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Ironic, isn't it? Thats why I completely stopped trying to relate to people's stories. I just nod and give supporting statements.
the thread about nothing...
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darthska
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Wordle 979 3/6
Forgot yesterday.
Forgot yesterday.
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I'm in FULL agreement with your observation on conversations. I know I'm guilty big time of "trying to relate".
And my wife swears I can't listen without offering a solution.
So I ask, what is the appropriate way to engage in convo? "Man, that's crazy" only works for so long.
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I read a book this week. Didn't think I had it in me.
What book?
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Empathy. Instead of offering a solution, agree with the sentiment. “Yea that sounds frustrating…”, “I know, right?” Ect.
Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep. It also taught me what “inspired by” means vs “adaptation”.
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I hear ya. Imo, that empathy angle falls into the "Man, thats crazy" response category. Again, it only works for so long.
But at the same time, I get the idea. Most of the time when people are talking, or more specifically venting, they just want a sounding board. Someone to listen.
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I almost couldn’t finish that book. Great ideas, rough writing. Good on you for getting through!
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darthska
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You're right at the precipice of what I think makes a reaaaallllly great friend, and that is quickly learn if someone who is confiding in you is just wanting to vent or looking for help in problem solving. And sometimes what started off with one intention may gravitate to another.
But to answer your initial question to me, we use the phrase "Man that's crazy" as a much shorter version of I'm not reading all that but I'm happy for you or sorry that happened.
I've found that one of the common difficulties that people have with how to respond is in thinking that they need to respond at all. Sometimes the most helpful tactic in being a helpful listener is to just... listen. "If i'm not problem solving and I'm not here to relate, I don't really know what else to say."
A wise man once said nothing.
(Not saying you should start sitting there mute. Just saying it's one of many helpful strategies.
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That was annoying. Nearly used that as my third guess but I thought there were other more likely words.
That was annoying. Nearly used that as my third guess but I thought there were other more likely words.
darthska
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That was annoying. Nearly used that as my third guess but I thought there were other more likely words.
II HHAATTEE TTHHIISS GGAAMMEE!!
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Ken Adams!
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this is the "Power Slap" of fast food
How does this look disgusting and delicious at the same time? Not a KFC near me that can even consistently provide regular chicken in less than 25 minutes, so I know whatever they whip up is gonna be SUPER trash anyway.
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Why the **** was it called the Steve Harvey Show
But the main character was Steve Hightower
But the main character was Steve Hightower
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I love this episode. possibly the best episode for me.Ken Adams!
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Can you put Italian pork sausage in spaghetti? I’m thinking about going to Target there’s a sale on it $2.99
calibeebee
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This is literally the only way I’ve made spaghetti in the last 20 years.
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r u serious? I usually only use ground beef
calibeebee
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Dead serious. Tried Italian sausage when I was 18 or 19. Now ground beef tastes disgusting to me in spaghetti.
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I use ground beef in the sauce and Italian sausage for the meatballs
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Meat talk ..
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Dude I work with his brother in law owns a blue ribbon farm what ever that means. They raise and butcher and pack their own meat He's trying to get me to buy a quarter cow, and a quarter pig for $450. Says it comes with all your major cuts (ribs,roasts, ny strips, ham steaks, bacon ect ect) for both animals and any specific ones you request. I'm not sure how much of each you get with a quarter of the animal but doesn't seem like that's all that cheap. I haven't really looked into it it's worth it or not, seems more expensive though but I guess the quality MIGHT be better, but Ive been eating steroid injected store bought all my life I might not like that all natural 
Plus it's just me and my daughter I'd have to get a deep freezer. So I'm passing. He's always selling out the back of his trunk making bank. I'm not buying trunk meat tho that's crazy.
Plus it's just me and my daughter I'd have to get a deep freezer. So I'm passing. He's always selling out the back of his trunk making bank. I'm not buying trunk meat tho that's crazy.
mplsdunk
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This your first job with farm boys? 
I never buy a quarter because I don’t have space for it. I get eggs and venison off them though.
I never buy a quarter because I don’t have space for it. I get eggs and venison off them though.
