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What's good NT fam, I know these threads can be kinda redundant but I have a problem I know you guys are (generally) helpful.
I apologize, in advance, for the somewhat long read..bare with me
skip to the very bottom if you have ADHD and
NO PICS. I would if she had a facebook (serious
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I met this chick late 2010/early 2011 and had casual convos throughout most of this year until May.
May hits and school is done for the summer so we end up hanging out on a regular basis (probably every week or 2) and the vibe is smooth throughout the entire summer.
Throughout the summer (not gonna lie) I've been catchin feelings but still kept my guard up just in case I found some kinda *flaw* in this chick.
Anyway she's feelin me a lot. Drives outta her way to see me, goes half-and-half on our dinner dates (even though I insist on paying...), we smash, have movie nights, meets my parents and all that good stuff.
June comes around and we go out to a venue. We have a talk on the way home.
She asks, "Have you ever been in a serious, long-committed relationship...(I tell her no) She says, "Well I was in one for 2-3 years and my ex keeps finding ways to pop up and text me, blah blah and I just don't want him to keep popping up and trying to stay in my life." <---- Fair enough, atleast she's tryna cut ties with dude (They broke up late 2010)
I ask, "Are you looking for a relationship or just to enjoy yourself?"
She says, "Either or whatever happens happens."
So one night in July, I get a little drunk, and hit her up letting her know that I wanna smash the next time I see her.
Of course, she took it as a form of disrespect and says "I hate when guys say they wanna smash flat out like that...blah blah...if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. I don't see you just as a FBuddy, if i did, alright but I don't"
then I'm feelin like
cuz I didn't mean for the comment to come off like I was treatin her like a jumpoff but then again I don't see her as just a FBuddy either...So maybe we're both thinkin about being exclusive.
eventually, we forget about the little mixup we had and go back to enjoyin each other's company and being back on good terms.
So in August, both of us are drinkin at my house and somehow the convo leads to "relationships."
Her phone rings and I say "Your boyfriends calling you" and she says...
"Oh please, I'm not gettin into any kinda relationship soon, not after how my last relationship ended...blah blah blah..."
she started going on and on and I pretty much zoned out because that was all I needed to hear.
SO.
Here's the question: She doesn't openly talk to me about other dudes (even her ex, I hardly hear about him). She is constantly sending "I wanna see you" texts. She's not looking for a relationship and she doesn't see me as a FBUDDY so what kinda relationship is this?? And what does a brother do?
I apologize, in advance, for the somewhat long read..bare with me
skip to the very bottom if you have ADHD and
NO PICS. I would if she had a facebook (serious
I met this chick late 2010/early 2011 and had casual convos throughout most of this year until May.
May hits and school is done for the summer so we end up hanging out on a regular basis (probably every week or 2) and the vibe is smooth throughout the entire summer.
Throughout the summer (not gonna lie) I've been catchin feelings but still kept my guard up just in case I found some kinda *flaw* in this chick.
Anyway she's feelin me a lot. Drives outta her way to see me, goes half-and-half on our dinner dates (even though I insist on paying...), we smash, have movie nights, meets my parents and all that good stuff.
June comes around and we go out to a venue. We have a talk on the way home.
She asks, "Have you ever been in a serious, long-committed relationship...(I tell her no) She says, "Well I was in one for 2-3 years and my ex keeps finding ways to pop up and text me, blah blah and I just don't want him to keep popping up and trying to stay in my life." <---- Fair enough, atleast she's tryna cut ties with dude (They broke up late 2010)
I ask, "Are you looking for a relationship or just to enjoy yourself?"
She says, "Either or whatever happens happens."
So one night in July, I get a little drunk, and hit her up letting her know that I wanna smash the next time I see her.
Of course, she took it as a form of disrespect and says "I hate when guys say they wanna smash flat out like that...blah blah...if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. I don't see you just as a FBuddy, if i did, alright but I don't"
then I'm feelin like
eventually, we forget about the little mixup we had and go back to enjoyin each other's company and being back on good terms.
So in August, both of us are drinkin at my house and somehow the convo leads to "relationships."
Her phone rings and I say "Your boyfriends calling you" and she says...
"Oh please, I'm not gettin into any kinda relationship soon, not after how my last relationship ended...blah blah blah..."
she started going on and on and I pretty much zoned out because that was all I needed to hear.
SO.
Here's the question: She doesn't openly talk to me about other dudes (even her ex, I hardly hear about him). She is constantly sending "I wanna see you" texts. She's not looking for a relationship and she doesn't see me as a FBUDDY so what kinda relationship is this?? And what does a brother do?