solid policies in place, they have fun, works not stressful and the employee population loves them. Never seen anything like it. I'd be good here for a long time if the pay wasn't so low.

They took everything off site here in terms of SCCM, servers, etc. so when **** is down (which is far too often) there's nothing we can do about it but let everyone be mad at us and tell us we ain't **** and they hate us ("We are aware sir there's a ticket in, we're investigating the cause. No I don't have an ETA

Then our contractor company stay on us about tickets when we dont even get to log into Remedy to track our work or to pull and resolve tickets because we're so swamped with walk ins. And of course they cut our pay every time the contract comes up. I'm tired of it altogether. If I didnt have such boujie tastes I'd just fall back to athletics and make half

I got this DIACAP to RMF gig tentatively lined up though so I can get out of these sys admin world altogether though

edit: because I always imagine someone who knows me is on NT and going to blackmail me but it never happens

 

[Mark Antony]

They took everything off site here in terms of SCCM, servers, etc. so when **** is down (which is far too often) there's nothing we can do about it but let everyone be made at us and tell us we ain't **** and they hate us. Even imaging, which we have to do often because of IA department's scan sucks and literally quarantined/disabled 30% of computers on base and because the image (which again we didn't make, comes from another post) is super buggy and crashes, after staging the computer to get imaged it takes 2 weeks for it to trickle back down to our server and you be allowed to image it and get a pxe offer. 2 weeks! That's no way to provide service and again us being the front facing ones, it's like, "yea you're going to be down a while,... I agree they should just let us reimage it on the spot... I know it'd be much easier.... that's a command decision, I just work here." Same time, people are kind of used to it, our base is probably the worst in terms of IT because of such regulations and policies.

Yeah I know how it is being the face of IT with no support from your own department. **** is stressful. And they're limiting your value too by taking those things away from you.

 

[Smokecitykicks]

I've been fired because I don't socialize with co-workers.

 

[heatpinoyboy]

Where i work socializing outside of work is very common. It helps that most of my coworkers were around the same age as me, but even those that were a little older were down to just kick it.

And we aint doing anything crazy, a happy hour here or there, maybe grab dinner with a few folks after a long day. Never had any friction and never saw anyone in my department take an L because of outside work stuff.

 

[datznasty]

Yeah I know how it is being the face of IT with no support from your own department. **** is stressful. And they're limiting your value too by taking those things away from you.

When I changed my user name on indeed from this goofy *** email I made when I was 12 to first.last.#@gmail.com and checked the willing to move box I was getting calls left and right. IBM in Fairfax, VA which is South so it's not like the tri state, culture wise and cost of living wise it's probbly more like a Southern state since it's right close to Kentucky and North Carolina. If you want to look into it, they offered a BAG. Even her low end estimate had me like

 

[Chopper]

I've been fired because I don't socialize with co-workers.

Good thing you got a range of professional sports to fall back on.

 

[kickvicisous]

I work IT nd our department is over the entire post. It's incredibly stressful, everyone hates us (often for things that our outside of our control or certainly mine as an individual, I have a "joke" I just work here, that's above my pay grade), so one thing our Department Chief does do well is we have a lot of organization days during work hours, bowling, at the lake, luncheons, and there's alcohol involved and we almost always get to leave early. They're basically mandatory. I don't rock with all them like that though, just a few, I'll call them my coworkers. However, I understand office and interpersonal politics well enough to know if you don't go to enough of them and your Supervisor, and Boss, and Project Manager, etc. barely know you outside of emails and that guy works for/with us, when it comes time perhaps to cut a few positions, you think they're cutting the person they barely know or the guy who goes to Happy Hour every Friday and attends the same church and wives have Yoga class together, etc? Of course being the best you can be at your job is important, but it's a thing.

Now my office mates, only 1 works for the same division as me the others are on a lower tier contract we support, kind of unique, but I like all of them for the most part. FB friends and text and everything, sometimes we'll go to lunch together. Even the females, although that's a sticky thing too with a few of them because anyone with eyes can see me and one have a chemistry even in our office conversations and she's always talking about how much her and her husband fight and are this close to ending it and everyone knows how much my BM makes me miserable.

But yea, I can see both sides. I'd say find a happy medium. It's not going to kill you to go to lunch at BBW's twice a month with them.

Even back to office things, say I have a bunch of assignments and one is for Ryan Whoeverthehell who I don't know and another is from a person I know and like on a personal level. Whose you think is getting priority? Everyone can act holier than thou and like everything is this world is decided on a meritorious basis but it clearly isn't

Glad as hell I read through the thread before posting, this describes my job to T (Most of IT in general). My job has multiple contracts with companies to support their IT infrastructure and the main one I work at is mostly rachet chicks with multiple kids and baby daddy issues. I made sure to have a great working relationship with department heads to reinforce my worth with my higher ups. Only people I talk to like that are the mail and facilities department's because were all underappreciated.

My actual company is pretty diverse and our CEO is middle eastern, not sure if its cultural but he treats everyone like family and wants us all to be really close. I make sure to keep up appearances and with everyone but other than a happy hour I'm not personally trying to hang out with these people. Most of them are in their upper 30s and have kids so we dont have much in common. My immediate supervisors love sports and video games so we have a pretty good relationship but I wouldn't go out with them consistently either. I wouldn't suggest partying with co-workers every weekend but politicking can contribute to your growth in a company. Just proceed with caution. This only for a corporate environment though

 

[dipsetgeneral]

If it's people I'm cool with, of course. If not 'nah, I'll pass' is the easiest option. This may lead to some clique-ish fallout, but you're there to work so it doesn't matter.

Exactly.