the thread about nothing...

People in my family, teachers, and my psychologist have always said I am generally very warm, friendly and caring (how most people describe me) but nonetheless have barely any empathy. Not that in the sense that I can’t identify emotions but I have a very very limited emotional response. Basically a flatline. It’s literally impossible to make me mad. I don’t know what being angry feels like, I only vagualy recall it from my very early childhood before I developed the stunted empathy as a defense mechanism to certain home situation incidents from my youth.

When I got a call that my dad was in a coma due to lethal alcohol alcohol poisoning, I went to the hospital and I asked the docs to not try to wake him and immediately requested and signed a ‘do not reanimate’ document. Felt practically nothing. After signing I left and he died the next morning.

So I can handle Amy just fine. I mentally care about her but don’t really feel any emotional response when she’s talking to me about feeling suicidal. She knows that about me so I was able to pretty easily reassure her that she never has to worry about ‘making me sink’ as well.

My stunted empathy is a bit of a gift and a curse. On the one hand it helps me stay positive and allows me to deal with my illness and bad medical news much easier. On the other hand, I always feel weird and a bit uncomfortable when mentally I know something tragic should trigger an emotional response but simply nothing happens.
With this, I can now understand better why you keep talking to her, because not all of us are able to do it without being impacted
 
Belgium Belgium about "coldness", that reminds me when the police called me back in 2008 asking if I was his son, I said yes, the police officer at the phone was uncomfortable so I simply asked her : he's dead, right ? And yes, he was, and at first I tried to do what I have to do solo in order to avoid my family to suffer, but it was impossible, they had to know, and they probalby expressed resentment if I didn't tell them...

EDIT : Some resilience I guess / mine was alcoholic too
EDIT 2 : Love this song



EDIT 3 : Forgot to mention at least 1 of my 2 sisters tried suicide, but it's something nobody really told me, and this same sister saw a man suiciding after asking her the time for the train...
And that as she was a child, I think my 2nd sister tried suicide too, at least she has lived in the streets for some times and have been on heroin, she has been with an alcoholic which was a nice guy when he didn't drink, because when he did, he beat her, and my grandfather used to beat my grandmother, but once my uncle saw this when he was a child, and as my grandmother saw her child saw this she found the courage to leave my grandfather...

Not to mention a burglary my older sister discovered as she went back from school, and a trial burglary she was the victim later as a young adult, but the luck is she succeed to frighten the intruder

Also learned about some rape trial on my other sister...

In fact I don't know all, and they always try to protect me not telling me everything

So I always felt lucky, in comparison. It's really a luck in this world to be a man, trust me...

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BONUS





"I really need to get up out of this hole man
I'm really really sinking deep down in this hole
I need to get out of this ####, I'm serious, like—
I really wanna go into the light, man
I know y'all love me to be sad and ####
But this got to be my last sad song
I mean, I gotta get out of this ####
Before I lose myself in it "

 
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Pusher I and II were great but the 2 was really funny by moments, Tony a great loser character, not to mention Kurt :lol:




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Also learned about some rape trial on my other sister...
In fact I don't know all, and they always try to protect me not telling me everything

Sounds like you had a very hard upbringing, sorry to hear about that. Looks like you came out ok though.

I think for the most part it’s very unfortunate that in such scenarios, the person suffering is often afraid to talk about it out of an overblown fear that they may drag the person’s mood/mental health down with them.

I knew that Amy really feared that so the first thing I did when she told me about the suicidal thoughts was to commend her bravery and reassure her that she will never have to worry about ‘dragging me down.’

I’m kinda surprised she picked me as the first and only person to open up to about suicidal thoughts. We’ve only known eachother since late January of this year.
 
Sounds like you had a very hard upbringing, sorry to hear about that. Looks like you came out ok though.

I think for the most part it’s very unfortunate that in such scenarios, the person suffering is often afraid to talk about it out of an overblown fear that they may drag the person’s mood/mental health down with them.

I knew that Amy really feared that so the first thing I did when she told me about the suicidal thoughts was to commend her bravery and reassure her that she will never have to worry about ‘dragging me down.’

I’m kinda surprised she picked me as the first and only person to open up to about suicidal thoughts. We’ve only known eachother since late January of this year.
Thanks, that's also why I love women and the woman in general, I've been a witness of their difficulties, and of their strength to go trough this

Yes, that's true, they don't want to make people suffer from their own suffering, and they might also be ashamed of being seen as "victims"

She probably felt you can handle this anyway, you know each one only from january but you 2 really seem to be connected to each one, and as she told you she was a lesbian it also implies she wouldn't fear you to take advantage from the situation, what a straight woman might fear as some men would want to benefit for having been here while they were confronting to difficulties
 
Life feeling uneasy right now and has for a few weeks/months. Thought it was need ti move. Finding a place was stressful. But we found a place, got the move done. And still felt uneasy. Thought it was just being in a new place...need to get settled in etc. Well, we're pretty settled in now. First week of work at the new place under my belt and I'm still not feeling too right. Hope this **** bounces soon.
 
Also need to curb this heavy drinking I've been doing recently. Not too concerned about that though as my drinking is always in cycles. Heavy for a month or 3 then barely 1 drink per week for the next 6 months.

But I been hitting it hard for most of the year. Just beer, but still.
 
Lastly, the windows in my new place are the smoothest operating windows I've ever had in my adult life. Hell, may even be my entire life. Mad impressive.
 
Life feeling uneasy right now and has for a few weeks/months. Thought it was need ti move. Finding a place was stressful. But we found a place, got the move done. And still felt uneasy. Thought it was just being in a new place...need to get settled in etc. Well, we're pretty settled in now. First week of work at the new place under my belt and I'm still not feeling too right. Hope this **** bounces soon.
Remember there's nothing wrong, abnormal or weak about seeing a psychologist.
 
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