Females of NT, do you mind being approached in a non-social setting?

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...as in... just walking down the street? Bus? Train? While you're ordering something at a fast food joint?

Ever since Twitter blew up i've been peeping this self-righteous type attitude from 70% of the females that use it. I'm in NYC so a lot of it is "Ugh... how bout you ditch those Paco jeans before you holla at me on the street" or "I can't believe this dude came up to me in the subway with some nasty braids thinkin' he was gonna bag". And i've never seen one of them come out clean like "Gave a cute guy my number today, hope he calls hehe 
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All the females i've talked to have said they're receptive to guys picking them up "off the street", but none of them have actually given any dudes a chance (or at least they haven't told me). So what is it? Do you prefer "knowing" a dude before you take the next step in to trying to see if they're dating material? Do you prefer meeting them in social settings (clubs, lounges) that cater to this sort of interaction? Because it seems that most of you are afraid of being labeled as a ho or "easy" if you give some dude on the street your number, like "damn I should have made it harder for him" 
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There has to be some type of agenda behind it, because I highly doubt that every dude that has ever approached in a non-social setting has been ugly
 
...as in... just walking down the street? Bus? Train? While you're ordering something at a fast food joint?

Ever since Twitter blew up i've been peeping this self-righteous type attitude from 70% of the females that use it. I'm in NYC so a lot of it is "Ugh... how bout you ditch those Paco jeans before you holla at me on the street" or "I can't believe this dude came up to me in the subway with some nasty braids thinkin' he was gonna bag". And i've never seen one of them come out clean like "Gave a cute guy my number today, hope he calls hehe 
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". 

All the females i've talked to have said they're receptive to guys picking them up "off the street", but none of them have actually given any dudes a chance (or at least they haven't told me). So what is it? Do you prefer "knowing" a dude before you take the next step in to trying to see if they're dating material? Do you prefer meeting them in social settings (clubs, lounges) that cater to this sort of interaction? Because it seems that most of you are afraid of being labeled as a ho or "easy" if you give some dude on the street your number, like "damn I should have made it harder for him" 
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There has to be some type of agenda behind it, because I highly doubt that every dude that has ever approached in a non-social setting has been ugly
 
Man I'm 23 and live in Cali and definitely don't get at no hoodrats or nothin, I try to stick to females with some class or some kind of sophistication. But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach. I try to stick to the one's who at least give me some kind of hint like a wink, smile or catch them looking a few times. Other than that I don't care how bad a female is or how much she's my type if she don't throw a hint I'm not about to humiliate myself in the middle of a college quad or somethin. Something has to trigger the initial conversation that both parties are interested and the conversation has to be casual you can't make it immediate that your intentions are to get her number. I swear these so called "social networking websites" are making people a lot more anti-social when it comes to the real world. Because I am in no means scared to approach a female randomly but every time I do these girls give me the craziest look, like "why are you approaching me? Do I know you? umm before you even ask me....No" all in one facial expression
 
Man I'm 23 and live in Cali and definitely don't get at no hoodrats or nothin, I try to stick to females with some class or some kind of sophistication. But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach. I try to stick to the one's who at least give me some kind of hint like a wink, smile or catch them looking a few times. Other than that I don't care how bad a female is or how much she's my type if she don't throw a hint I'm not about to humiliate myself in the middle of a college quad or somethin. Something has to trigger the initial conversation that both parties are interested and the conversation has to be casual you can't make it immediate that your intentions are to get her number. I swear these so called "social networking websites" are making people a lot more anti-social when it comes to the real world. Because I am in no means scared to approach a female randomly but every time I do these girls give me the craziest look, like "why are you approaching me? Do I know you? umm before you even ask me....No" all in one facial expression
 
I see what you're saying. Some females just chase the same guy that other females are chasing. Whereas a guy will chase whatever he sees. I highly doubt the guy in Paco jeans is ugly too, but females get hit on all the time. So I'm guessing they're tired of less desireable guys trying to holla. Or at least what they think is the less desireable guy.

And some girls will give their numbers no matter what. Most do it to get you the hell out of their face.
 
I see what you're saying. Some females just chase the same guy that other females are chasing. Whereas a guy will chase whatever he sees. I highly doubt the guy in Paco jeans is ugly too, but females get hit on all the time. So I'm guessing they're tired of less desireable guys trying to holla. Or at least what they think is the less desireable guy.

And some girls will give their numbers no matter what. Most do it to get you the hell out of their face.
 
Good post. I want to know as well because I'm the kind of guy that would try and talk to a girl on the bus/train, maybe walking on the street, or something like that. While I haven't tried it too many times to be honest my train of thought in doing this is "hey, I got one life to live and you have to take chances". However for me to do a stunt like this it either takes the girl to be looking real good and look to be my type or she's given me some sort of inviting eye contact.

I just recently asked a female classmate of mine what she thought of me doing this and she told me that while some girls like the idea of being approached on the go, that it takes them out of their comfort zone being able to build some rapport with the dude and play a hard to get with them first and then start dating them.
 
Good post. I want to know as well because I'm the kind of guy that would try and talk to a girl on the bus/train, maybe walking on the street, or something like that. While I haven't tried it too many times to be honest my train of thought in doing this is "hey, I got one life to live and you have to take chances". However for me to do a stunt like this it either takes the girl to be looking real good and look to be my type or she's given me some sort of inviting eye contact.

I just recently asked a female classmate of mine what she thought of me doing this and she told me that while some girls like the idea of being approached on the go, that it takes them out of their comfort zone being able to build some rapport with the dude and play a hard to get with them first and then start dating them.
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

Man I'm 23 and live in Cali and definitely don't get at no hoodrats or nothin, I try to stick to females with some class or some kind of sophistication. But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach. I try to stick to the one's who at least give me some kind of hint like a wink, smile or catch them looking a few times. Other than that I don't care how bad a female is or how much she's my type if she don't throw a hint I'm not about to humiliate myself in the middle of a college quad or somethin. Something has to trigger the initial conversation that both parties are interested and the conversation has to be casual you can't make it immediate that your intentions are to get her number. I swear these so called "social networking websites" are making people a lot more anti-social when it comes to the real world. Because I am in no means scared to approach a female randomly but every time I do these girls give me the craziest look, like "why are you approaching me? Do I know you? umm before you even ask me....No" all in one facial expression
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My man. You have just articulated everything that has been in my mind concerning this subject.
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Originally Posted by FlyJr22

Man I'm 23 and live in Cali and definitely don't get at no hoodrats or nothin, I try to stick to females with some class or some kind of sophistication. But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach. I try to stick to the one's who at least give me some kind of hint like a wink, smile or catch them looking a few times. Other than that I don't care how bad a female is or how much she's my type if she don't throw a hint I'm not about to humiliate myself in the middle of a college quad or somethin. Something has to trigger the initial conversation that both parties are interested and the conversation has to be casual you can't make it immediate that your intentions are to get her number. I swear these so called "social networking websites" are making people a lot more anti-social when it comes to the real world. Because I am in no means scared to approach a female randomly but every time I do these girls give me the craziest look, like "why are you approaching me? Do I know you? umm before you even ask me....No" all in one facial expression
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My man. You have just articulated everything that has been in my mind concerning this subject.
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 Thank you. 
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Yea Bach, we are men, trust we are going to encounter the same experiences when it comes to women, especially us of intelligence who peep the game. I'll tell you another thing too, even though I'm half black and can appreciate a black woman I love all races and don't discriminate (I live in the bay area, very diverse if you're not aware) but I swear I know a lot of these woman would love to date a black dude and have all these pics of star celebrity nigros on their computers/webpages whatever but when it comes to actually being approached by one or really talking to one, they get intimidated. My friend's sister who is black who has friends who aren't even confirmed this. She said they talk about and admire black men on television but when it comes down to actually messin with one they scary. I think it's the pre-conceived misconceptions I get from dressing urban (take your choice of NT brands and my clothes actually fit). I don't know maybe its cuz I dress urban but I love girls from like the Almaden area or Los Gatos (Bay area's Laguna beach type areas) I think the girls I'm attracted to don't necessarily translate to my style of dress, but at the same time if you looked at my resume and seen how my takedowns look like they all look different and are from different racial backgrounds....hell I need to stop complaining cuz I actually get bunz, its just I'm always tryina raise the bar
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sometimes too much for my pay rate
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Gotta step my funds up and the boundaries are limitless
 
Yea Bach, we are men, trust we are going to encounter the same experiences when it comes to women, especially us of intelligence who peep the game. I'll tell you another thing too, even though I'm half black and can appreciate a black woman I love all races and don't discriminate (I live in the bay area, very diverse if you're not aware) but I swear I know a lot of these woman would love to date a black dude and have all these pics of star celebrity nigros on their computers/webpages whatever but when it comes to actually being approached by one or really talking to one, they get intimidated. My friend's sister who is black who has friends who aren't even confirmed this. She said they talk about and admire black men on television but when it comes down to actually messin with one they scary. I think it's the pre-conceived misconceptions I get from dressing urban (take your choice of NT brands and my clothes actually fit). I don't know maybe its cuz I dress urban but I love girls from like the Almaden area or Los Gatos (Bay area's Laguna beach type areas) I think the girls I'm attracted to don't necessarily translate to my style of dress, but at the same time if you looked at my resume and seen how my takedowns look like they all look different and are from different racial backgrounds....hell I need to stop complaining cuz I actually get bunz, its just I'm always tryina raise the bar
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sometimes too much for my pay rate
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Gotta step my funds up and the boundaries are limitless
 
i didn't know giving your number out on the street made you a ho...i've never heard anyone say that...

but of course most people won't talk about who they DID give their number too...they don't even now him yet or have anything invested in him so there's nothing to talk about...

i don't know any girl who is really bothered by it but of course you gotta be selective so if she didn't like his jeans or shoes she's not gonna give him the time of day...you cna't hand it over to eveyone who asks...
 
i didn't know giving your number out on the street made you a ho...i've never heard anyone say that...

but of course most people won't talk about who they DID give their number too...they don't even now him yet or have anything invested in him so there's nothing to talk about...

i don't know any girl who is really bothered by it but of course you gotta be selective so if she didn't like his jeans or shoes she's not gonna give him the time of day...you cna't hand it over to eveyone who asks...
 
Originally Posted by mytmouse76

i didn't know giving your number out on the street made you a ho...i've never heard anyone say that...

but of course most people won't talk about who they DID give their number too...they don't even now him yet or have anything invested in him so there's nothing to talk about...

i don't know any girl who is really bothered by it but of course you gotta be selective so if she didn't like his jeans or shoes she's not gonna give him the time of day...you cna't hand it over to eveyone who asks...
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I'm just curious, how many times have you done this? I would think you're in your early 20's, but I highly doubt you've given your number out in these types of situations more than 10 times. So is it just that most of these dudes are unattractive? 

I want to believe you, but I think its more the mindset that you (females) don't want to be another girl that some dude "bagged". Like somehow it psychologically is better if he's spent more time with you before he asks for it, because then you can say "Well at least I didn't give it up easy like those other females he probably talked to".

Its similar to a lot of females' mindset on sex. Like making dude wait an exorbitant amount of time makes you "not easy".
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.
 
Originally Posted by mytmouse76

i didn't know giving your number out on the street made you a ho...i've never heard anyone say that...

but of course most people won't talk about who they DID give their number too...they don't even now him yet or have anything invested in him so there's nothing to talk about...

i don't know any girl who is really bothered by it but of course you gotta be selective so if she didn't like his jeans or shoes she's not gonna give him the time of day...you cna't hand it over to eveyone who asks...
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I'm just curious, how many times have you done this? I would think you're in your early 20's, but I highly doubt you've given your number out in these types of situations more than 10 times. So is it just that most of these dudes are unattractive? 

I want to believe you, but I think its more the mindset that you (females) don't want to be another girl that some dude "bagged". Like somehow it psychologically is better if he's spent more time with you before he asks for it, because then you can say "Well at least I didn't give it up easy like those other females he probably talked to".

Its similar to a lot of females' mindset on sex. Like making dude wait an exorbitant amount of time makes you "not easy".
smh.gif


.
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach.
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False.
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach.
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False.
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

 But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach.
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thats...not true
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

 But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach.
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thats...not true
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

Man I'm 23 and live in Cali and definitely don't get at no hoodrats or nothin, I try to stick to females with some class or some kind of sophistication. But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach. I try to stick to the one's who at least give me some kind of hint like a wink, smile or catch them looking a few times. Other than that I don't care how bad a female is or how much she's my type if she don't throw a hint I'm not about to humiliate myself in the middle of a college quad or somethin. Something has to trigger the initial conversation that both parties are interested and the conversation has to be casual you can't make it immediate that your intentions are to get her number. I swear these so called "social networking websites" are making people a lot more anti-social when it comes to the real world. Because I am in no means scared to approach a female randomly but every time I do these girls give me the craziest look, like "why are you approaching me? Do I know you? umm before you even ask me....No" all in one facial expression
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yep
 
Originally Posted by FlyJr22

Man I'm 23 and live in Cali and definitely don't get at no hoodrats or nothin, I try to stick to females with some class or some kind of sophistication. But if you're not in a social setting or your car doesn't speak for you (some kind of foreign whip) you're not gonna pull a girl who you completely don't know and try to approach. I try to stick to the one's who at least give me some kind of hint like a wink, smile or catch them looking a few times. Other than that I don't care how bad a female is or how much she's my type if she don't throw a hint I'm not about to humiliate myself in the middle of a college quad or somethin. Something has to trigger the initial conversation that both parties are interested and the conversation has to be casual you can't make it immediate that your intentions are to get her number. I swear these so called "social networking websites" are making people a lot more anti-social when it comes to the real world. Because I am in no means scared to approach a female randomly but every time I do these girls give me the craziest look, like "why are you approaching me? Do I know you? umm before you even ask me....No" all in one facial expression
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yep
 
Originally Posted by TheBachellor

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

i didn't know giving your number out on the street made you a ho...i've never heard anyone say that...

but of course most people won't talk about who they DID give their number too...they don't even now him yet or have anything invested in him so there's nothing to talk about...

i don't know any girl who is really bothered by it but of course you gotta be selective so if she didn't like his jeans or shoes she's not gonna give him the time of day...you cna't hand it over to eveyone who asks...
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I'm just curious, how many times have you done this? I would think you're in your early 20's, but I highly doubt you've given your number out in these types of situations more than 10 times. So is it just that most of these dudes are unattractive? 

I want to believe you, but I think its more the mindset that you (females) don't want to be another girl that some dude "bagged". Like somehow it psychologically is better if he's spent more time with you before he asks for it, because then you can say "Well at least I didn't give it up easy like those other females he probably talked to".

Its similar to a lot of females' mindset on sex. Like making dude wait an exorbitant amount of time makes you "not easy".
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how are you gonna tell me how many times i've given my number out in any situation? i can't give an exact number but its more than 10 times...of course i've met guys through other people but i've also met strangers too...like i said it happens all the time but you can't give your number out to everyone who asks...you can say no for whatever reason you choose...it could be she doesn't want to be bothered at the time...he's unattractive...he has on a blue shirt and she hates blue...and i don't know any girl who doesn't want to be bagged...thats usaually how it goes...guy bags girl and they go from there...

you really sound like you don't know what youre talking about...i'm telling you how it is and you're telling me what you think females think...

of course there are those that dont like to be approached by strangers...if anything i'd have to guess its even
 
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