Falling in love for the weekend (confessions)

Originally Posted by Dropten

Originally Posted by FlatbushFiyah23

I will never understand the point of wining and dining just to smash once and then let someone go.

If that is what you want when you are on these dating websites etc then thats cool just be straight up about it as there are plenty of women out there looking for the same. However, to lead someone on basically just to smash when they are expecting more while you are aware of their expectations and then let them down is just foul.

I wasnt looking for sex. Ive only had sex with 2 of my dates. Others tried but I rejected them. What I want is that feeling when you first meet someone and everything is bliss. That new feeling where your not aware of the persons flaws and past blemishes. Ive had girlfriends that when we first started dating, there would be things I loved about them. Then later, those same things began to annoy me. Now, I just want to get out before that occurs.  
Ok my fault...didn't mean to assume that about you and you did state that. I see your problem...but you do know these women are expecting more so I would just avoid dating for awhile until you figure out what it is exactly you want out of dating so that you are not annoyed. I think you have at some point come to and understand that everyone has flaws its just finding the women whose flaws you can tolerate. Once you get to that place you will be fine.
 
Originally Posted by Patrick Bateman

Originally Posted by Slicknick951

yall dudes and yall games smh reasons like this is why you wont find a good woman. You #!$! with the decent ones minds
Couldn't have said it any better. 
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This. I'm baffled by this story.
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious

you should be upfront at date 1.. not after you've had sex.
This, maybe you wont get it in with a girl like the one you just did cause shes not about that, but you will def find girls that are.
 
all fun and games until someone gets hurt and someone else ends up dead. 
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r.i.p in advance playa
 
Originally Posted by Dropten

You know when you first start dating someone and you really start feeling them. You go out your way to do things for them and get the warm feeling when your around them. But after a while things start getting a little stale and you start finding things about them you dont like. And eventually start losing interest.

Well I hate that %@@*. I wish it could feel new all the time. So I started to fall in love for the weekends.

Ive been taking women on dates with no intensions of sex. Just a good time, with a great conversation. I listen to them, talk and just open myself up with no walls. Ive had really great dates but I usually cut it off after 2 or 3 because I know that feeling wont last forever.

A couple of weeks ago, I met this woman from online. First date was a bit awkward. She was pretty reserved and I could tell she had her wall up. We just talked for the most part getting to know each other. End of the night im taking her home, we sit in the whip for a bit small talking. She had some ultra sexy lips and I kept staring at em. I told her I wanted to kiss her but I wasnt going to. She gave me a funny look, but what ever. Next day I sent a text asking if shes still interested in talking to me. She said "yea". I just wanted to make sure so I dont waste my time. That night took her on date#2. When she came in the whip, gave her a hug and talked while we were on our way. We parked up by the restaurant and I leaned over slowly like I was attempting a kiss. But I had hidden a rose in the passenger door. She backed up a bit and I got the rose, said it was for her. She started blushing and smiled and said she never gotten flowers before(shrug). We went in the restaurant, sat down. But instead of sitting across from her I sat next to her. We got a bit closer and the conversation was great. Lots of laughs and smiles from both parties. I really started to like her and I could tell she was feelin me too. End of the night after more convo, got my kiss in, lots of hugging and closeness. Dropped her home and called it a night.

Next day we text back a forth and eventually meet up for a movie that night. She got really close, had her legs up on mine, real chill and relaxed. We smooched a bit and had a decent time. That night we had sex on some spontaneous tip. I really didnt want to and stopped in the middle of it because I know what the outcome would be. Wrapped the night up and headed home. Next day we spend together just chilling at a park enjoying the nice day by the water. She really opened up by then. I could tell she was possibly catching feelings and I began to feel a little bad for her. I knew that night I was going to let her go.

Fast>> to the end of the night. Sitting in the car. Told her I had to disapear for awhile. She had a look on her face, confused. I usually dont give any reasoning, just disapear after a few dates, but I felt I owed it to her. I told her I couldnt see her again. Her face went blank. I explained what my intentions were and didnt expect things to go this far. She just got real cold to me, said if I was done. She got out the whip and she started breaking down crying on her way to the door. I never felt so bad in my life.
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 I had a crazy feeling on the way home. I was just blank and couldnt believe what I did. I sent her an apology text when I got home but no response. I told myself I should just leave her alone, but I text her the next morning. She was basically really cold and told me to delete her#. Then I realized she deleted her account from the dating site we met on
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I dont know whats wrong with me NT. Im addicted to the feeling of that new love but I keep hurting people.
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Anyone else feel this way?
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How you stop mid sex, though.
 
Originally Posted by ToneLow

How exactly was it established? You got her flowers and saw her 3 days in a row...you're not fooling anyone but yourself. You only do that if you're really into a chick. Listen to these dudes and give yourself a thorough self examination.


My profile specifically states im not looking for a relationship or commiment of any kind.I think more people should consider weekend love. Majority of relationships lose the "new" feeling. Im just trying to get that on a regular basis.
 
Originally Posted by ToneLow

How exactly was it established? You got her flowers and saw her 3 days in a row...you're not fooling anyone but yourself. You only do that if you're really into a chick. Listen to these dudes and give yourself a thorough self examination.

The flowers and the stopping mid-sex game is just wild corny.. Those are pre-mediated actions. He's going into these situations with full fore-though and knowledge of his actions to come, and then bemoaning the factthat he's only interested in "new" love?  This is your reality??

    These ###!%$ dont love you my dude, theyre wondering #$+ is wrong with this nut?  Word of advice.. if you really want to smash with no consequence and no encumbrance.. act like you dont want to smash.. dont be ugly.. and be evasive from the get go..Then you can skip all the nonsense, and start your very first JO lineup. 

As it currently stands, reading the tea leaves of your sitiation, it does seem as though you may currently experience occasional homoerotic thoughts, amongst other things(not that theres anything wrong with that)... your actions are clear earmarks, as its your recurring validation that maybe you arent wanting to bat for the other team. 
 
i thank you for a real thread with real %$!. thank you i miss this %$!.

but damn son thats grimey, 'the next dude gotta deal with a broken heart he didn't break'

you will find your match and some one you would want to settle hope it doesnt happen to you but couple months in etc.

good luck
 
bruh you wasting money for dates , not smashing, and getting women attatched then dropping them. idk bruh sounds kinda petty
 
Yall really saying what im doing is worst than using women for sex? I think more women are messed up cause dudes use them for sex
These women out here are looking for romance and im giving it to them. The reality is, that romance fades, things change.
Its easy for dudes that are looking for sex. They just hit up a JO or prostitute.
My situation is not that simple. I cant just tell a woman start catching feelings then let it go.
 
But OP you didn't even give her a chance to get out of the "weekend love", you cut it when you were finished, not when she was finished as well.

It's like you and I are both about to demolish a building, and you finish getting your valuables out of it but I didn't, yet you light the fuse and detonate the whole place anyways. You wanting to get your stuff out was fine, but you didn't give me a chance to.
 
Originally Posted by scshift

But OP you didn't even give her a chance to get out of the "weekend love", you cut it when you were finished, not when she was finished as well.

It's like you and I are both ready to demolish a building, and you finish getting your valuables out of it but I didn't, yet you light the fuse and detonate the whole place anyways. You wanting to get your stuff out was fine, but you didn't give me a chance to.


well said
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Originally Posted by Dropten

Originally Posted by ToneLow

How exactly was it established? You got her flowers and saw her 3 days in a row...you're not fooling anyone but yourself. You only do that if you're really into a chick. Listen to these dudes and give yourself a thorough self examination.


My profile specifically states im not looking for a relationship or commiment of any kind.I think more people should consider weekend love. Majority of relationships lose the "new" feeling. Im just trying to get that on a regular basis.
You're looking for that new relationship feeling but you're not looking for a relationship or commitment.
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Your profile says one thing but your actions tell another story. 

Females don't want temporary romance. Hell you're the only dude seeking it
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You should look into being an escort at least that way you can sell dreams and get paid.
 
That's foul.
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Why aren't you upfront about only wanting 2 or 3 dates?  Why don't you put that in your profile?  That way you can find girls who are looking for the same thing.
 
Sounds like you got commitment issues.Or you can try cocaine. I hear it gives you that same new love feeling..
 
Originally Posted by Dropten

Yall really saying what im doing is worst than using women for sex? I think more women are messed up cause dudes use them for sex
These women out here are looking for romance and im giving it to them. The reality is, that romance fades, things change.
Its easy for dudes that are looking for sex. They just hit up a JO or prostitute.
My situation is not that simple. I cant just tell a woman start catching feelings then let it go.
Dude.. youre on some predator/early serial killer type steez.  Lets look at this closely.. youre not looking for friendship, or you wouldnt cut them off and just dissapear.  Additionally, you would make it CLEAR that your boundaries lie outside of the bedroom..
  
     You wouldnt start off so quick into the romance with what looks like a pattern that you roll out for each chick if you just wanted "new love".. as you said you felt bad after this one.. why/how could would you feel bad, when you knew damn well what the outcome would be? 

Youre not looking for cheeks, or you wouldnt "stop mid-sex".. so youre just doing all of this for what reason exactly?  There is an endgame to every human action.. noone just does %*%*.. this isnt the dark knight.

You were getting off on that feeling of power over this female... the orignial feeling of superiority that you got from "disappearing" was i guess waning, so you took it to the new level.. %*%* is wack B bottom line.. few chicks start coming up missing in your area.. we sending the D's right to your NT profile
 
Originally Posted by Patrick Bateman

Originally Posted by Slicknick951

yall dudes and yall games smh reasons like this is why you wont find a good woman. You #!$! with the decent ones minds
Couldn't have said it any better. 
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I have to agree..
 
OP I think your trying to force yourself to be with someone you honestly dont have feelings for.

Case and point, you lose feelings after a certain stage. If you found someone you truly liked a lot this wouldnt happen.

So dont worry about this girl, keep it pushing to find someone you'd have a strong bond with.

Goodluck OP
 
I know what I want. Unfortunately what I want isnt the norm. People cant grasp the concept of it.I always state im not looking for a relationship but women assume they can change that. Its funny cause the women who say no sex without a commitment seem to give it up easily.
Originally Posted by Executive76

Originally Posted by Dropten

Originally Posted by ToneLow

How exactly was it established? You got her flowers and saw her 3 days in a row...you're not fooling anyone but yourself. You only do that if you're really into a chick. Listen to these dudes and give yourself a thorough self examination.


My profile specifically states im not looking for a relationship or commiment of any kind.I think more people should consider weekend love. Majority of relationships lose the "new" feeling. Im just trying to get that on a regular basis.
You're looking for that new relationship feeling but you're not looking for a relationship or commitment.
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Your profile says one thing but your actions tell another story. 

Females don't want temporary romance. Hell you're the only dude seeking it
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You should look into being an escort at least that way you can sell dreams and get paid.
 
Honestly, I think you must have had something in your past that led you to act this way towards women. Whether it be a past gf that left you or something that happened earlier on in your life. But to me it sounds like you may need professional help. If you want to be in love or love again, you have to be able to let love in man. Sex is one thing, but having these girls fall head over heels in love with you, then kicking them to the curb is something different entirely. Good luck my dude. 
 
Originally Posted by biglan4312

Honestly, I think you must have had something in your past that led you to act this way towards women. Whether it be a past gf that left you or something that happened earlier on in your life. But to me it sounds like you may need professional help. If you want to be in love or love again, you have to be able to let love in man. Sex is one thing, but having these girls fall head over heels in love with you, then kicking them to the curb is something different entirely. Good luck my dude. 


I dont need a shrink. But im not going to lie, I know why im like this now.I had a gf some years ago. It was perfection, everything I loved about her. Sex was banging, convo was great, had no complaints. After about a year, then things started to feel a lil dry. Its like there was nothing to talk about, same ol same ol. We grew tired of each other.We eventually broke up, but the good times with her was the best I ever had. I started to look back at my past relationships and realized a pattern. You just dont have the same feeling after a certain point.So what do I do. Get that feeling and get out before its gone. Id rather remember that person for the best of times than arguments and drama.
 
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