Hanging out with Co-workers?

[アミーゴ]

For instance, Marketing is ALL about who you know and the connections you make. Always have HH’s, team get together etc. Company culture is becoming a huge deal. Top talent wants to work where they feel welcomed and enjoy it.

 

[adobecs4]

Met two of my best homies back when I worked retail. But now, in a different environment? **** no. Couldn't care less about them folks.

 

[antidope]

All matters what industry you are in etc...

This. A big part of my jobs interview process is seeing if they can stand to be around you. If you're going to spend 12-16 hours a day around these people you're gonna end up hanging out with them at some point. It won't work otherwise.

 

[isco]

negative

 

[Nereyda Vuelve Por Dios]

Not really. Never worked at a “hip” company with young people. Especially now with a child. Time is limited.

But I be seeing these young thangs coming into my building, as it has a couple of start ups and millneual-type businesses, and I’m like damn. I would be feasting good if I worked there. Slaying them left and right.

 

[tr1ll]

Nothing wrong with hanging out with coworkers, if y’all are GENUINELY cool with each. You talk to them at work all the time, if y’all have things in common, give it a shot. Some of my best friends are ex-coworkers. I say “ex”, because we all have different jobs now.

Let me ask YOU a question with, OP. If you were to get transferred to another position in another city, who would you hang out with? Would you hangout at all? Would you cop a sexbot and hangout vicariously with your old homies via social media?

 

[jape]

i hang out every once in a while
only for drinks though
i work with a lot of women though so i keep my distance

no me too's over here

 

[macbk]

During MLB season a few of us will grab lunch at the bar if the Yankees have a day game. The same group of us has hung out after work events for a bit, but I've never made off-day/weekend plans with anyone.

 

[Chiron]

There is one guy at my job that I can hang out with in real life.
Occasionally our small department of 6 people tries to set up a karaoke night. I don't mind showing up. Sing a song and dip.
But actually kicking it / hanging out... with alcohol on the scene. Inviting people to the crib. Heck no.

 

[s-blaze]

Career or dream job I wouldn't advise it.

If its a part time job, retail etc. Go for it, those lot in particular are revolving doors.

 

[macbk]

Career or dream job I wouldn't advise it.

How come tho? If it's a career job and you've cemented yourself for the foreseeable future, why not get to know your peers who likely are there for similar reasons that you have?

 

[tr1ll]

What the hell do y’all doing with your personal time that you think it’s a bad career move to hangout??? How do you think people “network”??

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Career or dream job I wouldn't advise it.

If its a part time job, retail etc. Go for it, those lot in particular are revolving doors.

Logic?

 

[s-blaze]

You don't want anything like "a bad joke at the bar" to come back to work the next day or a presentation at work. It can jeopardize future conversations.

 

[s-blaze]

These are sensitive times. And truth be told, we live in "I'll sue you" or sexual harassment society. You don't want to put that degree or certificate you worked so hard for on the line, just to be at peace with some co-workers.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

These are sensitive times. And truth be told, we live in "I'll sue you" or sexual harassment society. You don't want to put that degree or certificate you worked so hard for on the line, just to be at peace with some co-workers.

I completely understand this approach. I do.

If this is what a person uses to justify NOT hanging out with their co-workers, outside of work, I completely understand.

 

[Chiron]

How come tho? If it's a career job and you've cemented yourself for the foreseeable future, why not get to know your peers who likely are there for similar reasons that you have?

Cemented is the key word. Not all careers can be generalized... But unless you have gotten all the promotions and opportunities you were looking for in the organization.... Being cemented is not a good thing. Hanging out with people can really take some shine off of your perceived professionalism and work ethic. It opens you up to drama in the workplace. It destroys the illusion that you do nothing but grind for the company.

 

[tr1ll]

You don't want anything like "a bad joke at the bar" to come back to work the next day or a presentation at work. It can jeopardize future conversations.

Social skills.

If you know how to gauge people this won’t be a problem. Talk to them AT WORK, feel them out. If you feel like something like that would happen, don’t hang.

 

[Chopper]

Yes. Some of my best homies are co-workers or former co-workers.

 

[アミーゴ]

Career or dream job I wouldn't advise it.

If its a part time job, retail etc. Go for it, those lot in particular are revolving doors.

Lol I work at a Fortune 50 and it’s all about culture so everyone basically hangs out. Never any drama. Matter of fact, I’m getting drinks with 4 of my guys from work right now, and I manage one of them.

 

[s-blaze]

Social skills.

If you know how to gauge people this won’t be a problem. Talk to them AT WORK, feel them out. If you feel like something like that would happen, don’t hang.

Lol I work at a Fortune 50 and it’s all about culture so everyone basically hangs out. Never any drama. Matter of fact, I’m getting drinks with 4 of my guys from work right now, and I manage one of them.

I'm glad, truly. More power to you, like I stated, I wouldn't advise it.

 

[アミーゴ]

I'm glad, truly. More power to you, like I stated, I wouldn't advise it.

I used to think like you did, but if the company culture calls for it...

 

[Kaleo15]

Been getting invited to “Ultimate Frisbee” every weekend since last Summer.

And every time they bring it up, I laugh

FOH with that ***** ****.

 

[rbk93]

I've done it a few times, had fun with them, but then again, I'm not the most sociable person.

Prefer more intimate settings as I respect privacy.

 

[datznasty]

I work IT nd our department is over the entire post. It's incredibly stressful, everyone hates us (often for things that our outside of our control or certainly mine as an individual, I have a "joke" I just work here, that's above my pay grade), so one thing our Department Chief does do well is we have a lot of organization days during work hours, bowling, at the lake, luncheons, and there's alcohol involved and we almost always get to leave early. They're basically mandatory. I don't rock with all them like that though, just a few, I'll call them my coworkers. However, I understand office and interpersonal politics well enough to know if you don't go to enough of them and your Supervisor, and Boss, and Project Manager, etc. barely know you outside of emails and that guy works for/with us, when it comes time perhaps to cut a few positions, you think they're cutting the person they barely know or the guy who goes to Happy Hour every Friday and attends the same church and wives have Yoga class together, etc? Of course being the best you can be at your job is important, but it's a thing.

Now my office mates, only 1 works for the same division as me the others are on a lower tier contract we support, kind of unique, but I like all of them for the most part. FB friends and text and everything, sometimes we'll go to lunch together. Even the females, although that's a sticky thing too with a few of them because anyone with eyes can see me and one have a chemistry even in our office conversations and she's always talking about how much her and her husband fight and are this close to ending it and everyone knows how much my BM makes me miserable.

But yea, I can see both sides. I'd say find a happy medium. It's not going to kill you to go to lunch at BBW's twice a month with them.

Even back to office things, say I have a bunch of assignments and one is for Ryan Whoeverthehell who I don't know and another is from a person I know and like on a personal level. Whose you think is getting priority? Everyone can act holier than thou and like everything is this world is decided on a meritorious basis but it clearly isn't