nah

[ptrakarn23]

I don't feel its my place to speak on it cuz well I dont embarrass nobody. It's a sensitive subject when YNS. Sometimes I throw out some tips but that's about it. It's been times where the girl they meet starts feelin me and I gotta play it off cuz it's ackward as hell. I just wish I could get a assist from time to time.



realtalk, im glad this thread was posted. i know there are more of yall out there.

 

[jay2345]

At least you care because as soon as me and my crew hit the club I'm splitting up and playing 1 on 1 ball. (wood Harrison on remember the titans) Team???WHAT TEAM!!!

 

[ThaxbyChamblis]

Y'all _'s

 

[cj863]

Originally Posted by Jay2345

At least you care because as soon as me and my crew hit the club I'm splitting up and playing 1 on 1 ball. (wood Harrison on remember the titans) Team??? WHAT TEAM!!!

group? gang? Insemble?

 

[ualreadyknow23]

Originally Posted by DOWNTOWN43

this is a good thread... personally i've been on both sides of this issue, so i'm just gonna share my input for OP and others:

in early HS, i was the "swagless" dude in my group who was bringing down the team (

at myself, now that i look back).

later on in HS and in early college, i acquired some swag and found a new group of friends where i was more of the "alpha male"... unfortunately, a couple dudes in the group would be loafing everytime we went out.

if you're reading this and you happen to be the Kwame Brown of your team... imo you should definitely try to fix yourself up. you may think your boys don't care about how you present yourself because they'll still be your boys regardless... but trust me, it will be irritating to everybody if you look/act like a scrub in public. get some new gear, get in shape, step your social game up, step your general swag up, whatever.

if you're the Lebron of your team (no help at all), or maybe the Kobe (a solid #2 man, but everyone else is inconsistent).. maybe start dropping hints... maybe cracking a few jokes here and there, or some sarcastic comments like "come on fam, i KNOW you're not wearing a FUBU jersey to a party

" or invite them with you when you go to the mall, and show them where you shop at and what you wear. if they can't pick up on the hints, sometimes you just have to take them aside and give them a talk on some real *+#+, let them know how you feel. what you DON'T do, is just drop dude altogether and not hit him up anymore. you don't just cut a dude who has been loyal to your team... still gotta give him some PT, you feel me?

This how me and my patna talk in code when we're out or aroundfemales we don't want to know what we're talkin about. Straight sports analogies. You aight with me mayne.

- Preciate it.

 

[belle155]

Originally Posted by Fantastic4our

Originally Posted by ualreadyknow23


And what's crazy is I'm married now so I don't even go out with intentions of comin up, but I might swing at a pitch or two just to see if I still got it. But most of the time I'm just Jason Kidd with mine, throwing oops to my patnas all night and these dudes STILL be takin L's. Aint nothin worse than doin all the work and setting your homie up with a nice chick and he can't ever seal the deal. Makes YOU look bad and then chicks will never want to bring her friends along to kick it with you and your lame patnas.

settin up 's and they can't even finish the open J. mo williams !++ dudes

 

[jackel56]

Originally Posted by im so fresh 3

Jackel56

I am the friend with no swag

fixed

 

[man listen]

Originally Posted by ualreadyknow23

Originally Posted by DOWNTOWN43

if they can't pick up on the hints, sometimes you just have to take them aside and give them a talk on some real *+#+, let them know how you feel.

This how me and my patna talk in code when we're out or around females we don't want to know what we're talkin about. Straight sports analogies. You aight with me mayne.

- Preciate it.

Yea real live, it aint easy but you gotta do it for yourself and your boys. One night me and my boys went out to the club and they didn'tdance not one time. Mind you we were up in that joint a good 4-5 hours and they never even put a bid in. "I can't accept not trying"

. On the ride home I had to talk to these cats because they had these miserable lookson their faces. I mean I cut the radio all the way down and everythang

. Felt like Phil Jackson, saying bull like "you think Kobe cares about the shots that don't go in ?" And doing stuff like going up tochicks who I knew weren't gonna dance with anybody (you know the type) and getting "rejected" just to show them it aint nothin. Thankfully itsunk in and we all had a better performance the next game. I felt like I had to do it because my n's is hilarious to kick it with but they were killingthemselves with that attitude.

 

[mrben23]

I just hate when everyone is standing/sitting around all shy and then I open up a girl or two. Then all of a sudden they all feel they have the right to kickit to the girl that I had the nerve to open up the conversation with.

 

[antbanks81]

^^ Unappreciated...*+$!%% be wanting to take your shine after you done work

 

[akuratl02]

How the hell do you tell your boys they ain't got swag though? Ole Will Smith Hitch type %#@!%..."You come 90 I come 10!" Lookin @+*...

I dunno why, but that had me dying ...

I understand how you feel OP, I guess I have always been right in the middle ... There's always a beast @@%@% on my team who goes in as soon as he thinks achick is looking at him .. But I love it, cause I can usually slide in (pause), crack a joke and smooth things out ...

Being 6 ft 6 FTW !! I guess I have got lazy and got used to females walking up and asking me how tall I am ... I love that line

, but you have to help your friends out ... Trust me OP, something so simple asintroducing them properly will install all the confidence they need ... Girls love to have fun when they go out, so if you can assist in everyone having funtogether then you're automatically in there.

True story, me and my man were at a bar (Fat Black ____ Cat on 3rd for ya'll NYC heads) and he wasnt feeling himself and happend to be arguing on the phonewith chick who was a 4 at best. We had a Beer Tower and as soon as he got up, I just tapped this girls shoulder who was at the next table over and asked ifher and her friends wouldnt mind helping me finish the beer .. He came back 2 minutes later lookin like

and I had already plugged his name with the chics so as soon as he sat down theywere like heyyyyyy Daaaaaaavid .. He grew a little more confident and the night finished with the 3 chicks from the Neverlands dedicating a song to us duringKareoke. Oh yeah, and I smashed a week later ... Needless to say, Sometimes you gotta pass the ball in order to get the best shot possible

 

[solematic j21]

Give them pointers but if they they take it as a joke and dont tend to change then leave it as that cause thats who they are.

 

[l silky johnston l]

Wow, I didn't realize your friends were holding you back so much from being the biggest pimp on planet earth...I feel so sorry for you because clearly youare so much better/cooler than everyone else. I wonder what your friends would think of this post????

 

[north dade represent]

It's all about going ISO. If you can't play one on one ball, then you need to work on your game.


I don't even feel comfortable playing team ball.

 

[nati p]

Originally Posted by l Silky Johnston l

Wow, I didn't realize your friends were holding you back so much from being the biggest pimp on planet earth...I feel so sorry for you because clearly you are so much better/cooler than everyone else. I wonder what your friends would think of this post????

This post + avy =

Anyway my brother from another mother refuses to wingman unless the girl is future wife type quality. So I'm solo 89% of the time we out.