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Sorry to hear brother, may she rest in Paradise, that’s probably one of the toughest losses a lot of us will face, since we never expect to bury our own kids, but burying our parents seems like the order in which life should go, however is not something we ever want to go through, Ive had my uncle and 2 grandparents pass but that’s after I had been living in the states for 10 years and they were back home, still hit and i was a teen then, my dad passed away when I was 2 so I can’t really remember any pain I felt...now that I’m 36 I just have my mom (60yo) and my grandma (88yo) being an only child I’m pretty tight with them both, but after working in a hospital for 15 years and facing death regularly I’ve come to accept the reality of life IS death, nothing else in life is more certain than that and we will all face it some day, keep your memory of her alive in you, I’m a firm believer that our parents continue to live on through us...never met my father but physically I’m alot like him and also have a lot of his maneurisms and traits....don’t know how old you are or if you have kids yet, but one day you’ll look at your kids and perhaps realize how much of your mom is still alive in them and smile...for now, just mourn however it is that you do it, don’t feel bad if you don’t cry and don’t feel bad if you do...i didn’t cry when I found out about my uncle getting killed, but then I visited Colombia years later and found myself in a little spot we would always go to together where he washed cars for some money and I balled uncontrollably...all the years i didnt mourn him properly due to the distance, came rushing out of me years later, cried myself to sleep...woke up and felt legit LIGHTER.
I’m 30. Also an only child. Speaking of children I don’t have any yet. But she’s been asking me when I was going to give her grandkids or get married. One thing right now that really hurts me is she’s never going to physically get to hold her grand kids or walk with me down the aisle. My cousins started having kids and she loved me nieces and nephews. It’s tough
Bruh Im so ***** sorry about that, I still have my old lady kicking and hopefully for a while, but not being able to give her s grandkid has burden me more than actually struggling to have kids, like I’m at the point that I’ll be content living out my life with my wife without children if it’s not in the cards for us, but I can’t live with the fact that my mom won’t have grandkids so that’s one of the main catalysts for us to keep pushing, the struggles of an only child bro...I’m really sorry.
Sorry for your loss fam. The waves will hit you and keep rolling through. At first they may be like tsunamis, and then as time passes, they'll become more manageable. I'm not sure they ever go away, nor should you want them to. I feel like the waves of grief are evidence of the deep love and affection we had for our loved ones.
NT fam here for you. Rest in paradise.
Sorry I forgot to add something.. they say life is all about perspective, so I feel thankful my mom got to live a little over 50. I know that is still too young to pass away, but some people lose their mom way sooner or maybe don’t even know them. It might ease your pain knowing that it could always be worse, and that you’re never alone in anything.