Why Men Need to Cheat

[daytona 5000]

Men are not built to be monogamous, just look in nature. There's a reason why a female stops producing eggs, but a male can keep producing sperm until he dies.

 

[so nyuh shi dae]

It's nature vs. a social construct.

 

[witnessmycalm21]

Always need a Ace in the hole

 

[tj detweiler]

 

[ksteezy]

Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

 

[thedudemt]

Originally Posted by chokeonsmoke

Some men take pride in the fact that they resist and control that urge ,it leads to new levels of strength and nirvana

its hard to find couples that are on that level

 

[651akathepaul]

Originally Posted by ksteezy

there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

 

[galvelocity]

Originally Posted by ksteezy

Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

This. The doctor says that it's the same as knowing we shouldn't eat a snickers bar but doing it anyway, feeling guilty, and then continuing to do it. News flash: The people who do that are called the overweight population. People who are devoted to their health and body are able to resist doing that if they want to. If you want to be healthy badly enough, you won't eat that stuff. If you want to make your relationship work because you love your SO enough, you won't have sex with other people. That simple. You could also argue that it's "in our nature" to murder other people who compete for our resources. Most good people don't do that because we're not goddamn Neanderthals. Humans function at a higher cognitive level than other animals, that's why we're held to higher standards. 
Additionally, 99% of you dudes advocating this would change your tune real fast if your female SO's gave you this same spiel when explaining why they want to jump other dudes. 

It makes me really happy to read some of the guys saying they don't believe in cheating. That 78% figure had me like 

. It's sad, but snagging a guy who won't cheat is a rarity these days. I'm really lucky to have mine 

 

[651akathepaul]

Higher state of evolution.

 

[shoeking2101]

Originally Posted by ksteezy

Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

But see, that's the thing, are you fapping to the woman that your committed to all the time or to someone else? IMO flapping to someone else while in a relationship with someone else is cheating. I know for me, if I have a girlfriend and she's masturbating to another male, would that be cheating to you? I know that would be cheating to me...

 

[chokeonsmoke]

Originally Posted by ksteezy

Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

I agree

Originally Posted by 651akathePaul

Higher state of evolution.

Yes sir

 

[ksteezy]

Originally Posted by shoeking2101

Originally Posted by ksteezy

Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

But see, that's the thing, are you fapping to the woman that your committed to all the time or to someone else? IMO flapping to someone else while in a relationship with someone else is cheating. I know for me, if I have a girlfriend and she's masturbating to another male, would that be cheating to you? I know that would be cheating to me...

Lol....you kidding me?...we have all fapped to porn, how is that cheating??...we all have morally wrong thoughts, thinking of how badly you'd want to put 5 bullets into someone does not make you a psychotic murdered....i don't know about y'all but fapping to me is God's funny way of giving us a relief valve.

 

[hendrix watermelon]

Originally Posted by SuprDuperFly

But it is indeed selfish for men to want sex with others but not to want their partners to do the same. This however is not just a "man" thing. Women also cheat; they also lie about it; and they also want to be able to cheat without their partners doing the same. Monogamy is a problem for all sexes; it builds in an ownership script regardless of gender.

^ That's where I come full circle after reading this an comparing it to my relationship, don't want anyone smashing your girl? Keep it in your pants.Asking for the open ended relationship will prompt you girl to ask if she can have the same benefits, cue Wayne "no" .gif. So I rather it just be me and her.

Was about to post something like this.
We will brag to our friends when we get away with cheating, but once we find out our girl is cheating on us we're quick to jump the gun and ask "why?'

or the favourite "shes a damn harlot"

Like seriously, we love to do it, but we hate it when it's done to us. So think wisely and make sure you're able to stay emotionally stable if you find out yours is cheating on you too

 

[galvelocity]

ksteezy wrote:


Lol....you kidding me?...we have all fapped to porn, how is that cheating??...we all have morally wrong thoughts, thinking of how badly you'd want to put 5 bullets into someone does not make you a psychotic murdered....i don't know about y'all but fapping to me is God's funny way of giving us a relief valve.

Agreed. I apply the same policy to my bf being at strip clubs. Don't matter where you get your appetite, so long as you eat at home

 

[whywesteppin]

Thank you, Galvelocity.

This Dr. Anderson sounds like an idiot. He sounds hurt that his wife cheated on him or left him because he cheated on her. Either way, he contradicts himself and doesn't understand a lot of what goes into a relationship.

 

[chokeonsmoke]

Originally Posted by shoeking2101

Originally Posted by ksteezy

Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.

But see, that's the thing, are you fapping to the woman that your committed to all the time or to someone else? IMO flapping to someone else while in a relationship with someone else is cheating. I know for me, if I have a girlfriend and she's masturbating to another male, would that be cheating to you? I know that would be cheating to me...

People outgrow these things with experience,Also most problems start in our head , Don't let anything fool you, there's more influences than you know that leads you to those thoughs

 

[speakup23]

Another thing............. I find nothing wrong with people (men) subscribing to the "men aren't meant to be monogamous" idea. Ok fair enough. What I don't understand and can't condone are dudes who GET INTO A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, cheat and then use the "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship".

If you are about that "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship" life, then why get into one in the first place?

 

[calibeebee]

"The ability to have thoughts and not act on them— It’s what seperates man from beast."

 

[ksteezy]

Originally Posted by SpeakUp23

Another thing............. I find nothing wrong with people (men) subscribing to the "men aren't meant to be monogamous" idea. Ok fair enough. What I don't understand and can't condone are dudes who GET INTO A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, cheat and then use the "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship".

If you are about that "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship" life, then why get into one in the first place?

Nothing more than a last resort cop out in order to not man up to the harm you've just caused.

 

[qnumber25]

good read

 

[blakep267]

As some people already said, what happened to controlling your urges. I wanna drive 100 mph all the time, punch people that annoy me, sleep all day, and just eat whatever I want. But I knwo if I did all of those things, the results wouldnt be good. So I, and most other people control those urges to do whatever pops into your head. So why is it ok to cheat?

 

[kickstart]

Originally Posted by shoeking2101

Had a talk with a friend of mine the other day concerning this

Could it be that the only reason why a man is supposed to be with just one woman something that society has placed as standard? I mean, who says exactly men are supposed to be with just one woman? Men cheat, and if Men don't cheat they are thinking of doing it, which imo is just like cheating, only worse. I've always said that if a man is in a relationship with a woman and has sex with another girl outside the relationship, that's not necessarily cheating. Now, if he goes and gets an entirely different girlfriend while in a relationship with someone else, then that to me is considered cheating. With most men, physical attraction is ever changing, and ever present. As the article stated, due to pornography, and other societal happenings in western culture, it's almost incriminating to ask a man to commit physically to just one woman.

Now, is the reverse true? Do we say that asking woman to be physically committed to a man is unfair as well? I for one believe that women are FAR more able to and even MUCH MORE LIKELY to commit physically to one man. In fact, its probable that they would even stick with just one mate physically even if given the opportunity to step out with another male. It should be noted that since the turn of the century though, women's philosophy on sex is changing fast and in a few years, women may be just as causal with sex as men.

It also should be noted that if you go "I Do" and marry someone, then to me, under no circumstance is it okay to cheat on your counterpart in any way, shape, or form.

What makes that latter part of your post true? Bypassing heterosexuality, when you look at a small group of lesbians they exhibit the same qualities exhibited by "men". And I'm not talking about the butch ones. The limitations of life were set by man, choose your batltles but this is a no brainer. Don't settle if you cant stay true to one.

 

[stillin729]

it's hilarious all the cheaters in here trying to justify their actions; why are you even in a relationship?  because you are insecure and need to be with someone...exactly my point

 

[BranchLifestyle]

A woman wrote this article...how does it have any validity?

 

[veintisiete]

Originally Posted by ksteezy

Originally Posted by SpeakUp23

Another thing............. I find nothing wrong with people (men) subscribing to the "men aren't meant to be monogamous" idea. Ok fair enough. What I don't understand and can't condone are dudes who GET INTO A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, cheat and then use the "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship".

If you are about that "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship" life, then why get into one in the first place?

Nothing more than a last resort cop out in order to not man up to the harm you've just caused.

basically.

cant have your cake and eat it too, fellas.