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Yepp one of those girlfriend help threads again, but caught up in quite a situation that I need advise on what to do.
Alright here's the case, I'm a 16 y/o dating a 17 y/o, sort of a long distance relationship(30miles apart). We've been seeingeach other for about 4 months already and its been going good, at least until now. Well we've managed to see each other at least 2-3times a week by eithertaking the train or meeting up at places, with her having quite a tight schedule with normal school, night school 2 times a week, and her being part of a lawenforcement academy on Saturday's…..so she's pretty overwhelmed and stressed most of the time. Well first of all. Yeah, I admit that I've fallenfor this girl. Main reason that she isn't like the majority of girls around my age that care about partying and #%%#. She's the mature type that hasher mind already set on what she wants to accomplish and is actually sticking to that. In a couple a months she'll be heading to college while I'llstill be completing my senior year.
Well, throughout the relationship we've both tested each other's honesty out and we've both been straighout with each other(due to previous experiences with the ex's and what not). But the issue I'm currently having is that at times when I'm not able to communicate withher(due to being busy, at times) and is wanting to talk she goes and talks about with someone else, she's gotten to the point where she goes to her guyfriends, and talks to them, the times that Im not "there" for her(since she hardly has any female friends). I'm not able to spend time with herdue to the distance and schedule she holds and no driving permit. Lately this entire month its been nonstop arguing about me not trusting guy's intentionsand her telling me not to worry about it and that I think about it way too much and that they're just there to talk, which I know is pure BS for a guy toJUST get close. The main dude that she's been talking to these past days is the one she almost got with before me. I've recently become paranoid, dueto her almost leaving me for idiotic reasons, and becoming a jealous type since there are dudes wanting to get with her.
Well this dude honestly has much more to offer than me, he's 18, graduated and has a job and what not, but also lives somewhat farfrom her. Well as we were discussing the whole issue with him texting her nonstop and now even calling her, she straighout admitted that she's doing it fora pretty stupid reason that she says of "curiosity" to see how it would've been if she would've been with him, which I find plain stupid. Iclearly told her that if she thought she'd be best with him to go ahead and try it but not to come back crying to me and asking for a 2[sup]nd[/sup] chanceand #%%#. She told me she was aware of that and that it's the main reason why she has not left me and wants to stick with me and also because she barelyknows the guy and wouldn't want to #@%$ what she worked so hard for which was finding a dude that isn't in the relationship for "ugly needs".Haven't left her for the reasons that yeah I'm hooked but also because she's proven me that she CAN be trusted and hasn't kept anything fromme.
Im stuck NT, what should I do? Should I just stand there and basically give that dude the chance to steal her away or continue dating herknowing that she wont leave me(trusting her judgment that is even though shes never failed me)
Alright here's the case, I'm a 16 y/o dating a 17 y/o, sort of a long distance relationship(30miles apart). We've been seeingeach other for about 4 months already and its been going good, at least until now. Well we've managed to see each other at least 2-3times a week by eithertaking the train or meeting up at places, with her having quite a tight schedule with normal school, night school 2 times a week, and her being part of a lawenforcement academy on Saturday's…..so she's pretty overwhelmed and stressed most of the time. Well first of all. Yeah, I admit that I've fallenfor this girl. Main reason that she isn't like the majority of girls around my age that care about partying and #%%#. She's the mature type that hasher mind already set on what she wants to accomplish and is actually sticking to that. In a couple a months she'll be heading to college while I'llstill be completing my senior year.
Well, throughout the relationship we've both tested each other's honesty out and we've both been straighout with each other(due to previous experiences with the ex's and what not). But the issue I'm currently having is that at times when I'm not able to communicate withher(due to being busy, at times) and is wanting to talk she goes and talks about with someone else, she's gotten to the point where she goes to her guyfriends, and talks to them, the times that Im not "there" for her(since she hardly has any female friends). I'm not able to spend time with herdue to the distance and schedule she holds and no driving permit. Lately this entire month its been nonstop arguing about me not trusting guy's intentionsand her telling me not to worry about it and that I think about it way too much and that they're just there to talk, which I know is pure BS for a guy toJUST get close. The main dude that she's been talking to these past days is the one she almost got with before me. I've recently become paranoid, dueto her almost leaving me for idiotic reasons, and becoming a jealous type since there are dudes wanting to get with her.
Well this dude honestly has much more to offer than me, he's 18, graduated and has a job and what not, but also lives somewhat farfrom her. Well as we were discussing the whole issue with him texting her nonstop and now even calling her, she straighout admitted that she's doing it fora pretty stupid reason that she says of "curiosity" to see how it would've been if she would've been with him, which I find plain stupid. Iclearly told her that if she thought she'd be best with him to go ahead and try it but not to come back crying to me and asking for a 2[sup]nd[/sup] chanceand #%%#. She told me she was aware of that and that it's the main reason why she has not left me and wants to stick with me and also because she barelyknows the guy and wouldn't want to #@%$ what she worked so hard for which was finding a dude that isn't in the relationship for "ugly needs".Haven't left her for the reasons that yeah I'm hooked but also because she's proven me that she CAN be trusted and hasn't kept anything fromme.
Im stuck NT, what should I do? Should I just stand there and basically give that dude the chance to steal her away or continue dating herknowing that she wont leave me(trusting her judgment that is even though shes never failed me)
