giving up

[freeze]

You just have to dig deep my friend. Pain is inevitable, suffering is not. Make up your mind that things will get better. It may not be today, maybe not tomorrow, but as long as you keep breathing, you have a chance to find that happiness you so seek. Our experiences make us whom we are. Allow yours to strengthen you, to give you wisdom. Grow from this. Don't allow yourself to be broken, but instead break down to build up stronger. It's like training a muscle, there muscle be some damage to promote growth. I believe in you, believe in yourself. Just keep pushing man, I know it's rough, and I know it hurts, but I'm hopeful for you. Things will get better for you, I believe that.


Find a hobby, start reading if you don't already. Find books that you can zone out to when times get rough. That helped me when I was going through growing pains from a breakup, I was hurting man, but I stayed strong and maintained an idea that no matter what, things would look up eventually. That's the ideal you just have to buy into no matter what, you have to believe that no matter how dark it gets, eventually, the sun will come out. Get into exercise. Anything that helps you grow as a person is supper beneficial in the off season. Go back to school, through learning more about the world around us, we are finally about to visualize the bigger picture. It's the little things that can have huge impacts in the long run. If you make yourself better, ultimately you'll feel better about yourself, period.


I wish you the best buddy, I hope everything works out for you.

 

[sundoobie]

I always tell myself... Why WORRY about it? Emotions come and go.. it just takes time to get over it. Last year at this same exact time.. what worries and stresses did you have? I bet if you look back now, you would be like... man I was all stressed over that? In year from now on December 20, 2013, you really think these feelings of giving up will still be with you? I doubt it and there will be other struggles so try to not worry and tell yourself whatever happens happens and deal with it when it does happen.

In the mean while do something you enjoy whether it be hitting up the strip clubs, getting wasted, jogging at the beach, playing video games, visiting family, etc.. etc..

 

[putaginaj]

Like J. Cole said, "And all the pain the world cause, she be healin' that sh*t." Lights Please.

 

[brownballa35]

You just have to dig deep my friend. Pain is inevitable, suffering is not. Make up your mind that things will get better. It may not be today, maybe not tomorrow, but as long as you keep breathing, you have a chance to find that happiness you so seek. Our experiences make us whom we are. Allow yours to strengthen you, to give you wisdom. Grow from this. Don't allow yourself to be broken, but instead break down to build up stronger. It's like training a muscle, there muscle be some damage to promote growth. I believe in you, believe in yourself. Just keep pushing man, I know it's rough, and I know it hurts, but I'm hopeful for you. Things will get better for you, I believe that.
Find a hobby, start reading if you don't already. Find books that you can zone out to when times get rough. That helped me when I was going through growing pains from a breakup, I was hurting man, but I stayed strong and maintained an idea that no matter what, things would look up eventually. That's the ideal you just have to buy into no matter what, you have to believe that no matter how dark it gets, eventually, the sun will come out. Get into exercise. Anything that helps you grow as a person is supper beneficial in the off season. Go back to school, through learning more about the world around us, we are finally about to visualize the bigger picture. It's the little things that can have huge impacts in the long run. If you make yourself better, ultimately you'll feel better about yourself, period.
I wish you the best buddy, I hope everything works out for you.

I thank each and every one of you for the kind words, I didnt expect this many replies! and Im sorry if I dont reply to every one, but I did read each one.  You all took the time to reply and share with me, I appreciate every word of advice.   

I dont have access to the internet all the time so I am sorry for the late reply,  you all have given me great advice and I hope to put it to use but Im scared I may not be able to hold on if things keep falling down around me.   I will never get to thank you all in person for the advice and love you tried to give me so from my heart I do appreciate it. 

 

[brownballa35]

I just reread all of the replies and I wish i could see things the way you all do, i just feel hopeless and worthless and dont know how much longer i can go on feeling like this.   thank you to everyone who took the time to read and reply. 

 

[gagjr]

sorry to hear all that op

personally i just think about realistic worse case scenarios for my future. then i start thinking about all the things i am doing and the things that i should be doing to avoid that situation. makes me feel better and motiviates me at the same time.

 

[Ox.]

i follow my heart, take a deep breath and continue fighting

 

[pacers31]

i was feeling the same way as you a couple years ago, different circumstances, but i was down and felt like everything was hitting me at one time. when you feel that way, other people's advice will generally go in one ear and out the other because you become so wrapped up in your thoughts and worries. the one thing i hated hearing was "someone has it worse than you", which is absolutely true, but you don't want to hear that when you're facing your own problems. trust me though, talking to someone really helps if you have any close friends that you feel comfortable opening up to. it's a good feeling to know that someone cares about you. and remember that when you're at the bottom there's no where to go but up. there's light at the end of the tunnel my man, you just gotta persevere. i thought i was gonna be stuck feeling that way forever but it's a gradual process to get out of that negative state of mind.

 

[kickstart]

I take a moment and then regroup. I take a tape recorder and vent then listen back to it later to see if what I said made sense. Usually it does and I reason on how to get over the hump or humps.

 

[hymen man]

Perseverance.

Someone out there always has it worse than you do. The start of 09 til 10 was hell for me.. I had a really bad drug problem, felt like giving up, couldn't really talk to anyone about anything.. would just lounge around waiting for things to change. It's a hard way back though man, you need to want things to change for the better and you need to really push to make them happen for you. I'm sorry you lost someone close to you, but you also need to realize that everyone will go and that is nothing you can control (part of why I started using was because I lost a family member around the same time). It's tough as hell to deal with knowing you will never see that person again, but it is out of your hands. If you blame yourself partly for it or have any guilt(meaning things you could of done/said to the person while they were here), let it go.

Your father is his own man but you need to talk to him as well, let him know his using if affecting you and your family. It might be hard to get him the help he needs but you at least are doing your part by opening up and talking to him, that's the first step. It's tough for an addict to stop his addiction so try to get him to some NA/AA meetings or rehab. It sucks knowing you can't help someone overcome their own demons, but you need to be there for him and help him fight through it, but he needs to want the help for it to work at all, there's only so much you can do or say.

It sucks that you lost your job, but these things are small.. it might not seem like it but you have your health, your family, a shelter, people who care about you. Be greatful for what you have,.. you might think I'm an ******* for saying this not knowing exactly what you're feeling or going through, but you have things a lot of other people do not. just stay positive.. you have a lot to offer the world, you're just going through a rough patch but things always get better, as long as you work at it.

Things I suggest you do:

Apply anywhere you can (ANYWHERE, just get out and get your mind off things other than your current situation)
Make a checklist of things you need to do throughout the day
Get your father some help
Eat healthy
Workout
Find some real friends, not just people who are around when things are good.
Find a good hobby (basketball, lifting, etc)
Start reading - doesn't have to be self help books, but just read and learn new things
Trust yourself

Just persevere man, you were put here for a reason.. just make things work.

 

[hymen man]

i was feeling the same way as you a couple years ago, different circumstances, but i was down and felt like everything was hitting me at one time. when you feel that way, other people's advice will generally go in one ear and out the other because you become so wrapped up in your thoughts and worries. the one thing i hated hearing was "someone has it worse than you", which is absolutely true, but you don't want to hear that when you're facing your own problems. trust me though, talking to someone really helps if you have any close friends that you feel comfortable opening up to. it's a good feeling to know that someone cares about you. and remember that when you're at the bottom there's no where to go but up. there's light at the end of the tunnel my man, you just gotta persevere. i thought i was gonna be stuck feeling that way forever but it's a gradual process to get out of that negative state of mind.

Really liked this post, but hearing 'someone has it worse than you' - really did make me think 'shh, i'm bickering/stressing over this little thing that with some will power, i can control.. while people can't even find a place to sleep.' of course no one wants to hear it, I didn't.. but it's necessary I feel. and like this man said, it's a process to get out of this mind state, and sometimes it feels like it's impossible.. but you will overcome, just remember that when you are out and things are better (they will get better) - that you will have days where you hit the bottom again, only to pick yourself up again and carry on. it's a cycle... you just gotta maintain.

 

[unsuited]

wish i could rep more than once tho^^^^.....hymen man

 

[kanyewest]

i feel you OP im in a similar boat

everything has just been goin downhill but i refuse to give up

i refuse to let some circumstances and situations prevent me from living the life i want to live

i know itll take time to heal and the wait is killer i just try to think someone out there has it worse (as corny as it sounds its true)

 

[brownballa35]

Thank you all for the love, I just feel like a waste, Im going to drive out and see a friend later if I dont reply to this thread I appreciate every word, every bit of advice, i appreciate everyone for the help.