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no. humans are not necessarily "programmed" to be monogamous, like many bird species are. However, humans are special animals because we have developed emotions, civilizations, society, and a sense of morality. We are a social and rational creature. We are no longer rigidly bound to animalistic urges and survival instincts; we have the ability/gift to transcend these urges (I guess freud would call this the id ego superego whatever). When men see a woman that they are attracted to, societal conditioning of behavior or ethics has taught us that the average man does not rape her (usually, you know), because it's wrong (punishment is a deterrent also, but I'd argue that most people know that it is wrong).
The same goes for monogamy. Not everyone is into monogamy, and i get it- We have these urges. The great part is that these urges don't control us, we can transcend these urges or wield them in a healthy way. Don't succumb to these urges. Or, don't succumb to a relationship. Or, end a relationship if you really want to sleep with other people. Or, be honest with yourself and partner and say "hey, let's be polyamorous". Make the decision that is right for you.
The problem is when people say "I couldnt help it i have these urges". Yes you can help it. You are not a wildebeast. You are a human being, you have a conscience, and you are not ostensibly braindead. Learn how to control yourself or act like an adult. Stop blaming your behavior on your hormones.
The same goes for monogamy. Not everyone is into monogamy, and i get it- We have these urges. The great part is that these urges don't control us, we can transcend these urges or wield them in a healthy way. Don't succumb to these urges. Or, don't succumb to a relationship. Or, end a relationship if you really want to sleep with other people. Or, be honest with yourself and partner and say "hey, let's be polyamorous". Make the decision that is right for you.
The problem is when people say "I couldnt help it i have these urges". Yes you can help it. You are not a wildebeast. You are a human being, you have a conscience, and you are not ostensibly braindead. Learn how to control yourself or act like an adult. Stop blaming your behavior on your hormones.
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