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I'm so sorry brother. Much love
Official NT dad thread: can the dads get love
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Read that story last night and my heart felt so heavy. Could not response and still don't know how to except my condolences. I now understand the saying no parent wants to bury their child. I truely feel for you man.
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Thank you to all of you..I will be coming back with updates. I just wanted to post this so all my fathers will take that 2nd look into things and never think it couldn't be me when seeing this crazy stuff on the news.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart hurts and I'll pray for you and your family.
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Just read the story man. Sorry for your lost
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This is hands down the worst I've ever felt while on this site
Feels got me and I couldn't read the rationalization or you trying to come to terms with it. This 19 yr old kid deserves to die... Today
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Im a father of 2 girls (4yr and 3yr) and your post made me cry, honestly.
Im so sorry for your loss bro. I agree with you 100%, no death sentence for that scumbag, let him rot and suffer in gen pop. Just now that your baby is in a far greater place where no harm will ever come to her again.
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NT Bros!!!!
My wife just told me yesterday she was pregnant with our #2!!!!
We haven't told anyone yet because we think she's a month into it but i can't keep it in anymore! We want to wait until after the first trimester before we officially tell people.
Both the pregnancy tests and blood test came out positive.
I'm so elated right now, but also so scared.
Can we handle two kids? What's the financial situation going to be like?
My daughter will be 4 in May, is the age difference going to be a problem?
Also, what's the adjustment from having 1 kid to 2?
Tell me we'll be good- my mind is racing right now......
My wife just told me yesterday she was pregnant with our #2!!!!
We haven't told anyone yet because we think she's a month into it but i can't keep it in anymore! We want to wait until after the first trimester before we officially tell people.
Both the pregnancy tests and blood test came out positive.
I'm so elated right now, but also so scared.
Can we handle two kids? What's the financial situation going to be like?
My daughter will be 4 in May, is the age difference going to be a problem?
Also, what's the adjustment from having 1 kid to 2?
Tell me we'll be good- my mind is racing right now......
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Congrats!!!
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You'll be good. Congrats.
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one is like none, two is like ten
biggest impact on the financial situation would be daycare if that's applicable...if they're the same gender you may be able to recycle outfits if you kept them...we have two girls but for the most part the seasons haven't lined up :\
age gap isn't too bad...just try to keep the older one involved
when the little one is born you should give the older one a present for being a good older sibling...tell them that their baby/brother didn't know that they already had a best friend before they were already born
my little one just turned 1 year old 2 weeks ago, older one is 3.5 years...i wanted to have them about two years apart in the hopes that they would have a good bond and be able to talk to each other about things that they may not feel comfortable talking about with me or my wife
one thing that was/is a struggle for us is not having the older one doing some things consistently that she should be doing by the time she reached the age she was when the little one was born...potty training, going to sleep in her bed and sleeping all night in her bed...the little one is better at sleeping in her own bed and through the night at this point |I
much love though, congrats!
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I have a son that's 2 years 8 months and a daughter that's 8 months.
I can say I skated with my son. He was so damn easy, which is why having a second one was a no brainer. She was the exact opposite.
I'm not trying to scare you away from having two kids though.
It was just tough for us because my son was coming into his terrible twos when we had our daughter. So it was kind of difficult to get him to do things that he normally would do without any bargaining.
With my second one we are doing a different approach. Fixing all the things that we did with our son that we wouldn't want to go through with my daughter. example: Like purée foods with my daughter is a nope. We started her on solids right away.
I can say I skated with my son. He was so damn easy, which is why having a second one was a no brainer. She was the exact opposite.
I'm not trying to scare you away from having two kids though.
It was just tough for us because my son was coming into his terrible twos when we had our daughter. So it was kind of difficult to get him to do things that he normally would do without any bargaining.
With my second one we are doing a different approach. Fixing all the things that we did with our son that we wouldn't want to go through with my daughter. example: Like purée foods with my daughter is a nope. We started her on solids right away.
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My son will be 3 in March, and my daughter will be 1 in April. My son was super easy as a baby. He throws his fits now but it's expected at this age. My daughter is crawling really good, and may be walking soon. The biggest thing is that they are entertaining each other now, so it makes it much easier for my wife and I.
We take our kids to daycare, so financially, it sucks. My wife and i have been blessed with having good careers so that we can afford it, but we also can't wait until they start going to school and my mother in law retires haha
Adjustment from one to two kids differs. I think early on when the baby is young and requires a lot of attention, it's man on man defense. The important thing is to make sure that both you and your wife trade off kids from time to time. Helps keep the balance with both kids getting individual attention from each parent. As the baby gets older, it typically gets easier.
Not sure about the others in here, but my wife and i were pretty strict on sticking to a routing with our son, and did the same with our daughter. Just doing the same thing every day so that they become accustomed to it. For us, it helped a ton. We have both of our kids on the same schedule. They eat at the same time, nap at the same time, and go to bed at the same time. Kids love that structure, and the sooner you can get them on it, the better.
We take our kids to daycare, so financially, it sucks. My wife and i have been blessed with having good careers so that we can afford it, but we also can't wait until they start going to school and my mother in law retires haha
Adjustment from one to two kids differs. I think early on when the baby is young and requires a lot of attention, it's man on man defense. The important thing is to make sure that both you and your wife trade off kids from time to time. Helps keep the balance with both kids getting individual attention from each parent. As the baby gets older, it typically gets easier.
Not sure about the others in here, but my wife and i were pretty strict on sticking to a routing with our son, and did the same with our daughter. Just doing the same thing every day so that they become accustomed to it. For us, it helped a ton. We have both of our kids on the same schedule. They eat at the same time, nap at the same time, and go to bed at the same time. Kids love that structure, and the sooner you can get them on it, the better.
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thanks guys!
repped each one of you....
repped each one of you....
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it's pretty rough for awhile, balancing both kids and adjusting
especially since the baby almost always needs to be held when an infant
i feel like our toddler got tougher to deal w/ at age 3 but is getting better at age 3.5
things get easier when the baby starts to sit up, crawl
she got good at walking within a week after her first birthday and that makes things easier...i always try to put it in my toddlers head how she'll love it when the baby reaches milestones like walking, talking...they're just be able to interact more w/ each other
probably the toughest time was about 6 months ago and i would always tell my wife to think about how much easier it should be a month down the road
especially since the baby almost always needs to be held when an infant
i feel like our toddler got tougher to deal w/ at age 3 but is getting better at age 3.5
things get easier when the baby starts to sit up, crawl
she got good at walking within a week after her first birthday and that makes things easier...i always try to put it in my toddlers head how she'll love it when the baby reaches milestones like walking, talking...they're just be able to interact more w/ each other
probably the toughest time was about 6 months ago and i would always tell my wife to think about how much easier it should be a month down the road
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Baby is such a cockblock. She aint on a schedule other than bout 2 and 4 naps from day care, but then she gets home and she be awake than a mug til about 1am. She can walk and climbs on stuff now so we can't just hook her in the swing and go get a nut right fast anymore. :x Been getting more into porn though because of it 
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^co-sleeping?
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Yea I got a King, she sleeps in between us
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That was us until a week and a half ago
My wife finally reached her wits end cause the baby was up every two hours
My wife doesn't deal well at all with babies crying but finally just let her cry in her crib to soothe herself to sleep
Past couple of nights she was able to put her in the crib without any crying to fall asleep
Now we're sleeping better, can have intimacy at night, can have a drink or watch a show together before bed, she's in a better mood during the day, the baby is better rested
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Yo, props to parents who enjoy co-sleeping but this right here is the reason for my sanity. When we first had our son we just did whatever was easiest, which led to alot of bad habits that we are still paying for, but once we had our second we were much more strict and stuck to a routine that includes both kids being in their own beds by 7:30pm every night. The only time we have tried co-sleeping is when we've been in a hotel that only had 1 bed. Worst night sleep ever! I definitely look forward to 7:30 when we put the kids to sleep and have a few hours of adult time to do whatever it is that we feel like doing.
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Congrats!
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the only thing i don't like about my son sleeping in the bed with us are the kung fu kicks to the face and kidneys 
other than that, he's a super heavy sleeper at night and pretty much nothing can wake him up
other than that, he's a super heavy sleeper at night and pretty much nothing can wake him up
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the only thing i don't like about my son sleeping in the bed with us are the kung fu kicks to the face and kidneys
other than that, he's a super heavy sleeper at night and pretty much nothing can wake him up
Come on man, you really complaining about that? You know you like it.
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We sleep wit our one yr old ( in between my wife and the bed guard). Son is the og master kock blocker level 10. Blue balls distributor extraordinaire.
