Ex-gf....

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I don't really have a purpose for making this thread, just don't know who else to reach out to.
My girl broke it up with me 3.5 months ago after 1.5 years, and every single night and day has been as bad if not worse than the day before it. Won't bore people with the details of our breakup, sure the whole situation was pretty complicated but so is everyone's story.

I don't want to depress my friends with the details of my heartache and agony anymore. I'm tired of going to my psychologist that gives me the same mundane and generic responses. I can't stand seeing how sad I'm making my parents. I realize more and more that I'm sick of the majority of my friends - even the real good ones - I just don't see eye to eye with many of them.

I'm not very good with girls. Not an alpha male or any of that *#@% by any means. I've had serious relationships in the past but this last one was just - yeah the stars really aligned for me. Not only was she amazing in every department, but we clicked on every level. Eff that plenty of fish in the sea thing: not only is finding a girl who's as incredible as her AND with whom I'm as compatible difficult enough, gotta factor in that very few girls would even give a 5'5" dude like me a shot. So odds of finding something like that again are extremely slim to zero.

She says she cares about me and offers to help out in any way she can - but I know we're never getting back together again, that ship sailed a while ago. And as much as she's my best friend in the whole world, I know it'll never truly work out on a platonic level. I think she's lying to me too: she met a guy a couple months ago who was in town for an elective, and she's visiting the city he's in and staying with him right now for a 2nd time since vancouver. She said she's just there for fun since she has time off work and when I asked her if she's dating anyone right now she answered no. Don't know if she's just trying to spare my feelings or what but I find it pretty insulting.

I seriously got no hope for the future - what's the point of going on with everything when I'm not going to find something as good or better. There's maybe 15 minutes or so during each day that I don't feel like complete *#@%, and think that maybe there's hope in the future - that maybe things happen for a reason and better things will present themselves - but that seems like extremely wishful thinking. I've been thinking about this a lot lately: why not just off myself and save the agony of the many years ahead? Only thing stopping me is the hurt I'd cause my parents.

Proceed with the simp, emo, beta male, didn't read, people have it much worse than you in other parts of the world, man up, things will get better, etc. and so on.
 
Your girl probably met dude while ya'll were together. She's getting her back pounded out by him and you're talking about she's your best friend?

You need to get out the house more bro. Breakups suck but there are other girls out there.
 
You just gotta breathe dude.. Everytime you think about shortie, start taking huge inhales as if youre in labor(being serious too).. it'll get more oxygen to your brain, and you'll soon move on to other thoughts.

Best of luck.
 
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Hate to say it but I know that feel bro, it's not gonna go away any time soon. Don't know what you do as a stress reliever but go to the gym, find some heavy @%! weight, and bench press the %%%! outta that thing. 5'5" you say? by the time you're done your height won't be the first thing a girl will notice about you...

Hurts now but in the long run you'll be able to look back on this from a different perspective...

Hope it works out for you.
 
ive had two or 3 ladies in my life like that and every time it feels like the end of everything good. eventually another chic will come around and she will fill what was lost and you will say what the hell was i all worked up about. it feels horrible now but you will replace her. you know shes with that other dude straight up! you aint gonna get a new lady acting all down they like confidence so get out and let that chic go..
 
Originally Posted by blackmagnus514

Your girl probably met dude while ya'll were together. She's getting her back pounded out by him and you're talking about she's your best friend?

You need to get out the house more bro. Breakups suck but there are other girls out there.
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Ruthless.

Dude he is right though, you have to stop crying over sour milk.
 
Originally Posted by blackmagnus514

Your girl probably met dude while ya'll were together. She's getting her back pounded out by him and you're talking about she's your best friend?

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well damn
 
Wow, homie....get those suicidal thoughts out of your $!@+#*% head!!!...from what you said, it seems like you feel in love with her but shes not in love with you...with that said, give yourself time and more time....you will be fine, noone dies from a breakup bro and you need to start loving yourself more and appreciating life, saying you want to off yourself is ridiculous, life is so beautiful...you really think you won't come across another female that will fall in live with you??..,that you won't have children, achieve goals, grow old with someone??...what good will takin your life do???...nothing at all other than hurting those who do love you and appreciate you...why would you do that to them, why do that to yourself?...appreciate what you have and forget what you don't have ( her) best of luck OP...stop trying to get over her...just learn to love yourself again and the thought of her will fade away.
 
Or she met him AFTER ya'll broke up and he's just the rebound guy.

If the only thing you have to live for is a girl you should probably re-evaluate your life and priorities. So, chill the +@!% out and stop acting so goddamn desperate.

*%+%* has legs so it'll come to you, but before it does you might wanna stop acting like a %#*@!$* loser and start having a little confidence in yourself. Remember you had a life before her.

Best of luck!
 
Originally Posted by blackmagnus514

Your girl probably met dude while ya'll were together. She's getting her back pounded out by him and you're talking about she's your best friend?

You need to get out the house more bro. Breakups suck but there are other girls out there.


This seems to be the standard answer whenever someone makes a thread about an ex...the more !##%!@ up you sound the better and more Lulz + quotes you generate...kinda foul.
 
God made short girls for short dudes so trust youll fine someone who look past your height.

Their is more to life than being in a relationship. Having a girlfriend shouldnt be the sole purpose of your existence. You matter dont limit yourself.

You in school, what do you wont to be when you grow up, how old are you?


You gotta let this broad go. THERE WILL BE OTHER GIRLS. You seem like the type of person that needs someone around them.

You need to be in a relationship with yourself for a while.If you dont love yourself you cant love anyone else.

Dont off yourself cause that a $%$# to your parents who love and adore you and if your hurting cause this broad think what you offing yourself will do to them.

Your post has made me sad
 
Honestly, You have to accept the fact that when she was with you that there might have been a dude who felt the same way that you did while you were blowing loads on her back...


To be honest, one of the best ways to get OVER someone is to get UNDER another.
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...that and everything else everyone is saying.
Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

God made short girls for short dudes so trust youll fine someone who look past your height.

Their is more to life than being in a relationship. Having a girlfriend shouldnt be the sole purpose of your existence. You matter dont limit yourself.

You in school, what do you wont to be when you grow up, how old are you? 


You gotta let this broad go. THERE WILL BE OTHER GIRLS. You seem like the type of person that needs someone around them. 

You need to be in a relationship with yourself for a while.If you dont love yourself you cant love anyone else.

Dont off yourself cause that a $%$# to your parents who love and adore you and if your hurting cause this broad think what you offing yourself will do to them.

Your post has made me sad

I'm not that tall myself and I really have to wonder if you know what these are:

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That being said, don't worry about stuff you can't change. 

Dress well, work out, get paid and you'll be fine. 

Remember, it doesn't matter if you're not better than what you were when you last saw her. 
 
My girl just dumped me man. feels bad. I made a thread also.
If you wanna talk hit me up
 
1. Exercise (Run, Lift, do something it'll make you feel better and also if you get in shape you may feel better about your height (which really doesn't matter to a "real" girl)
2. Listen to uplifting music
3. Get back out on the scene, force yourself to hang around other girls. (At first you may not feel interested, but you'll start to get it back.)
4. I would be willing to bet part of your feelings towards your dudes is because of how down you are right now, try hanging with em again and NOT focusing on your ex.
5. Man, I had a sad sad break up in college and I know what you're feeling. I thought I was screwed, never gonna find anyone else. I'm married now to a wonderful, wonderful woman and I NEVER regret splitting with the college gf.
6. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, and just get through these crappy months. You'll make it through.
 
Well as dumb as it sounds the longer that passes you'll get more over here. You'll meet other people, you'll go to new places, see things you haven't seen until that girl will be the last thing thats on your mind.

You had a life before her, you'll have one after! Good luck OP.
 
Originally Posted by sillyputty

Honestly, You have to accept the fact that when she was with you that there might have been a dude who felt the same way that you did while you were blowing loads on her back...


To be honest, one of the best ways to get OVER someone is to get UNDER another.
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...that and everything else everyone is saying.
Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

God made short girls for short dudes so trust youll fine someone who look past your height.

Their is more to life than being in a relationship. Having a girlfriend shouldnt be the sole purpose of your existence. You matter dont limit yourself.

You in school, what do you wont to be when you grow up, how old are you? 


You gotta let this broad go. THERE WILL BE OTHER GIRLS. You seem like the type of person that needs someone around them. 

You need to be in a relationship with yourself for a while.If you dont love yourself you cant love anyone else.

Dont off yourself cause that a $%$# to your parents who love and adore you and if your hurting cause this broad think what you offing yourself will do to them.

Your post has made me sad

I'm not that tall myself and I really have to wonder if you know what these are:

That being said, don't worry about stuff you can't change. 

Dress well, work out, get paid and you'll be fine. 

Remember, it doesn't matter if you're not better than what you were when you last saw her. 

Sorry sillyputty please forgive me
 
How can you base your life and all your happiness and emotions on another person? Are you living your life for yourself or for your ex-girlfriend? You can't seriously want to think about even harming yourself because of someone else. Other people are unreliable. They aren't robots... they'll fail you, they'll betray you, they'll throw salt on your wounds when you're down. You're the one who has to look out for yourself and set a foundation for yourself.

I hate to break it to you, but she wasn't perfect. At all. She didn't accept you for who you were, and it isn't your fault, it's hers. Whenever people get hurt by someone, they always assume they did something wrong. Nah man, she didn't break up with you because of you, she broke up with you because of her. She didn't want to be with you like that and you shouldn't feel negativity because of the actions of someone else.

Stop kicking yourself. The girls who don't give you a chance cause you're short, do you REALLY want to be with someone who would judge you based on your height? I'm not good with females either. I'm short, like you. I don't have a lot of money. Hell, I don't even have a car. Doesn't matter. I have the tools to be the right person and exactly who I want to be in my life... and other people can't take that from me. The good people will love you always, no matter who you are or how you're doing. And the others, the ones who care about what you look like, what you drive, does it really matter if they don't like you?

Be the king in your own life. Build your happiness off of your own achievements and feelings. Even if someone was worth pouring your heart into and hurting yourself for, it surely isn't the girl who left you.
 
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