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I've observed that people LISTEN for 2 reasons:You know what really grinds my gears? When people put more energy into appearing to listen instead of actually listening. They so busy trying to repeat back to you, they dont even hear what you're saying.
Ironic, isn't it? Thats why I completely stopped trying to relate to people's stories. I just nod and give supporting statements.I've observed that people listen for 2 reasons:
1. To relate. "Oh I know what you mean, totally. I went through that same exact thing... well, not like exact but like pretty close... I mean closeish... anyways here's what happened to me..."
And now they've hijacked the convo.
2. To fix. (self-explanatory)
Both are extremely frustrating to me because in another observation of mine, I've observed that people share for mostly 1 reason:
1. To be heard.
I'm in FULL agreement with your observation on conversations. I know I'm guilty big time of "trying to relate".I've observed that people listen for 2 reasons:
1. To relate. "Oh I know what you mean, totally. I went through that same exact thing... well, not like exact but like pretty close... I mean closeish... anyways here's what happened to me..."
And now they've hijacked the convo.
2. To fix. (self-explanatory)
Both are extremely frustrating to me because in another observation of mine, I've observed that people share for mostly 1 reason:
1. To be heard.
I read a book this week. Didn't think I had it in me.
Empathy. Instead of offering a solution, agree with the sentiment. “Yea that sounds frustrating…”, “I know, right?” Ect.I'm in FULL agreement with your observation on conversations. I know I'm guilty big time of "trying to relate".
And my wife swears I can't listen without offering a solution.
So I ask, what is the appropriate way to engage in convo? "Man, that's crazy" only works for so long.
Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep. It also taught me what “inspired by” means vs “adaptation”.What book?
I hear ya. Imo, that empathy angle falls into the "Man, thats crazy" response category. Again, it only works for so long.Empathy. Instead of offering a solution, agree with the sentiment. “Yea that sounds frustrating…”, “I know, right?” Ect.
I almost couldn’t finish that book. Great ideas, rough writing. Good on you for getting through!Empathy. Instead of offering a solution, agree with the sentiment. “Yea that sounds frustrating…”, “I know, right?” Ect.
Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep. It also taught me what “inspired by” means vs “adaptation”.
You're right at the precipice of what I think makes a reaaaallllly great friend, and that is quickly learn if someone who is confiding in you is just wanting to vent or looking for help in problem solving. And sometimes what started off with one intention may gravitate to another.I hear ya. Imo, that empathy angle falls into the "Man, thats crazy" response category. Again, it only works for so long.
But at the same time, I get the idea. Most of the time when people are talking, or more specifically venting, they just want a sounding board. Someone to listen.
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That was annoying. Nearly used that as my third guess but I thought there were other more likely words.
this is the "Power Slap" of fast food
I love this episode. possibly the best episode for me.Ken Adams!
Can you put Italian pork sausage in spaghetti? I’m thinking about going to Target there’s a sale on it $2.99
This is literally the only way I’ve made spaghetti in the last 20 years.
r u serious? I usually only use ground beef