No judgement, but this was wild to read.
No, I fully understand because it sounds selfish and I look like an *******. But being close to 30 and still living with my parents and not being able to be an adult living on my own when I want to is depressing.
Has your father always treated your mother this way?
Nope. My mom was a strong woman until she caught a stroke few years back. Ever since then he mental and physical health went on a huge decline and my father took advantage of her being weak.
Why cant you leave again?
Am I missing something?
Can you not stop by and visit after you move out?
Can your Mother not visit you at your new spot?
My mom cant drive anymore and she needs someone to give her her meds at the proper time and also needs me to check her bloodwork. She always forgets her meds, which are keeping her alive pretty much.
man. cant lie my Parents are in town visiting, My Dad currently has Cance,r and reading your situation def choked me up some.
First off, I just Pray that everything works out in your favor and that Blessings, Peace, Health, and Happiness comes to you and your family.
The thought of my parents getting to that point where they are getting older and health is declining crosses my mind so much. I have coworkers who are dealing with similar situations as you OP and hearing them complain about it, which Im sure can be frustrating at times, but it just always rubs me the wrong way. My Parents did so much for me and still do to this day, and if they are ever in a situation where they will need my help I will be there for them.
Shout out to you OP for doing all that you have done. If I were you in that situation Im taking my Mom away from Pops. Either he leaves, or Me and Mom leave. I know you said the finances from her health would be rough on you, but see if you and Dad can come to an agreement to where yall can make it a collaborative effort. I know you said you want to focus on your life and I definitely respect that because youre not wrong at all, but Im just speaking for myself and I can confidently say Id push a lot of that to the side until things were in a stable position. I know thats easy for me to say since Im not personally in your shoes, but I just know for my Mom/Dad I would have no problem doing so. Hopefully the responses in this thread help you make the best decision to improve your situation and Im rooting for you as well as Praying for you and yours.
Thank you man. I really appreciate the words. Everyone's advice in this thread is helping me come to a decision and I can truly say I appreciate everyone's advice on here.